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  • 07-03-2009 2:37pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hello. My relationship is in tatters but for some reason I cant leave, because I do still love him, but I dont know if I can see a future with him. My sisters say I have no balls (more on that later).

    We've been going out 3 years. Living together for 2. It hasnt been the happiest of 3 years but recently it has all gone a bit crazy. First of all he is useless with money, always has been. He has been in and out of jobs (let go due to slow business). He is currently awaiting social welfare and doesnt have a bean to his name.

    About 2 years ago when he was out of work he asked my Dad for money. About €800. He gave it to him and my dad says again on another occasion he gave him €400 (BF says he cannot remember this).

    Anyways, BF tried to give him back a few bob but my dad said to hold onto it, to pay him back in full. I found out last night (from what my dad says) he never paid anything back.

    I am so mad and have been crying all night. Also, my sister accused him of stealing money from her house (no proof. She wont talk to him. She wont look him in the face and accuse him). He says he didnt do it, and I oddly believe him. My sisters and I didnt talk for 2 months. Last night we met up to have it out and they still believe he took money and say they will never speak to him again and said some nasty stuff to me.

    I dont know what to do. I do still have big feelings for him, but all this stress has made us fight more. Also, we havent had sex in months because i dont know what I am feeling. I feel so bad for my family and my dad. BF doesnt have a penny to his name and I am scared if I do leave him what will happen. I am so frightened of the future. He says he is trying to change. I dont know if I believe him. in someways he is great and in others he is not. I am scared of being on my own also. At the sametime all this going on, the thoughts of being without him is unbareable. I cant eat and sleep and my eyes are constantly puff from crying. Can anyone relate to this?


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  • #2
    Salome
    Closed Accounts Posts: 570 ✭✭✭Salome


    Why would your sister lie? Why would you father say that he lent your BF 400 euro if he didn't do it?

    Come on, blood is thicker than water. Take off the rose-coloured glasses and realise that this loser BF you have is taking you for a ride.

    Why are you so scared of being alone? Isn't it worse to be stuck with a kleptomaniac BF and being desperately unhappy and not talking to your family?

    Wake up.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    OP here. Why is it the meaner a guy treats you, the more we cling on?

    I am with him 3 years and know no difference. It is very hard to start out again.


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