Wrong Impression of Metal Fans

Acacia

Just wondering if anybody here has been picked on / abused for liking rock and metal?
I've lost count of the number of times I got "Weirdo!" or "satanist!" (:rolleyes:) shouted at me because of how I dressed (band hoodies/ t-shirts, etc) as a teenager. I suppose I don't really dress like that anymore ( not because of idiots shouting stuff at me, just personal taste, I guess) but still get the "Wow, really?" reaction when I tell people what music I like (for example, I wore my Pantera hoodie to college one day, and several of my classmates felt the need to comment to me about how "I can't believe you like that sort of band, you're so nice,etc, etc!":pac:).

So do you think people have the wrong idea about what metal fans are like? Have you ever gotten abuse over the way you dress or your music taste?

mike65

That still happens? Ah its good to know some things don't change though I never bought into the whole "look", and so could pass un-noticed.

Stev_o

Mehhh not really i wouldn't wear any clothes that you would associate with metal yet when people look at my ipod and see it filled with In Flames, COB, Soilwork, ATR etc they kind of shrug it off. The best reply i got was "Oh my dad is a huge metal head"

Catari Jaguar

I'm a primary school teacher, I dress fairly conservative. I met up with one of the staff and her hubby (huge metal fan) at Priest Feast in stripy tights, pink mini kilt, black and glitter eye make up ... jumping around, rocking out, giving myself whiplash like a crazy person. Hilarious! No one expects me to like that kind of music at work.

I used to be all black nail varnish, eyeliner, pink/purple hair, Metallica hoodies and constantly with earphones in. Lecturers didn't approve much in teacher training college. Closed minded feckers. Obviously I'd tone it all down for practices but I had to do a complete overhaul; nice Abercrombie and blonde highlights. Hmm now I'm a role model. :rolleyes:

I feel too old to dress metally, unless its for a gig then I go all out just for fun. I still love Guitar Hero and all that stuff, would love to be pierced and tattooed. I'll never grow out of loving metal and rock.

quoteunquote

Of course I've gotten a bit of abuse for wearing band tshirts and Doc Martens and the like but that never really bothers me.

What does bother me is the fact that for every job interview I do, I have to take out all piercings, cover up tattoos and dress normally. Some people may say that interviewers aren't allowed refuse you a job on the basis of your appearance but, in my opinion, a fair amount do.

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Acacia wrote: »

I wore my Pantera hoodie to college one day, and several of my classmates felt the need to comment to me about how "I can't believe you like that sort of band, you're so nice,etc, etc!":pac:).

Geeze that's F*cking Hostile!

lord lucan

i still wear band t-shirts occasionally and still get funny looks. combo that with a beard and tattoos and the usual line is "aren't you a bit old for that sort of thing?". i'm only 34 ffs,i'll still be wearing this **** at 64.

GLaDOS

Used to get a few comments about my hair when it was longer, just ignore it really

brendansmith

OK-Cancel-Apply wrote: »

Geeze that's F*cking Hostile!

Those classmates should have held their mouth for the war, used it for what its for.

Karl Hungus

No, can't say I've gotten any comments or anything of the sort for a long time.

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brendansmith wrote: »

Those classmates should have held their mouth for the war, used it for what its for.

Oh man not another one of these threads! What have I started...:eek:

ShawnRaven

I still get grief for piercings and shaved head. Mind you, i have the best t-shirt I got at last years Whitby Goth Weekend which basically leaves a lot of people confused.

It's quite basic actually.

It's a black t-shirt
It has white writing
Simply saying
"f@cking weirdo!"

I love it, proceeds for it went to charity too.

brendansmith

Not since I trimmed the middle of my beard

Malice

Acacia wrote: »

Just wondering if anybody here has been picked on / abused for liking rock and metal?

I don't think I ever have unless I've deeply repressed some memories of abuse from my early years .

starflake

Never been given a hard time.. well once when i was in secondary school on the way home on the school bus.. one of the skangers from the lads school sent me up a note from the back of the bus saying '' fuk off ya 'goot'' but that was really funny. IMHO noone worth while gives a flying fcuk what ya wear or what colour hair ya have.. noone past the age of 18 anyway

Sephiroth_dude

nah was never really bothered when I was shool,but in my last job I put in a request for a day off and when my boss asked me was doing anything nice for the day,I told I was going to the slayer concert on in the marquee (excuse the spelling) and he said I can't believe you like that heavy metal muck :rolleyes:

Somnus

I think people grow out of giving abuse over that sort of thing. Everyone matures eventually

Since I have long hair I dont get the whole surprised thing, people assume I'm into metal, but a couple of my mates would.

christophicus

Dr.Poca wrote: »

I think people grow out of giving abuse over that sort of thing. Everyone matures eventually

If only that were true. I used to think the same, but it would appear not to be the case.

I have long hair down to my arse and wear band T-shirts quite alot, I quite frequently get abuse hurled at me, and am suprised to hear that many people don't.

Nightwish

The only place I ever got abuse or smart comments for dressing like a metal fan, was in Dublin. I've never gotten any snide remarks down here in the sticks. It happened a lot more frequently when I was in college. I'm 25 now, and havent had anything said to me in quite some time. My mother sometimes remarks that maybe I should "grow out" of my style.

christophicus

Thats certainly true, I have found that most Waterford people have a live and let live attitude, whereas in Dublin you'll get some kind of comment nearly every day, which is ironic, as you would think that the people in Dublin would be more open minded what with the greater mix of different types of people etc.

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christophicus wrote: »

Thats certainly true, I have found that most Waterford people have a live and let live attitude, whereas in Dublin you'll get some kind of comment nearly every day, which is ironic, as you would think that the people in Dublin would be more open minded what with the greater mix of different types of people etc.

In some ways, Dublin seems to be a place where the greater the mix, the more closed minded people get. Lots of insecure people floating around these parts.

redenemyjoe

Couldn't agree more. Try being in a metal band and not having super long hair or looking like a typical "metalhead" You get to know all about who actually gives a **** about their image.

Malice

Sephiroth_dude wrote: »

he said I can't believe you like that heavy metal muck :rolleyes:

Ever notice that it's nearly always the people that listen to generic, disposable flavour of the month pop acts that dismiss rock and metal like that? People who truely appreciate music, regardless of genre, are rarely so closed-minded.

christophicus wrote: »

I have long hair down to my arse and wear band T-shirts quite alot, I quite frequently get abuse hurled at me, and am suprised to hear that many people don't.

Do you hang around in or travel through neighbourhoods that have lots of teenagers hanging around with nothing better to do or something?

christophicus

I would travel through them quite often yeah, and I use public transport multiple times a day.

Malice

christophicus wrote: »

I would travel through them quite often yeah, and I use public transport multiple times a day.

Oops, I forgot to ask about public transport in my previous post . For whatever reason trains and buses seem to be a magnet for the special kind of muppet who has nothing better to do than make comments on someone else's appearance.

Motley Crue

I don't think this kind of abuse goes on anymore personally because we outnumber the scumbags at this point

Motley Crue

malice_ wrote: »

For whatever reason trains and buses seem to be a magnet for the special kind of muppet who has nothing better to do than make comments on someone else's appearance.

I think Unemployment assistance pays an extra 50Euro a week if you spend the entire time riding the bus to and from places

The BOFH

I love quoting these articles when people make comments about heavy metal fans:

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/1546193/Heavy-metal-a-comfort-for-the-bright-child.html

http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2007/03/070321130834.htm

http://www.newscientist.com/blog/shortsharpscience/2007/03/metalheads-are-stressed-boffins.html

Australians seem to be big hard rock & metal fans so I only get positive comments when wearing band shirts, especially my Bon Scott shirt

Fajitas!

christophicus wrote: »

Thats certainly true, I have found that most Waterford people have a live and let live attitude

I'm glad to hear it, it certainly wasn't like that when I was growing up! I never went for the 'image' but most of my friends did and did indeed get their fair share of abuse over the years.

GhostInTheRuins

I can't say I've ever had any comments or abuse. Maybe it's because I don't particularly look like a metalhead (Except for long hair and a beard)

As for the impression that other people have of metalheads being greasy violent idiots, a few years back I brought a friend who never listened to metal to a metal gig, afterwards she commented: "I can't believe everyone was so nice"

Pyr0

Happened a lot when I was younger (Living in ballymun y'know ? :pac:) Never happens these days though, the most I'd get would be a few looks. If I'm wearing my work clothes which would generally be a shirt and jeans and somebody asks me I'd usally get a "really ?!" in response more so now that i've cut my hair, nothing malicious though.

HereticPrincess

Ah, the days of walking through Ballymun with New Rocks..
Heore you, I love yer boots, yeh hippee / goth..

Feck off! Mad lil tracksuit heads haha :rolleyes:

Hellrazer

Used to happen a lot when I had long hair way back in the early 90s.Living in Drimnagh wasnt the best choice for a rocker tbh.Regularly got beaten up aswell just for being "different" to a tracksuit and runner wearing scumbag.

Acacia

Some interesting (and funny) replies so far!:D

Stev_o wrote: »

The best reply i got was "Oh my dad is a huge metal head"

LOL. or my favorite "Yeah, my dad loves Lynard Skynard too, you two would really get on!" :pac:

Lil Kitten wrote: »

I used to be all black nail varnish, eyeliner, pink/purple hair, Metallica hoodies and constantly with earphones in. Lecturers didn't approve much in teacher training college. Closed minded feckers. Obviously I'd tone it all down for practices but I had to do a complete overhaul; nice Abercrombie and blonde highlights. Hmm now I'm a role model. :rolleyes:

quoteunquote wrote: »

What does bother me is the fact that for every job interview I do, I have to take out all piercings, cover up tattoos and dress normally. Some people may say that interviewers aren't allowed refuse you a job on the basis of your appearance but, in my opinion, a fair amount do.

Yeah, this can be quite annoying- bosses/teachers/ whoever assuming you're not right for the job or are less responsible just because you wear black or have piercings and tattoos. It kinda puts me off getting piercings done (I want to get loads:p) because it will just be hassle to take them out again for my job.

OK-Cancel-Apply wrote: »

Geeze that's F*cking Hostile!

brendansmith wrote: »

Those classmates should have held their mouth for the war, used it for what its for.

Oh god, not puns! I hate puns! :pac:

ShawnRaven wrote: »

I still get grief for piercings and shaved head. Mind you, i have the best t-shirt I got at last years Whitby Goth Weekend which basically leaves a lot of people confused.

It's quite basic actually.

It's a black t-shirt
It has white writing
Simply saying
"f@cking weirdo!"

I love it, proceeds for it went to charity too.

That's fcukin' brilliant! I also seen one once that said: "Keep Staring, I Might do a Trick!"

christophicus wrote: »

If only that were true. I used to think the same, but it would appear not to be the case.

I have long hair down to my arse and wear band T-shirts quite alot, I quite frequently get abuse hurled at me, and am suprised to hear that many people don't.

That's really rough. I've gotten the same sort of abuse, some times just for having band badges or patches on my schoolbag. I don't understand why people feel the need to tell me they think a certain band is just 'noise' and they can't listen to them (mind you, they probably heard one Linkin Park song and think they're the expert on metal) or that I must be a 'mad mosher' (:rolleyes:). Why they think I give a fcuk about their opinion is beyond me.

Nightwish wrote: »

My mother sometimes remarks that maybe I should "grow out" of my style.

This is the thing. Usually people who shout abuse at randomers are the type to slag off anybody who is 'different', yet there is also a general mis-conception about metal. I've gotten the same stuff from my parents (still, at the age of twenty!:p) that it's just a 'phase' I'm going through.

redenemyjoe wrote: »

Couldn't agree more. Try being in a metal band and not having super long hair or looking like a typical "metalhead" You get to know all about who actually gives a **** about their image.

This is the other side of the coin - metalheads who think just because you don't dress a certain way that you aren't as metal as them. Well, most metalheads I've met don't subscribe to this muppetry thankfully, however one time I got a few remarks before from the goth girls in Fibber Magees that I mustn't like metal because , on the night in question, I was wearing a white 'skanger' dress (I'd come from a different club earlier in the night.) :rolleyes:

The BOFH wrote: »

I love quoting these articles when people make comments about heavy metal fans:

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/1546193/Heavy-metal-a-comfort-for-the-bright-child.html

http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2007/03/070321130834.htm

http://www.newscientist.com/blog/shortsharpscience/2007/03/metalheads-are-stressed-boffins.html

Those articles are really interesting, and have confirmed what I've long suspected-

Researchers found that, far from being a sign of delinquency and poor academic ability, many adolescent "metalheads" are extremely bright and often use the music to help them deal with the stresses and strains of being gifted social outsiders.

Damn straight!:) Some people seem to assume that metal heads are idiots who like to beat the crap out of each other at gigs- they totally miss the point!

buck65

self harm is no harm

Twilightning

It sucks when metalheads are confused for emo kids by scumbags these days.

christophicus

Twilightning wrote: »

It sucks when metalheads are confused for emo kids by scumbags these days.

Indeed.

I'm just wondering why someone would even bother coming into this forum for the sole purpose of making fun of someone, the logic trully evades me.

Davei141

It happens with everybody.

Metal fan: Cant believe you listen to pill head music!!! CHART??? UGHHHHH!!
Dance fan: You listen to hippy music???
Indie fan: Pill head music and hippy music?? Booo man, boo.

Ignorance in all form's of social circle's

jenizzle

The worse abuse I get is getting called "Pinkie" by the kids, what with having pink hair an' all. The funniest is getting called a Hippy... can't people tell I'm ANGRY at the world, not HAPPY?!

I remember my friend gave the lads in the band he was in woeful abuse because they cut their long hair off.

ShawnRaven

jenizzle wrote: »

can't people tell I'm ANGRY at the world, not HAPPY?!

God damn hippies, she'll be chaining herself to the damn tree next.

Malice

jenizzle wrote: »

The worse abuse I get is getting called "Pinkie" by the kids, what with having pink hair an' all. The funniest is getting called a Hippy... can't people tell I'm ANGRY at the world, not HAPPY?!

If you dye your hair a nice angry colour like black or purple rather than a happy colour like pink then maybe people will understand your anger better .

christophicus

jenizzle wrote: »

The worse abuse I get is getting called "Pinkie" by the kids, what with having pink hair an' all. The funniest is getting called a Hippy... can't people tell I'm ANGRY at the world, not HAPPY?!

I remember my friend gave the lads in the band he was in woeful abuse because they cut their long hair off.

ROFL, love it !:D:D

Stay_in_Kampuchea

Got dogs abuse, still get dogs abuse, and I gotsa a crew cut these days. Sad thing is all the ladies that hated on me, now want me ha. Im SOULLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLJA BOI. YOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOU. haters maaaaaaan

nacho libre

from an ex Slayer fan:

ah ye still like metal, John, well, once you reach my age you'll grow out of it like i did:pac:

Well, i've reached his age now and i still enjoy listening to all kinds of metal. I suppose it means i've yet to grow up, just like that 80-year-old metal fan in England:)

pcworldsucks

people who listen to metal are morons, usually are complete losers.

christophicus

pcworldsucks wrote: »

people who listen to metal are morons, usually are complete losers.

Couldn't agree more, you are 100% correct.

Acacia

pcworldsucks wrote: »

people who listen to metal are morons, usually are complete losers.

BWAHAHAHA! Lulz.

cedomination

Never had problems aside from the occasional person mistaking me for "one o' dem emos"

ShawnRaven

pcworldsucks wrote: »

people who listen to metal are morons, usually are complete losers.

FAIL!

Léan

It can get pretty head wrecking here.
Cars passing:
' MOsssshheeeEEeeerrr!'

'Cut your hair ya filthy MossShhHHER'

or they decide to throw things out of the car at you ¬_¬, eggs, bottles, bricks. Soooo funny :rolleyes:.

Ridiculous. Worse for my friends that are guys.

Geranium

I just wear normal, feminine type clothes, so I guess you'd only know my music taste if you inquired about it. Sometimes people laugh, but only really in a nice way, because it's quite unexpected. I wouldn't wear clothes that say anything much about my personality, think it's more fun to find out during a chat.