Friend driving me nuts!

LegacyUser

Hi, Im just wondering if anyone has any advice for me.

Im 17 almost 18 and I have a mate who is driving me absolutely fúckin nuts!

He claims to suffer from random bouts of depression lasting 3 hours or so, during which time he'll treat me and some others like ****. Select people that is.

This has been going on for ages and to be honest now, from feeling the full wrath of him being a príck for the last 3 years or so, I can honestly judge that he thinks he can get away with treating people like sheeat by claiming its an illness.

Now by treating people like sheeat I mean, being overly sarcastic, shooting down anything they say, creating such an awkwardness and tension between all of us together and just saying some really really really nasty things about people, I mean, things that even when youre really pissed off you wouldnt say!

Quite often he turns my own friends on me aswell. I dont know how much more of it I can take. Its an awful feeling thinking 'yay ill graduate in 3 months, just have to stick out another three months with this tosspot.'

But like I said before, its only select people he'll treat like crap. So why is it that he decides to go on me all the time? The person who has defended him to other people when hes gone off on them? :-(

RossFixxxed

Ok, obviously I can't diagnose on the internet, but this sounds like a condition known as 'DramaQueenDickitits'. He just seems to be a total you-know-what! Some people do this sort of thing, cause drama, drive a wedge etc between people.

Tell him to get help or **** off! You can't let someone dictate your life like that. You can be a friend (and he does NOT seem like one) and help him but if he keeps it up he has to go.

R

Jammyc

Seems like a real d***!
I wouldnt call him a friend if I were you tbh. Seems hes only interested in what suits him when.

I wouldnt even give him an ultimatum, just let him go.

Beruthiel

RossFixxxed wrote: »

Tell him to get help or **** off!

Yup.
That would be my advice.
Life is to short to be surrounding yourself with assholes.

LegacyUser

I'm no medical expert, but I don't know of any deppressive condition that happens sporadically for about 3 hours!!

To me it sounds like someone who is on a sulk on a night out and decides he's going to act the p***k.

Why is he your friend? Why do you feel that you still need to hang around with him? Others have distanced themselves from him... I suggest you follow them to whatever distance they've gone!

wonders00

If I was you I would distance myself from this particular friend. Life is too short to surround yourself with negative people

LegacyUser

Unregistered wrote: »

So why is it that he decides to go on me all the time?

Because he knows from past experience that you'll take it. Next time he does it, just tell him you're not interested in talking to him when he's like that, and to come back to you when he's feeling less "depressed".

Poloman

That wouldn't be any friend of mine.

Overheal

martdalto wrote: »

I'm no medical expert, but I don't know of any deppressive condition that happens sporadically for about 3 hours!!

Sounds like an awfully undereducated self-diagnoses of whatever his issue is.

Honestly I'd turn it around on him and refer him through a school counselor or something "Well billy I called you in today because your friends are worried you may be depressed..." - He'll either at this stage actually get help or get the hint to fcuk off.