Looks versus personality?

LegacyUser

work with a girl who i get on very well with. other people in work say the two of us are very similar and have the same personality. when we both became single in the last few months, people thought it was only matter of time till something happened between us. on work nights out we tend to draw towards each other cause we get on well. after one night out with work recently we ended up having alot to drink and ended up in bed together. thing is if im being totally honest, i don't really fancy her. when i see her i think what a sound girl, with other people i am usually interested in its something in their looks that appeals to me initially. im defo not the type of guy who bases everything on looks cause i know for a fact that if i dont find a persons personality attractive then im not interested no matter what they look like. so what im wondering is, do people think a relationship can work based on personalities? i dont want to get into the habbit of something keeps happening between us on work nights out if i end up thinking i dont really see this going anywhere, i dont wanna mess her about either.
opinions?

Katgurl

you like her but you don't fancy her. there's nothing much you can do about it.

However, do say something to her & be kind. Tell her you think she's great but you just see her as a friend & you don't wanna mess that up.

*Honey*

A relationship based purely on looks is a relationship doomed to die I'm afraid. Personality is probably one of the most important things ... however, you also have to fancy someone to have a good relationship, there has to be that spark, that sexual tension.

Talk to her, tell her you're so lucky to have her as a friend but that's where it ends for you. Hopefully she didn't feel a spark either and is thinking the same thing as you!

R.D. aka MR.D

You definitly have to fancy her, its not fair on her to start a sexual relationship and not find her attractive.

When she dresses up all nice for you and really makes the effort it would be so hurtful just to have you thinking 'oh she looks grand'.

Just tell her your not ready for anything and don't think it would out between you. And whatever you do don't hint that you don't find her attractive. And don't go around telling people that either incase she might find out, you've already slept with her so hearing that would be even more devastating.

BubbleWrap85

It's not unheard of to become attracted to someone. Perhaps you've just never thought of her in that light before. It is possible the more you get to know someone, the more you fancy them...

cantdecide

The other thing is that just because you're similar doesn't mean you're compatible. Similarly, you can be compatible with someone who isn't in the least bit like you.

Like most guys, I can meet someone and quickly know if it's there or not. Within 5 minutes, an average girl can become stunning or a stunning girl can become a minger. It will rarely change with time for me. If you're not feeling it, then that should be that. No biggie.