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  • 03-03-2009 5:17pm
    #1
    ecdl07
    Closed Accounts Posts: 50 ✭✭


    i'm 16 and know I'm gay. I havent come out yet but people in school tell me that I look and sound gay. Every day in school i get called names and mocked over it. I can't get to sleep at night thinking of going into school the next day! I wish I was dead.! Any advice?


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  • #2
    sardineta
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 145 ✭✭sardineta


    There are plenty of gay people that do not look or sound gay. Perhaps in the short term, you could modify the behaviours which betray you.


  • #3
    vandermeyde
    Closed Accounts Posts: 200 ✭✭vandermeyde


    Being 16 is sh*t op. It's like being a butterfly that's broken out of the chrysalis of childhood but your wings haven't dried in the sun yet so you can't take off and fly away.

    Look, firstly, your gay, that's nothing to be ashamed off. Tell someone, maybe a close friend, your parents, get the elephant in the room off your back.
    Secondly, another year or so and you'll be in college, experimenting all around you and wondering what all the fuss was about.

    Rise above it, if they call you names, just ignore it. Yes, it hurts, but take that hurt and use it to do something constructive. Shove their criticisms back down their throat, and drop this talk of wishing you were dead, you're worth more than that.

    And by the by, if anyone ever get physical, call the cops.


  • #4
    mysterious
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,133 ✭✭✭mysterious


    sardineta wrote: »
    There are plenty of gay people that do not look or sound gay. Perhaps in the short term, you could modify the behaviours which betray you.

    Why should he?

    He has to accept himself. If he doesn't who will.
    P.S there is nothing wrong with been gay.

    It's just you have more feminine qualities than male qualities, but the duality to this you have a male body.

    Accept who are, and people will too.


  • #5
    Otis Driftwood
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,925 ✭✭✭Otis Driftwood


    mysterious wrote: »
    Why should he?

    He has to accept himself. If he doesn't who will.
    P.S there is nothing wrong with been gay.

    It's just you have more feminine qualities than male qualities, but the duality to this you have a male body.

    Accept who are, and people will too.

    I dont think Sardineta implied there is anything wrong with being gay.The OP has stated that people are able to see that he is gay so I think what Sarindeta meant was if he is acting flamboyantly or what ever then maybe try and tone it down to make his like easier by not drawing attention to himself.Of course there is nothing wrong with being gay but 16 year old boys(ie his classmates)can be absolute bastards and they will use anything they see as being a difference to bully and make themselves feel better.

    OP,have you a guidance counsellor or a teacher you are close to that you can confide in?


  • #6
    Borneo Fnctn
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,378 ✭✭✭Borneo Fnctn


    There's nothing wrong with you. There's something wrong with them. Don't hate yourself. You've done nothing wrong. Once you leave school everything will be alright. If you go to college you'll realize that it's not that big a deal.


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  • #7
    RacoonQueen
    Moderators, Sports Moderators Posts: 20,366 Mod ✭✭✭✭RacoonQueen


    Don't worry about what other people think of you. There's nothing wrong with being gay, you can't help or change who you are so YOU have to accept it before you can expect anyone else to.


  • #8
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    School is tough for lots of people, straight or gay, and right now it seems that you're in the very unlucky position of being the one who's "outside" the gang and whom everyone else feels it's ok to pick on. Really, just try to ignore them and try to be yourself as much as possible - I don't think it's a good idea to try to modify your behaviour just to fit in. However, there's no harm in keeping a low profile if that makes getting through the day a bit easier.

    These people sound like sh***s. They will not be your friends in future years, you'll have many other, funnier, kinder and better friends but that might not happen until you get out of school and get away from this environment. My advice would be to work hard at your studies (which will keep your options open in the future, esp. if you want to go to college, where as another poster has pointed out you'll find that being gay is no big deal),perhaps find a hobby that really interests you, and just ignore the people bullying you.

    Also, you might find more useful advice at https://belongto.org/support.aspx A support group for gay & lesbian teens.


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