Too many bad people

bambera

I'm so angry at the amount of A*holes in this country,

I was standing at a bus stop the other week and a woman and her 3 children come along. While the mother was giving her daughter her coat to hold so she could use both hands to hit her youngest child, her son (a tall bloke of about 18) starts swinging his whole body around the bus pole. He just missed kicking my face by about an inch. Of course I'm the stupid one, I should have known that this pole was his playground and should have walked away. He did it a second time and it was only then that his younger sister hit him and told him to stop, not his mother. I couldnt say anything cause there was 4 of them and only one of me, and I dont think they would hesitate to do anything.

last Feb, when there was really heavy snow, me and my mother had to get off the bus and walk cause the bus couldnt go anywhere, on the way a gang of about 13 young lads started firing snow balls at us. It was so cold that the snow had turned into ice in them. Even after they got my mam in the eye with a lump of ice they still wouldnt stop. I wantet each and everyone of them to die, but what could I do?

On a daily bases in work I constantly have to keep an eye on people so they dont steal, and some get away with it cause I cant prove that they done it.

I have been conned out of money twice so far this year.
One of which happened today, and if I saw this person again there is nothing I can do about it.

I am not the smartest of people but I'm always nice to people and this leads to some of them walking all over me. I grew up in a rough area but my mother always tought me to respect others. So why don't they respect me?

I see how many greedy people there are in this country. I know there are a lot of great people too but there are just so many w*nkers that they overshaddow the honest people.

Why should I bother being nice to people anymore, why should I not just treat every person I meet like the way I have been treated time and time again. I know that would mean me hurting some people, but at the same time I would stop being walked all over. But what can I do?

SW81

There's much nicer people in the world than bad people. You have to ignore the badness (As hard as that can be!) and focus on the good people. Don't change who you are just because you've had a few run ins with not so nice types. Remember the good things people have done for you instead.

thebigcheese22

SW81 wrote: »

There's much nicer people in the world than bad people. You have to ignore the badness (As hard as that can be!) and focus on the good people. Don't change who you are just because you've had a few run ins with not so nice types. Remember the good things people have done for you instead.

+ 1

If you give up and decide to act like a prick just because others are, you'l be the exact same as them. Just dont give in to negativity.

bambera

Thanks but I dont mean I'm gonna go out and start fights or take peoples things, just that I shouldnt put so much faith and trust in people.

It's hard to see the good in people when theyre shaking your hand with one and stealing you with their other.

I dont think I belive in Karma. I think that there are people that go through life and dont get punished as they should. bad things may happen to them but I dont think it is related to what they have done.

LegacyUser

you should have a pride in yourself knowing that you are better than people like that - I used to feel the same way when I was younger, sometimes always feeling that I was singled-out by these awful people as an easy shot to take the p*** out of etc, or taken for an idiot etc etc (sounds ridiculous I know!) But whenever I felt people were being nasty etc, I just told myself that they were the stupid ones, and that I was the better person.... Half of them will continue to be uneducated idiots and go nowhere in their lives....Respecting other people (like you) will get you further than them...

LegacyUser

I've been through the exact same as you bud, but the other posters are right, you're above those scumbags and even though we don't know you personally, your words alone tell us enough. My advise is to surround yourself with as many "nice" people as possible. Don't give muppets a second of your time, just get away from them as fast as possible. By that I don't mean run away, but if you can identify situations in advance where crap is likely to happen, don't subject yourself to it. You can't change other people but you have full control over your actions and you do have the right to work on your happiness.

I used to walk myself in to situations and hang around for the confrontation. It was never pleasant and never did anything for my happiness. I am not saying you look for trouble but make a concious effort to remind yourself that not everyone in a rough area needs to be rough or deal with some muppets that live there. Leave them to it, avoid the battles.

ManOfMystery

Your post really strikes a chord with me as I feel this way at times. I see people doing things, I read things in the paper, I see things on the news ........... and I wonder, what is wrong with the world? Why do some people insist on carrying out evil acts? However, tt's easy to think the world is all bad. It's not - the problem is that the media only reports bad news most of the time, we rarely hear about the good things.

I haven't been an angel all my life but in the last few years I've got myself on track and have been trying to be a decent person. I won't go into detail about it, but I had a long (online) discussion a year back with a very interesting American guy on a forum topic about living your life to it's fullest, and he certainly changed my views. In each and every act I carry out now, I try and do the right thing. I try and have integrity. I try and behave in a way that if I ever have children, they'll have a dad they're proud of and who they can look up to. Integrity is all you really have in life, so don't let yourself get jaded and stoop down to the level of those people who annoy you so much.

Thephantomsmask

There's nasty ****wits in all age groups and walks of life. I had back surgery on wednesday in a private hospital in Dublin and about an hour after I returned from surgery a lady in her late 70's, post hand surgery, was moved in as the bed in the surgical ward had been vacated that morning by another older lady who was very nice to talk to. I was stuck flat on my back unable to move unless the care assistants rolled me and needing a bed pan. I had some light food and at midnight I vomited all over myself while using the bedpan. I was lying in bed with two nurses and a care assistant undressing me, washing me and the bed/floor and rolling me around to make the bed under me to make me as comfortable as possible and then more pain relief and anti emetic drugs. Suddenly this old bat starts banging on that there's no peace and quiet for her to sleep that she paid to be here (so has everyone!!) and that she'd complain to her consultant about being lumped into another room with no peace. She knew perfectly well what was going on and I simply thought what a miserable old cow, you're in a hospital with unwell people not a hotel and should've stumped up for a private room instead of a twin if that's your attitude. Thing is it's just not worth saying it to these people as they always think they're right no matter what. I only wish she'd puked and felt as utterly miserable and helpless as I did. Thankfully she left the next morning, all smiles to the consultant after being abusive to staff (I'm a health worker and see the all talk and no b*llocks from patients every day). Thankfully I left today, stiff and sore but ok and had great company last night from a girl my own age in for surgery. There are more nice people than bad but the dicks out there really don't give a sh*t

af_thefragile

The world is a collage of different colors. The most prominent of the colors are the ones you focus on and filter through.
If you focus on the greens you'll find more greens.
If you focus on the reds you'll notice mostly reds.
If you focus on the blues you'll notice more blues.
If you focus on the browns you'll see mostly browns.

It all depends on the filters you use for references.
Right now you could find references to support the thought that most people in this world are rotten.
Right now you could also find references to support the thought that most people in this world are good, caring and helpful.
It all depends on which references you filter through your lenses.
Whether you're using a certain filter to filter though the reds or the greens or the browns or maybe even using a filter to filter out all the colors leaving behind just shades of grey!

Seek and you shall receive.
If you go around looking for dirt, you'll find a lot of it everywhere.
If you go around looking for flowers, you'll find loads of those too everywhere.

So maybe you should just try to shift your focus, change your filter and notice if the world appears to have changed colors.