Sex Sans Alcohol

LegacyUser

Hi,
Recently I decided that I really need to give up alcohol because at 33 (Male) I have spent the last 15 years from week to week pi**ing away my weekends with one night stands and missing work on Mondays etc. Something that concerns me is sober sex as I haven't had sex withoout drink being involved for about 7 years and back then a lot of time I ejac'd prematurely (sometimes even when drunk). This is really holding me back as I don't feel confident enough to take it to this stage with a woman as I know I will ejac prematurely. The thoughts of this is turning me back to drink so I can cover up or brush aside the problem.

Does anyone have any advice how to prevent this or build my confidence in this regard.

Kevster

Droopy, what did you do in the past when there was something to do with which you had little experience? You just went and did it, right? This is no different. Don't you dare resort back to the alcohol because that's not doing you any good at all.

collegegal

You need a clap on the back for acknowledging the fact you need to give up the drink, and congrats for doing it. You could look into cognitive behavioural therapy (cbt) it's a process that evaluates how you think, then brings you back to why you think that way in the first place and finally teaching you new ways to think in situations. I myself have gone through certain rough patches in life and have benefitted ememsley from cbt and if anything it's worth a bit researching into for yourself. I'm not saying it will fix the world or anything, it helped me and my situation and maybe it might help you get to the route of why u ejac prematurely.

Senna

Your not 26yr old anymore and neither is your penis:D Premature ejaculation happens more when your young (it did with me anyway) and you might be surprised how your older sober body might react.
Dont over think things that dont need thought, you can think about how to get the woman and then get her back to your place, let the rest come naturally. (no pun intended)

p.s. watch the film "There's something about Mary" something about not going out with a loaded gun

collegegal

Senna wrote: »

p.s. watch the film "There's something about Mary" something about not going out with a loaded gun

good idea senna!

Nervous Wreck

Masturbate often so you don't have a big build up. And by now, you should be mentally and physically 'used to' sex so it shouldn't be as much an issue. If you're having regular sober sex and still find yourself prematurely ejaculating after a couple of months, consult your gp. There can sometimes be medical reasons.

LegacyUser

Durex Performa

aare

You can always wait for the "topic to come up" and actually TELL the lady in question that you haven't made love to a woman sober for years, and frankly, she is so goddam GORGEOUS you can't make any promises about the quality of your self control, but you can only do your best...

Then ad lib from there...;)

Good luck...because I suspect that making love sober will blow your socks off for a while until you get used to it...probably a good idea to get as much practice as you can?

...and kudos for choosing to turn your life around...