Bored and lonely

LegacyUser

Having moved to a new city (and country!) recently, I find myself bored and alone all the time. I had a busy enough life in Ireland and the problem was fittin it all in, I worked afternoons and evenings, saw my boyfriend at weekend, was always busy and had someone to see and somewhere to go. Now I literally have no life. My working hours are much better, ideal in fact (9-5 Mon-Fri) but the thing is I have all this free time and nothing to do! It's really depressing and I feel like I'm wasting my life.

Before people tell me to 'make an effort', I AM making an effort. I work in an office more or less on my own so don't really have any colleagues to speak of. Boss is always out. So that didnt worry me too much, I though 'grand I'll find a way to meet people.' I joined loads of groups on meetup.com, never got a single email. Tried to join numerous language classes to be told there's no place for me until June. And I mean really tried, e-mailed every school in the city, traipsed around in person taking level tests and interviews to find out none of them had places at my level. I didn't know anyone when I came here so I met up with a few friends of friends but none of it developed into anything. I did text them and got 'yeah sure maybe we can go for drinks next week' etc but nothing. I know I'm not a weirdo or annoying, I had a lot of friends at home and other places I've lived. I think people here either are very busy or just too wrapped up in their own lives to make an effort with a newbie.

I was thinking of going to a pub on my own but Im a girl and wouldnt feel very comfortable doing so. I can't find any info on groups (used to be into hiking back home) or even voluntary work. If I'd felt like this at home, I'd have joined up with the VDP but can't find anything similar here. Is anyone in the same situation? Anyone have any idea what I could do? It's so annoying finally having the time to do things but nothing to do! I do visit other towns/cities at weekends on my own, but that gets a bit old after a while and you just want to meet up for a few drinks or something.

smileysurfer

Why dont you ask a few of your friends or boyfriend from home to come visit for a few days?
Go for a drink or something, meet ppl and then have some friends for when they go back home

I didn't know anyone when I came here so I met up with a few friends of friends but none of it developed into anything. I did text them and got 'yeah sure maybe we can go for drinks next week' etc but nothing. I know I'm not a weirdo or annoying, I had a lot of friends at home and other places I've lived. I think people here either are very busy or just too wrapped up in their own lives to make an effort with a newbie.

Maybe you need to try a bit harder? Ask them to meet up again, one text is easily forgotten so send a reminder text.

Affable

I could give you advice. I'm in SE UK. Maybe we could meet for drinks!