It hurt

LegacyUser

Hi just a quick question been going with a girl for about 4 months and well we had sex for first time last night. Was my first time and well i never usually pull back foreskin fully when masturbating because its a little sensitive. So we had sex without a condom she went on the pill and well the minute it went in foreskin went back further then ever before and felt a little uncomfortable. Was not that painful but was a little worried and think it kinda affected the sex, i was concentratin on not hurting myself too much and stopped me from relaxing and enjoying it as much as i should have been. Just wondering would this be just because was first time will this get better?

Also after finished was really sore trying to get the foreskin back up the way i usually have it and was painful touching it at all. Should i be worried about this or again will i get used to it after we do it more often.

Lucy Lu

I am sure male posters will be better able to advise you than I can.

The pill may be your girlfriends chosen choice of contraceptive but it would be wise to use condoms as well to protect yourself and your girlfriend from STI's.

Kenno90

it's normal for the foreskin to all the way back during sex , so it might be helpful for you to get used to masturbating with the foreskin as far as you feel comfortable , then little by little it'll loosen up and sex will feel far more enjoyable:D

Terodil

Aye, what you describe is normal. If it can slide fully back you may just need to get used to it, otherwise you might want to see your doctor.

But let me strongly support Lucy's point: You should give very good, very good thought about 'going in' without a condom, even if she (says that she) is on the pill -- double contraception and STD prevention are both important points. Besides, the condom may help with your problem too.

LegacyUser

Ye but none of us have had unprotected sex in the past and well were both pretty honest and not gonna cheat. I can see why you would say that if either of us were sleepin around but i wouldnt cheat and i know she wouldnt cheat. Obvious we dont wanna get pregnant but we tried condom before and had trouble getting it in were both inexperienced really. So is it ok to not use condoms in this case?

Colonel_McCoy

You need to pull it back and stretch it............it will get easier in time and the pain will go away!

LegacyUser

Try my first time when my forskin went back and mr banjo string ripped....that was fun!!

Yea, just keep pulling it back. Whenever you have a shower etc you should be pulling it back anyway to clean properly. Eventually it will get easier and the head will desensitise. It was a pain for me the first few times having sex after hat becasue I was always concentrating on not hurting myself again etc but it gets better.

Bottle_of_Smoke

I think a condom will help with the pain. You might have just lost some of your hard on when you put it on which would make getting it in more difficult. It could be down to her not being wet enough also so maybe a little lube would be a good idea.

Also start masturbating properly, and try and wear your foreskin up if possible, even if just around the house.

You could get a GP to take a look too, maybe it actually is too tight.

minidazzler

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Ye but none of us have had unprotected sex in the past and well were both pretty honest and not gonna cheat. I can see why you would say that if either of us were sleepin around but i wouldnt cheat and i know she wouldnt cheat. Obvious we dont wanna get pregnant but we tried condom before and had trouble getting it in were both inexperienced really. So is it ok to not use condoms in this case?

Just because you or her never had unprotected sex before doesn't mean you are safe. Even if she had sex with a condom things can spread in other ways. HPV for example.

Not trying to scare you just you seem a little Naive, no offence intended.


My advice given the foreskin problem, keep using condoms until you can loosen the foreskin and desensitise the head a bit by touching it. It will be weird for a while but it will get better.

Just get used to putting condom's on, and using them in general.

Remember, it all can fail, but using more than 1 type of contraception greatly reduces the chances of failure.