I need some Sex Education

LegacyUser

Seriously...I'm so naive when it comes to sexual issues...I'm 18 years old....

A few questions:

(i) Clitoris: When you enter the penis into the vagina, does your penis actually touch the clitoris pleasuring the woman, or does it not, but the stretch in the vagina from the penis affects the clitoris? Like, does the penis have to enter the vagina at a certain angle to touch the clitoris, or not?

(ii) Foreskin: There's something that disturbs me about sex. It's the foreskin. I have this weird fear that if I inserted my penis in, the foreskin would go back further and further, up to a point where it hurts and goes back too much because it's very tight to enter,. From all the erections I've had, my foreskin has never gone completely back (like to the point where people get circumcised fully, that far back) and so do you have to pull it back before entering the vagina, or just enter with it half back with half of the penis exposed.

(iii) If I ever tough my exposed penis, it feels very sensitive and nearly uncomfortable. Of course, when I masturbate, I never touch it, and so isn't sore etc. But if it's sensitive then, wouldn't it be sensitive if I entered a vagina..making it a little painful or sore?

Sorry if these questions seem like they have obvious answers but I genuinely don't know the answers, and makes me unwilling to have sex until I have a better idea what's going to happen.

Bottle_of_Smoke

(i)Ad far as a I know, penetrative sex doesn't pleasure the clitoris, but does pleasure the vagina.

(ii) & (iii) The vagina creates natural lube which covers any problems here

Piste

i)No. Relatively speaking they're miles apart, the penis doesn't touch it at all.
ii)A wet vagina reduced friction so the foreskin wouldn't be rolled back all the way
iii)Again, the vadge will sort this out.


It could be that you have a super-sensitive penis to the point of being sore. Maybe buy some lube and see what it feels like masturbating with it, if it's too sore it might mean you're over-sensitive.

LegacyUser

But do people touch the exposed penis when masturbating?

I don't, I just maneuver the skin outside...am I wrong to do so...

Piste

I have no idea, I'm not a guy


Maybe go on to those amateur porn sites like redtube or youporn and watch various videos of guys ****, you'll be able to compare techniques then.

Zaph

sexissues wrote: »

But do people touch the exposed penis when masturbating?

I don't, I just maneuver the skin outside...am I wrong to do so...

As with everything when it comes to sex, there is no right or wrong way to do things and it doesn't matter what other people do as long as it works for you (and your partner once you've progressed beyond masturbation).

Craft25

(ii) Foreskin: There's something that disturbs me about sex. It's the foreskin. I have this weird fear that if I inserted my penis in, the foreskin would go back further and further, up to a point where it hurts and goes back too much because it's very tight to enter,. From all the erections I've had, my foreskin has never gone completely back (like to the point where people get circumcised fully, that far back) and so do you have to pull it back before entering the vagina, or just enter with it half back with half of the penis exposed.

(iii) If I ever tough my exposed penis, it feels very sensitive and nearly uncomfortable. Of course, when I masturbate, I never touch it, and so isn't sore etc. But if it's sensitive then, wouldn't it be sensitive if I entered a vagina..making it a little painful or sore?

Sorry if these questions seem like they have obvious answers but I genuinely don't know the answers, and makes me unwilling to have sex until I have a better idea what's going to happen.

You could have 'Phimosis' or 'frenulum Breve'... look up the wikipedia links & google from there (beware pictures of erect penises lol :eek: - for any sensitive souls out there!).. these are conditions that make it tight for the foreskin to come back all the way, they can caise discomfort, premature ejaculation and even a snapped banjo string.. go to your doctor or a urologist!!

When properly aroused theres no better place to put a sore willy than a wet vagina.. lol

Different angles and positions lead to more clitoral stimulation... it's not something you should be worried about.. more something you can explore when you are with a nice girl you can experiment with..

(BTW.. when you say penis exposed i presume you mean 'glans'.. it's a bit confusing)

LegacyUser

Zaph wrote: »

As with everything when it comes to sex, there is no right or wrong way to do things and it doesn't matter what other people do as long as it works for you (and your partner once you've progressed beyond masturbation).

But I'd like to know if my penis is sensitive too much...or normally sensitive.

It's not painful to touch...just slightly sensitive...this normal?

Latchy

Yes it is normal to feel senisitive .Both of the sexs have their ' vunerable ' senistive spots .You just found discovered yours

Craft25

sexissues wrote: »

But I'd like to know if my penis is sensitive too much...or normally sensitive.

It's not painful to touch...just slightly sensitive...this normal?

WHen you say penis you mean GLANS (helmet).. jeez you really do need education..

We could do a survey if you like.. i dont touch my glans with a dry hand as yes it is sensitive - super sensitive, but with the natural lubrication of a vagina or lube products it is a nice feeling - alone or with a woman.. it has to be, thats what makes you cum!!

the difference between sensitive and painful (ie too sensitive) is only something you can judge yourself

Joey the lips

sexissues wrote: »

Seriously...I'm so naive when it comes to sexual issues...I'm 18 years old....

A few questions:

(i) Clitoris: When you enter the penis into the vagina, does your penis actually touch the clitoris pleasuring the woman, or does it not, but the stretch in the vagina from the penis affects the clitoris? Like, does the penis have to enter the vagina at a certain angle to touch the clitoris, or not? When you enter the Vagina the Clit is on the bone just above it. However do mnot rub it vigourosly like your rubbing a lamp. Women mags say play with it softly or even make a V sign and play with both sides of it while your man in inside. Better still ask the women what way she enjoys it. It should be a good discovery for you both

(ii) Foreskin: There's something that disturbs me about sex. It's the foreskin. I have this weird fear that if I inserted my penis in, the foreskin would go back further and further, up to a point where it hurts and goes back too much because it's very tight to enter,. From all the erections I've had, my foreskin has never gone completely back (like to the point where people get circumcised fully, that far back) and so do you have to pull it back before entering the vagina, or just enter with it half back with half of the penis exposed.

(iii) If I ever tough my exposed penis, it feels very sensitive and nearly uncomfortable. Of course, when I masturbate, I never touch it, and so isn't sore etc. But if it's sensitive then, wouldn't it be sensitive if I entered a vagina..making it a little painful or sore?


The next 2 points forget about it just concentrate on other area's like kissing her brests and this will sort it self out as she get aroused. If all else buy lube like ky jelly


Sorry if these questions seem like they have obvious answers but I genuinely don't know the answers, and makes me unwilling to have sex until I have a better idea what's going to happen.

Ladies this is you chance to tell him how you like it,,,, Maybe us men will learn more....

wylo

OP, years ago Id a similar situation to your second problem,my advice, when masturbating always try and pull it back a tiny bit and see if your ever making progress, you should eventually be able to pull it back fully as if you had the snip, it might be a uncomfortable but if its actually hurting stop, and seek medical advice,
However besides that , that wont happen during sex anyway because she will be naturally lubed to the point where your foreskin isnt really moving as much as your probably thinking.

As for your second problem, yes its very very sensitive and not comfortable to touch when dry, one of the reasons us blokes sometimes have to do "adjustments" down there, as others said, her vagina isnt dry. I suggest you lube it at home some day and touch it, you'll notice the difference, now combine this with being fully erect and its even less sensitive.

passive

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& for info on ladybits

http://www.clitical.com/

Gyalist

Porn sites are hardly educational.

OP, this site has all the answers that you need.

Nevyn

Go and get a copy of the joy of sex and read it.
There are plenty of onlines places to read about the human body and the exploration of it.
The clitoris is more then just the tip of it, it has an internal structure inside a woman.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YhoSUoZ_uJ0

passive

Gyalist wrote: »

Porn sites are hardly educational.

OP, this site has all the answers that you need.

That's a pretty sweeping statement that I sincerely doubt you can back up...but...em... Those sites aren't porn, is my more immediate objection.

winston82

(iii) If I ever tough my exposed penis, it feels very sensitive and nearly uncomfortable. Of course, when I masturbate, I never touch it, and so isn't sore etc. But if it's sensitive then, wouldn't it be sensitive if I entered a vagina..making it a little painful or sore?

Yes the lube from the vagina will take care of this issue. Might be sore goin in first but you will soon forget about the pain;)

Also, how do you masterbate wthout touching it? teach me:cool:

Gyalist

Piste wrote: »

I have no idea, I'm not a guy


Maybe go on to those amateur porn sites like redtube or youporn and watch various videos of guys ****, you'll be able to compare techniques then.

passive wrote: »

That's a pretty sweeping statement that I sincerely doubt you can back up...but...em... Those sites aren't porn, is my more immediate objection.

Maybe you shouldn't make hasty assumptions. Of course i can back up my statement but it would be off-topic for this forum.

In any case the quote above yours was what I had in mind when I made my original statement.

Overheal

if you arent able to comfortably retract your foreskin it may be something you have to speak with your GP about.

Posy

Gyalist wrote: »

OP, this site has all the answers that you need.

Thanks for posting that link. I thought it'd be nothing I didn't know already but I actually learned a bit about myself from it. 'Down below' a bit less mysterious!

(Makes me wonder why I was taught NOTHING about my 'bits' in school. No wonder so many young people are angst ridden about what's normal and what's not. Feckin country!) :rolleyes:

OP, as others have said, maybe a visit to a GP isn't a bad idea. Firstly if you have 'man problems' later on you'll have 'been there, done that' doctor wise. And having someone have a look and reassure you that you're fine and 'normal' may really help confidence and relaxation wise.

LegacyUser

I only knew about the facts of life when I bought myself a book called, "Every Woman" by Dr Derek Llewellyn-Jones. It is a great book and will tell you everything you want to know. It is not expensive to buy. Easons sell copies of the book.