Seperated, what to do with the rings..

LegacyUser

hi all,
goin unreg for this...

if you seperated from your husband of 11yrs have no feeling what so ever for him (even to the point of hating him)
so some strange reason wud you still keep the wedding and engagement rings..

reson for this post, is while sorting my stuff for moving home, i came accross my rings although i never felt any bit emotional over seeing them,
im seperated 2yrs now

the rings arnt worth much as they only cost about 100 euro each so pawning them i wouldn get much but i have to say the engagement ring is beautiful, (as it was me who picked it)

what would you do....

idontknowmyname

i'd have them melted down and made into either a new ring or a necklace to mark this new phase in your life

CDfm

put them in a box somewhere -my sister has mine in a jewellery box somewhere.

Stheno

If the engagement ring doesn't look like a traditional ring and you really like it as a piece of jewellery you could always just wear it as jewellery?

star-pants

Agreed - you could get them make into another ring, or wear the engagement ring on a different finger if it's not very obviously an engagement one.

Joey the lips

Good one - my mom still wore hers to keep all the [EMAIL="B@#tards"]B@#tards[/EMAIL] away from her. As she put it at the time

She always comments how it seems to have the opposite effect ie men looking for a bit of fun dont care your married. Those who respect your married just talk to you. You become good friends as happened to her she even hooked up with one. He found out she was seperated.

Turns out she seperated from him and now believes that every man except her sons and grandsons are [EMAIL="B@#tards"]B@#tards[/EMAIL]

Ahhhh. Keep the rings if you can emotionally detatch yourself or give them to sait vincent de paul. At least you know something good came from the marriage

Hope all is well with you now

LegacyUser

thanks guys,

few gud comments their,

i was thinking of just wearing the engagement ring, but then felt i was still hanging on to a part of my marriage..

which i dont want to..
im in a relationship now wit a fantasic man, so no fear of having to put it on as a decoy...


i think i just get rid of them, as now i realised i dont even want to make then into another bit of jewerley cause in the end of the day they still be the rings

Ste.phen

I'd second whoever said to give them to the Vincent De Paul, i'm sure someone will really appreciate them.

herya

Yes give them to charity, you'll give them a second life and hopefully they'll be useful.

iceman777

I see no problem in wearing the ring at all. It is part of your past and your past is something that helps define you as the person you are today, and I hope that is a much better and stronger person.

If it has some bad memories of the time you were married, it does not matter. It helps you remember not to make the same mistakes again and to move on and not to be bitter about it.

I have a watch I wear that an ex gave me and I've worn it for 7 years since we broke up, but I love the watch, and it reminds me that I will never be conned by a person like her again. My current girlfriend knows this and thought it was strange at first as it is engraved, but I explained that I wear it like a scar to remind me of the past.

LegacyUser

Definitley give them away. Let that part of your life go. Even if you say you feel nothing towards him, its a symbolic gesture to take them out of your life and gift them into someone elses.

Rosiecheeks

Do you have children together? You could keep them to give to them in the future. I've kept my engagement ring to give to my son, it was suggested to me.

strongbluebell

I'm planning during the summer to take a day trip to Holyhead and chuck the wedding ring in the middle of the sea, something to do with closure I think. The engagement ring is probably worth a bit more and it's not engraved so I'll give that to charity.

Big Wave

idontknowmyname wrote: »

i'd have them melted down and made into either a new ring or a necklace to mark this new phase in your life

? That makes no sense. How would melting them down & still wearing them represent anything new, except a new shape with the same metal? If anything, it would be making an effort to hang onto them!

OP - if it's only worth €100, give them to charity, or pawn them!

CDfm

Big Wave wrote: »

OP - if it's only worth €100, give them to charity, or pawn them!

have them ground into dust and put them in a stew or the next beggar you see pop them in their bowl just to see their reaction or next halloween bake a brack and pop them in it and donate it somewhere telling them theres real gold rings inside.

lots of inventive stuff really you can do.

sam34

Rosiecheeks wrote: »

Do you have children together? You could keep them to give to them in the future. I've kept my engagement ring to give to my son, it was suggested to me.

i dont really think this is a good idea

for your kids teh rings will represent the marriage of their parents that went sour, i dont think id like to have something symbolising that

LegacyUser

ya i have 2 kids,

but deffinly wont be givin the rings to them, as he has not bothered to see them in 2yrs and wont pay a penny towards them..

i like the idea of the halloween cake, although i never taugh that their inscribed so even givin them to st V de P someone will get a ring with his name on it..

chuck it in the sea i think ...
and give the engagement ring to st V de P..

been honest i had to get help after spilting with ex through st V de P and always taught of how i cud repay them back when i get back on my feet..


why wud they give a engagement ring to someone else..
do people go to them and ask for a ring to get married..
just curious

Salome

strongbluebell wrote: »

I'm planning during the summer to take a day trip to Holyhead and chuck the wedding ring in the middle of the sea, something to do with closure I think. The engagement ring is probably worth a bit more and it's not engraved so I'll give that to charity.

I did something similar with a piece of jewellery an ex gave me - it's in the Atlantic now!

holdmyhand?

charity!
what goes around comes around.

although i have a lovely ring an ex gave me.... we have no connection what so ever now. but everytime some one comments on it, i automatically go back to the happy times.....

LegacyUser

I have all the rings incl ex's and will keep them for my daughter. We loved each other once, she was and is still loved so they're part of her story. She can melt them down if she likes!

af_thefragile

Bet it on horses or something!!

Oh and i second charity too...!

TheBurningMan

Mine is currently at the bottom of a frozen lake in Austria. . . unlike my cheating ex-wife.

CDfm

Unregistered wrote: »

chuck it in the sea i think ...
and give the engagement ring to st V de P..

The V de P for both is a lot more positive - it might kill a fish or snag a crabs claw

CDfm

TheBurningMan wrote: »

Mine is currently at the bottom of a frozen lake in Austria. . . unlike my cheating ex-wife.

Not nice - you should not joke about pollution.

strongbluebell

I presume the charities would sell them on rather than give them to someone. Anyone know?

miss no stars

why not just put them in a box and store them away somewhere?

So the relationship went sour

Keep them as a reminder of the good times. Or keep them just to show your kids at some stage in the future that their father wasn't a monster and at one point, you thought enough of him to marry him.

ImustavKlimt

Get rid,no point holding onto whats gone.

ImustavKlimt

Second thoughts pawn them:D