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Boyfriend when it suits him?

  • 10-03-2009 10:08pm
    #1
    Mixedup
    Closed Accounts Posts: 117 ✭✭


    Am i in the wrong here?

    I thought that part of being in a relationship was socialising with you OH.
    My boyfriend and i see alot of each other, but only in the evenings if we're watching tv, or maybe going for a bite to eat, or cinema maybe.

    He often invites me to spend time with his family, drinking in relations houses at the weekends etc, but he has never met any of my friends and says he just doesnt enjoy going to clubs etc. Thats all fine, but any time he goes out with his staff, or the lads, they go to pubs, clubs, the works!

    I used to go out all the time when i was single, every weekend i'd be in town with the girls/lads whatever. I never understood this girls night/lads night thing, i have a mixed group of friends who all go out together.

    So if i invite him out with us he doesnt want to, makes excuses to go to his family or something, i dont enjoy my night as much because when im out having a few drinks with friends, either people go off snogging etc, or their OH's come in! Yet if he is goin on a night out he wouldnt think of inviting me, cause he's with 'the lads' or his staff, who are mixed but ive never met any of them (i dont want to push in on them if im not invited).

    This gets to me to be honest, because ive pretty much stopped going out at the weekends to spend time with him, and tonight when i dropped hints that i'd like to go out soon, he was just like 'yeah you should'.

    Am i over reacting? is it too much to want your boyfriend to come on a night out with you now and again? i always agree to his family parties!

    we're together about nine months, and some of my friends have never met him ffs! (in other ways we get on great etc..all good)
    any ideas?


Comments

  • #2
    Nervous Wreck
    Closed Accounts Posts: 16,115 ✭✭✭✭Nervous Wreck


    Put the foot down. Obviously don't be making him go out alla time if he's not into it but you can pretty much justifiably demand a once-off. Seems to be bothering you. Have an argument about it if need be but let him know it's important to you.


  • #3
    bubblewrap
    Closed Accounts Posts: 405 ✭✭bubblewrap


    How rude, why not next time he invites you to a family party, turn it down, not in an offensive way - just explain you aren't obliged to go just as he isn't when you invite him out.


  • #4
    Mr. Incognito
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,798 ✭✭✭Mr. Incognito


    God you people are a bit nasty.

    Why don't you invite him to meet your friends in a night that doesn't revolve around drink, pubs and clubs. I guess he just hasn't gotten the idea that you can go clubbing with your missus. Poor him.

    Bring him out to a gig, Wheelans and the Village have live bands every week for example and, what do you your friends happen to be there too. What a co-incidence.


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