What do you think of seduction books?

LegacyUser

I would like to hear what women and men think of the various pick up books and sites

Women :- Have you ever been approached by someone using these methods and what did you think

Men have you read any or acted on the advice

I am considering buying one for a guy who needs help in that area but i am wary of the hype and the possibility they trivialise relationships and create a 'them and us' about men and women. In brief I wonder would they more harm than good

I decide against a link to illustrate as i do not want to advertise any of them, some seem to show how to manipulate women. any advice is appreciated

Thabks

cafecolour

I think they might work for some guys in showing them how to pick up a certain personality type of woman (that responds to the particular method espoused), and will work more for trying the tricks on a bunch of different women and seeing who responds. They won't really be good for seducing a specific woman if he has one in mind.

if he really just wants to sleep around with random women, but is unable to, they might be useful. If he is more relationship oriented, is more of a romantic, or tends to go more for a certain type of girl, they probably aren't going to be useful.

LegacyUser

There are many different books you can get with different methodologies, most of the ones i read have a women versus men mindset, they have a we are both on the same team mindset and we are adding value to both our lives.

My personal favourite is "The attraction code" by vin dicarlo.

Don't bother with the game or the mystery method. Richard la ruina's is quite good, so is anything by mehow, sinn, entropy or juggler.

There's a lot of free content on the above's blogs which is top quality.

af_thefragile

Load a' crap!!

Well, not really. They might work and give you fancy tips and such to get you started.
But what you really need to work on is your personality, confidence, emotions, self esteem and basically your inner self. which is something all those love gurus can't really help you with, as most of the times they themselves lack proper personalities.

So you're better off looking at some self help/success stuff like the stuff from Tony Robbins, Napoleon Hill or Paul McKenna. As they're much more deep and proper stuff that will help you in all aspects of your life rather than just scoring chicks.

And if you wanna get a book that is more oriented towards relationships, "Women are from Venus and Men are from Mars" (or whichever way the title goes) is a good one and his other books are good too.

prinz

The only seduction that comes from he vast majority of those things is your money being seduced out of your pocket. Give your mate advice yourself and use the money to buy him a new shirt or something.

MotorwayTR

The though of seducing my girlfriend really sickens me

greenteaicedtea

One of these methods includes giving women backhanded compliments. This is meant for a particularly attractive woman, because the theory is, she is used to being approached, it's meant to keep her guessing, for the man to make himself look better so he doesn't lose his nerve I guess.

If a guy approached me and started talking to me like that, I'd find a reason to go somewhere else.

I am interested in these things only so that if I recognize someone using them on me, I can avoid him

Silverfish

A survey is not a personal issue.

But you are correct in your theory OP.