Should I be put off by older woman?

Interestingview

This should now be in correct wording?
Personal Issue - to me

Ok.
This is a tricky question but I'll od my best to ask without offending.
As a guy in my early 30's and never slept with a older woman, I always imagined that older women would be much more exciting in bed as they have experenced more and know what they like, are less into "I look great", and know what they like....
Most younger woman, not that there has been a lot don't seem to know exactly what they like and if they do they dont wanna tell you. I also find younger + selfish, I want it all where I find a lot of my pleasure comes from giving pleasure.

So Views and please let us know if you are younger or older?

TheDollyParton

I'm not really sure what you're asking, but I can tell you there are plenty of women in their 20s and 30s who know what they want and aren't afraid to ask about it. I'm one of them! If you're experience is that they are insecure and afraid to be honest then I think you're going for the wrong women. Also maybe they just need a little more encouragement?

towel401

Of course you shouldn't be 'put off' by older women. A lot of them are hawt, also much nicer than the young ones. i find young girls are a lot more bitchy while the older ones have a more relaxed outlook on life. ya know

declanx

No.

star-pants

So you're saying older = better and should you be put off by this?
By your logic if older is better, then no you shouldn't.

But you can't tar age groups with the same brush. Some could be 50 odd and still be unsure. Others might be 23 and know exactly what they want

bnagrrl

How is this a PI?
You seem to have a problem with younger woman, maybe you had a bad experience in the past? Maybe you need to talk to the women you go out with, gain their trust and talk openly about what you both want in and out of bed. Many young women know what they want, talk to them and you will find out.
You shouldn't be put off by older women but unless you learn how to communicate properly you won't have much success there either.
On a side note many older women are just as interested in their looks as younger ones, just because you reach a certain age doesn't mean you stop taking in pride in how you look or present yourself.

Oryx

You are in your 30s. So what is 'older'? 35? 65? 80?

Just find a woman you like. Forget about her age. If she doesnt know how to tell you what she likes, then wayheyy youve got lots to talk about with her, Id see that as part of the fun. Finding out. Everyones different, its more about your influences than your age, and no matter who you are with, you can learn, teach, and be taught by them.

Wibbs

TheDollyParton wrote: »

I'm not really sure what you're asking,

bnagrrl wrote:

How is this a PI?

+1

Just because you change the title and say it's personal, then copy and paste your previous closed thread does not make it personal. I'd like further input as to why this is a personal issue for you or I'm closing this thread too.

aare

Well, personally I am most definately one of the "younger women"...but I seem to have somehow aquired a body that is on it's 2nd half century (which weirds ME out as much as anyone else).

However equal we are in every other way, a relationship between a younger man and a much older woman has a glass ceiling that does not exist between a younger woman and a much older man, simply because, over a certain age, there can never, realistically, be children.

Fine if all you are into are casual, short to mid, term relationships, but just how do you guarantee, when you begin a relationship, that both of your feelings will stay in that short to mid term range?

If I entered into a committed relationship with a much younger man (quoth she, as though a queue had already formed:rolleyes:) I would be denying him the choice of having a family, while offering him the chance to keep me company while I grow old and die.

Unless I was very rich and could offer him a head start, in other ways, to compensate (I couldn't), I could not personally live with doing that to someone I loved, and for me, that is an absolute "deal breaker".

As far as casual sex is concerned, you will probably find an older woman is just the same as a younger one, but with more wobbly bits, possibly more insecurities (whether they benefit, or bite, you) and far more likely to see you coming from the next county...if all you want is to use their age to make you feel more appreciated.

aare

Oryx wrote: »

You are in your 30s. So what is 'older'? 35? 65? 80?

I have a male relative, in his 50s, in a long term, part time relationship with a married woman, almost 30 years older than him. My pet name for her is Miriam Blaylock...with cause...but I confess a sneaking admiration for her sheer front...;)

Total agreement with the rest of your post...

Interestingview

Wibbs wrote: »

+1

Just because you change the title and say it's personal, then copy and paste your previous closed thread does not make it personal. I'd like further input as to why this is a personal issue for you or I'm closing this thread too.

It is a personal issue because It affects my life.
I find a lot of younger woman only interested in clothes/going out/watchin stupid programes on tv.
Ollder have more to say...lived more..done more... why not debate this and get the publics view.

Silverfish

Interestingview wrote: »

It is a personal issue because It affects my life.
I find a lot of younger woman only interested in clothes/going out/watchin stupid programes on tv.
Ollder have more to say...lived more..done more... why not debate this and get the publics view.

So why are you looking to be put off older women?

If you prefer older women, go out with older women.

If you prefer younger women, go out with them.

Its hardly a personal issue.

If you want to debate which is better, start a poll in AH or Humanities. This forum is for issues.

aare

Interestingview wrote: »

I find a lot of younger woman only interested in clothes/going out/watchin stupid programes on tv.

Let me save you a lot of trouble by pointing out that older women are no different, worse if anything...and, worse again, we tend to be rather proud of it.:D (spend an afternoon with my mum and her immaculately groomed friends some time and THEN tell me I am wrong.)

You need to get out and do your OWN living...I know I had done all the most exciting (and scandalous, but I'd have to log out get into details ) parts of my life before I was 35.

Interestingview

Where is a good place to go to meet older ladies, never see any in a club or can't exactly approch in a pub.

towel401

Interestingview wrote: »

Where is a good place to go to meet older ladies, never see any in a club or can't exactly approch in a pub.

gardening centre. get a job there

Interestingview

towel401 wrote: »

gardening centre. get a job there

Haha very funny
thanks for the advice.