Is it like getting back on a bike??

LegacyUser

I'll keep it quick...24 year old female, haven't had sex in more than two years at this point. It's been a busy two years, just not in that way and there's not been an opportunity for sex with someone I'm attracted to in all this time. Until now.
Problem is, it's been so long I seem to have developed a sort of complex about it...is it going to hurt again? Am I going to seem extremely inexperienced? I was never bad in the sack, quite adventurous actually, but only had two partners beforehand and am a little worried that I'll seem like I don't know what I'm doing... it has been a considerate amount of time...

Anyone go through such a long dry spell and find it easy to revive their sex life?

Pherekydes

I went without for 4 years. When I 'got back into it' it was a bit fumbly and clumsy and, ahem, premature, but you pick it up quickly again. I wouldn't worry too much about it, to be honest. You'll just put yourself under unnecessary pressure.

Male, by the way.

Overheal

Most of sex is instinct anyway. Regrowing your hymen though? Highly doubt it. Like any other part of the body once torn it heals up as scar tissue.

ctrl-alt-delete

Its like getting back on a bike with no saddle,

you'll be fine, it's all natural

spurious

With the right person and someone who took their time, it need not have hurt the first time (barring some anatomical problem).

You'll be fine. Enjoy.

LegacyUser

Funny you should mention this problem cos Ive now been without a year and a half and it is by far the longest Ive ever gone without, starting to get a bit of a complex about it! Also wonder if it'll be like losing my virginity all over again - dreading it! ha ha
Female BTW

LegacyUser

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I'll keep it quick...24 year old female, haven't had sex in more than two years at this point. It's been a busy two years, just not in that way and there's not been an opportunity for sex with someone I'm attracted to in all this time. Until now.
Problem is, it's been so long I seem to have developed a sort of complex about it...is it going to hurt again? Am I going to seem extremely inexperienced? I was never bad in the sack, quite adventurous actually, but only had two partners beforehand and am a little worried that I'll seem like I don't know what I'm doing... it has been a considerate amount of time...

Anyone go through such a long dry spell and find it easy to revive their sex life?

i probably shouldn't answer you,but here goes.
you will probably be better just going with the flow,see how things develop,in otherwords trial and error,everyone has a longing to be touched,but how and where ,depends on whether you are at ease with your partner,and convey hints ie what you like or dislike.
so basically just do what comes naturally

LegacyUser

Unregistered wrote: »

Funny you should mention this problem cos Ive now been without a year and a half and it is by far the longest Ive ever gone without, starting to get a bit of a complex about it! Also wonder if it'll be like losing my virginity all over again - dreading it! ha ha
Female BTW

This is exactly how I feel!

I guess I know once I'm 'back on the saddle' (or saddle-less bike!) it'll be fine and I'll feel stupid for having worried about it, but because it's been so long every little thing about it is seeming daunting again, down to the actual nakedness-in-front-of-another-person aspect!

Ridiculous I know, and don't get me wrong - I have no more body insecurities than the next girl, but I guess once you get out of the habit, you begin to over-think the whole process.

Thanks for all the reassurance!

barbiegirl

I went 2 years without and the first time after wasn't the greatest sex in the world, to be honest there was no emeotional connection which I find is needed for me anyhow to have great sex, but it didn't hurt.
Good luck get back out there and you'll be absolutely fine :-)

homerun_homer

I don't think there should be a problem. I do think this sometimes but when the occassion comes around the trouble I find is that sometimes the other person is not as compatable as past partners, and it can be frustrating and awkard. That'll happen now and again though if you go through one nighters but if it's with a partner at least you can both communicate easier and all will hopefully be great.

Nervous Wreck

I went without for 2 years once. First time back was loads of fun, albeit a little quick... Took a few tries to get back on form tbh but then just kept gettin better and better. Don't be worryin!