Oral Problem

LegacyUser · 20-03-2009 12:39pm #1

Hi,

I don't seem to be allowed to search the PI forum for some reason so I'll just ask myself.

I'm male and I have never been able to cum from receiving oral sex. It starts off fine but gradually "he" starts to soften and the situation is lost. I never have had a problem with any other part of sex. The thing is it upsets my girlfriend and I have to reassure her that its not her etc.

Any advise?

LegacyUser · 20-03-2009 2:30pm

Would her talking to you in a certain way while she does it, or giving you the filthy-sexy eyes - would it help at all? There is more to the act than simply mechanics IMO.

The thing i loved about my ex that was best at it was the pleasure that she got from giving me pleasure if you know what i mean. It's like the madonna song - "like a prayer", she is worshipping at you for a while! I definitely think there are some power dynamics involved that should be explored.

It's like she is saying "because you are my man, i will do anything to please you!" but in return to that you have to be saying "i am so pleased because only you can please me like this."

Don't be afraid to lord it over her a bit in the bedroom, take control, or at least explore it. Just because you do it in the bedroom doesn't mean you are being somehow abusive. As long as both enjoy it!

That's my take on it anyway, others might see it different i don't know? It's all about exploration between two peole in trust i suppose!?

LegacyUser · 20-03-2009 2:35pm

My boyfriend has always had this problem with other women. It might help you but I dont know. The problem he said a lot of women had was that they go too soft and slow, he said its like women use the touch on men that they imagine men like but too often its the type of soft, slow touch that suits a woman better.

I used to be the same but with experience found most men need quite hard and fast stimulation which builds up into a crescendo to be able to cum. I still have to alternate with my hand and mouth as I get tired with just one or the other.

Its not easy giving a good blow job, are you giving her correct guidance?

Kimia · 20-03-2009 4:11pm

Mytake on it wrote: »

filthy-sexy eyes

Do men really like these??

petes · 20-03-2009 4:37pm

Mytake on it wrote: »

Would her talking to you in a certain way while she does it,

Surely she would have her mouth full!!

Kimia wrote:

Do men really like these??

Yes.

cojomo2 · 20-03-2009 5:11pm

its down to experience...

1. is she experienced in giving head, i.e some women just arnt good at it..
2. Does she love to give it or does she just do it cause she feels like she has to? If she doesnt actually enjoy giving head then the chances are she isnt very good at it...

if she loves to give it but just isnt good at it dont be afraid to give her pointers or even watch a scene from a porno so she gets the idea and then u can take it from there depending on what does it for u..