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Friends breaking up..

  • 16-03-2009 3:31pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hey all.

    My two best friends have both just broken up with their long term boyfriends. Both were because that while they still deeply cared about them they didn't want to be in such serious relationships so young and wanted to try new things (we're all 19) I understand both my friends reasons completely and of course only want them to be happy. Their ex boyfriends are also two of my best friends (my girl friends are completely happy with this and have said to me that they want me to still be friends with them)

    The problem comes in now where I have two friends to suppport, but also two of my best guy friends to be there for. I don't know where to start! Both of my friends want to remain friends with their bf's (we all go out in the same social circle so it wouldn't work otherwise!)and have said to me that they know they're my friends too and don't want things to change between us. Of course I know they will, at least for the immediate future. But I just need some advice on how to approach all of this?

    I don't want to seem selfish asking for advice.. I know it's much much much harder for all of them than for me, I have talked to my guy friends since and they're both devastated, but I just would appreciate some help on how to be there for them all? They have all turned to me for support (guys and girls) and I just want to help them..


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  • #2
    Kevster
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,980 ✭✭✭Kevster


    Hi,

    It never once occurred to me that you are being selfish in looking for advice. In fact, the mere fact that you claimed such a thing tells me that you perhaps don't have as much self-assurance/confidance as you'd like to. With this in mind, you have to realise that this situation which has developed is not up to you to fix or monitor. If you can 'extract' yourself from it mentally, then you are on your way to getting through it gracefully.

    By you actually thinking about this in the way that you are maens - most likely - that problems will develop where they previously wouldn't have. Therefore, what you must do is act as normal and as if nothing ever happened. If your friends claim that they can be happy, then that is what you should be too (and not 'looking' for things to go wrong).

    Kevin


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