No motivation

LegacyUser

Ok I've been feeling like this for the last year nearly, I've no motivation anymore to do anything really. I'm in college doing the course i've always wanted to do but I'm just not motivated anymore. Its a computer course and since i was in my early teens (13/14) i've been big into computers (not a nerd) but always pushing myself to learn new stuff and I'd stay up long into the night learning new things and I was really motivated back then to do it. Now i can barely get out of bed in the morning and I'm missing loads of my lectures because I'm not interested! I take part in a sport I absolutely love and its probably the only thing I'm motivated to do but even sometimes I wonder whats the point. I haven't had any traumatic experiences and all my friends know/used to know me as an energetic up for the laugh bit mad in the head person but now I don't feel as energetic as that anymore nor do I have much interested in anything...Im single and pretty much have been forever besides being with a few girls for a few weeks but things never really worked out. A few weeks ago I went home with this girl but I had no interest in having sex with her.. I'm 20 years of age, I should of been mad to!

time to visit my GP?

TheZohanS

Yes, get him to do a quick checkup.

af_thefragile

You've just got yourself too caught up in all those little things that don't really last nor matter mate!

I'm kinda just like you too. I worked so hard to get into the course i wanted to but then when i got into it, it was only a matter of time before i completely lost all interest and motivation towards it.
If you dig out i (and another guy) made a thread a couple of days ago about the lack of motivation and laziness. In that thread i spoke about a few ways how we lose track of the things in life and end up getting caught up in things that don't really matter.
It might help you out a bit...

Lemme dig out those threads for you:
http://boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055505369
http://boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055505320

Basically you've gotta find those things back that motivated you in the first place. And start working towards them. Find new goals if the old ones aren't working but you gotta keep moving on. Atleast a little everyday and thats all it takes. Never give up and never give in!

LegacyUser

thanks for the advice af_thefragile

The only thing I can seem to get up and do is the sport I take part in. I don't want to give too much away because people might be on here that know me but its a sport that requires a lot of planning and organizing. I've no problem getting up at 6am to go take part in my sport or spend the weekend running around the country organizing stuff for it, but when it comes to college, my part time work as a web designer and sometimes socializing I'm just not motivated. I find myself sleeping for 12 hours a night and still feeling tired the next day. Could this be low testosterone levels or just a hormone imbalance? I had a blood test last September because I needed my blood type for my sport but while they were taking blood I requested a full blood work just to be safe but everything came back fine, I was told I'm perfectly healthily. The lack of sex drive frightens me also especially since I'm single and young...

thanks

Zaph

Unreg8999 wrote: »

Could this be low testosterone levels or just a hormone imbalance?

Only your doctor can tell you that. Go back to him and tell him what you've told us here, including about the girl, and ask him specifically if he can do tests for low hormone levels if that's what's worrying you.

consultech

Unreg8999 wrote: »

thanks for the advice af_thefragile

The only thing I can seem to get up and do is the sport I take part in. I don't want to give too much away because people might be on here that know me but its a sport that requires a lot of planning and organizing. I've no problem getting up at 6am to go take part in my sport or spend the weekend running around the country organizing stuff for it, but when it comes to college, my part time work as a web designer and sometimes socializing I'm just not motivated. I find myself sleeping for 12 hours a night and still feeling tired the next day. Could this be low testosterone levels or just a hormone imbalance? I had a blood test last September because I needed my blood type for my sport but while they were taking blood I requested a full blood work just to be safe but everything came back fine, I was told I'm perfectly healthily. The lack of sex drive frightens me also especially since I'm single and young...

thanks

Have you/anyone in your family have any history of depression?

You're ticking a lot of the boxes to be honest, surprised you haven't considered it already. It might be worth asking for a referral from your GP for an assessment by a mental health professional.

You sound like you want to take proactive steps to improve yourself, so that's a large part of the battle, and you're by no means an exhibiting manic depressive.

God speed

Antilles

What's with all the post from guys asking if their situation could be down to low testosterone levels the past day or so? Is it just one dude posting multiple threads or has some dodgy pharma company started preying on people's insecurities to sell them testosterone injections?

OP - I have no idea what your situation is, obviously, but my first impression would be that you are depressed. Whatever the case though, its something your GP would know best how to handle. Just don't go listening to some nonsense on the tv/radio and assuming you need mad medical treatments - remember they are advertising so they can make money, not so they can make people's lives better.

af_thefragile

Unreg8999 wrote: »

thanks for the advice af_thefragile

The only thing I can seem to get up and do is the sport I take part in. I don't want to give too much away because people might be on here that know me but its a sport that requires a lot of planning and organizing. I've no problem getting up at 6am to go take part in my sport or spend the weekend running around the country organizing stuff for it, but when it comes to college, my part time work as a web designer and sometimes socializing I'm just not motivated. I find myself sleeping for 12 hours a night and still feeling tired the next day. Could this be low testosterone levels or just a hormone imbalance? I had a blood test last September because I needed my blood type for my sport but while they were taking blood I requested a full blood work just to be safe but everything came back fine, I was told I'm perfectly healthily. The lack of sex drive frightens me also especially since I'm single and young...

thanks

I was pretty much the same as you too (still kinda am, but i'm getting better). I went to the doctor and got a full blood check done first and it was normal so he went ahead to do further tests for hormone functions and liver functions, even that was all normal.
So i'ld say its just a lack of interest and motivation.

In the thread i kinda explained how i'm trying to move more and get more things done in a day. Basically thats what i'm doing right now. Move more everyday, get more and more of those pending things done in the day and slowly and steadily get back my efficiency so that i stop being lazy and stop procrastinating. Its kinda working as i've done a lot more this week than i did last week. I have also been practicing my guitar everyday now and improving quite well at it. I've now just gotta make sure i don't get lazy again and fall back into the trap of doing nothing.

I was like you too. I used to find something from time to time that would really interest me and motivate me. Like when i first got my guitar i used to play it everyday for like the first 3-4 months. Then i thought it'ld be a great idea to form a band and so i worked pretty hard at it and managed to get a band together and also got a couple of tracks down in quite a short time. But then i slowly started to lose my drive, i got lazy and busy with college so i left the band. Then i did nothing for quite a while. I then got back into bikes so i got a new BMX bike and rode it around for a while then it got too dark and too cold out for me to ride around frequently. And i didn't do anything for another while but then i got into photography a couple of months ago and well, i've slowed down from when i started but i still haven't lost my drive for it and i'm now getting back into all those things slowly to integrate my life more. I'm starting to practice my guitar more regularly so i get good again and i'm aiming to get a band started over the summer. I'm looking to start the photography project i was planning to for the past few weeks, i'll probably get working on it next week. I'm also riding my bike around when i find time for it.

So it happens slowly and one step at a time but you can't just sit back and do nothing about it. Cuz if you do something, you have some chance of getting somewhere but if you do nothing, you are guaranteed to get nowhere!

I say you should take the time to sit back with yourself and look at all thats in front of you. You've got your sport which you do love and are doing fine with. But you've also got your college, your web designing stuff and your social life. You've gotta contemplate them long and hard and figure out your priorities. You can't do everything at once neither can you just do one thing and forget about the rest. You've gotta prioritise all the things in your life and work accordingly.
You've gotta find that juice in your life once again which seems to have gotten drained away.
Find the things that excite you and do them. It won't just come to your randomly. Nothing in life is random. You've gotta sit down to work it out and only then you might get an epiphany!

Like i myself had to cut out many things from my life cuz i can't do everything at once. I had to chose my options according to my priorities like say going to lunch with friends or practicing the guitar. Now its not all rigid and something one weighs out another but you've gotta weigh your options before you chose them.
The case with me so far had been that i hadn't been studying enough for college cuz i had to practice my guitar and i hadn't been practicing enough guitar cuz i had to study for my college. Also another was like I wasn't following through on my plans of going to the gym in the morning cuz i liked to sleep till late.
This is called an inner civil war where two things in you conflict your goals.
You've gotta straighten these things out and basically once again prioritise whats more important to you. College comes first and once you've finished with your studying, you can practice your guitar for however long you want.
Working out is more important than sleeping till late so wake up earlier everyday so that you can get some sorta physical activity in the morning.

All this takes a lot of effort at first and seems impossible cuz there's a lot of inertia holding you back down. But once you get moving, you get the momentum and it all becomes a habit! But then if you stop doing it then entropy takes over and you fall back to square one again!

Hope that made sense...