Friend.?

Ave Sodalis

I have a girl who says she is my friend but she has been driving me mental.! She is always contradicting everything I say and she is always saying she has something to tell me but can't trust me. Yet I have never told any secret of hers. She is always accusing me of talking behind her back and gets upset even if I wasn't.

Last month was the worst. I found out something serious and that upset me bout a close relative and when I told her she ignored me and started talking about someone she barely knows who had'nt answered a text she sent two days before. That was fine, I told her I would sort it out later when I'm okay again. At this stage I was still in tears, and she knew this but she hurt me more when she threatened to commit suicide if I didn't help her by the end of the day.

I had helped her out of every other situation. For example, calmed her down when her pregnant sister had a check up and she was frantic in case something was wrong. Or stoped her worrying too much about exams.

Now we are still 'friends' but I don't want to be. Although I have helped her further, I never once got any help when I needed it. It feels like she is just taking advantage of me, despite begging to be friends last year.

It's also quite confusing as she can be so nice and just take the wildest mood swings to being a cow. She is only like this with me too, not my other friend. She even once pushed me into a door because I was laughin and she didn't know what the joke was.

I have told her that she is like his, in case she didnt realise it. She didn't listen.

What can I do.? How can I stop being friends without hurting her feelings? What if she does hurt herself like she threatened to do before, and that was with someone she only texted once or twice.? Shes really stressing me out.

Otis Driftwood

She isnt a friend,she is a user.Tell her to sort it out or you wont have anything to do with her.It will be tough but you dont need that kind of stress.

bluecell99

She is not a friend - merely a selfish head wrecker.Cut all ties and move on.It's not your problem to take on screwed up people's behaviour.

Denerick

She threatened suicide on you? This girl is disturbed, seriously. She treats you like a doormat, cut her out is what I say, honestly.

claireeney

she sounds too self absorbed to commit suicide. dont mind her. she's an attention seeking brat. with friends like that who needs enemies???

in2dblue

After all I read in your post OP I wouldn't be worrying about her feelings as it doesn't look like she cared for yours much.
Cut all ties, ignore them and move on, I am sure there is enough drama in your life without that attention seeking selfishness.

Salome

She's not a friend, she's a drama queen and a user. She is only happy when the spotlight is on her and whatever drama she has conjured up.

Dump this toxic "friend" - you owe her nothing. And the suicide threat, it's just a way to keep you under her thumb. Get out now.

Ave Sodalis

Thanks guys. I think I just needed for someone ta tell me to do it. I'll wait until she does something again (belive me, at this rate it wont be long) and tell her. Thanks again. I'll let yas know the story.:)

Salome

Good luck OP - there's enough misery in the world, you don't have to accept this kind of behaviour from someone who says they're your friend. You're doing the right thing.

yellowcurl

Best of luck! You don't need someone like that.