Ending it

LegacyUser

hey

Im going out with a girl for about 2 months now and shes a great catch but i just feel were two very different people. Shes my first girlfriend and im new to this. So just wondering if ye have any opinions on the best way to end it. im going to do it in person but i want to hurt her as little as possible.

thanks.

ownknee

byebyebirdie wrote: »

hey

Im going out with a girl for about 2 months now and shes a great catch but i just feel were two very different people. Shes my first girlfriend and im new to this. So just wondering if ye have any opinions on the best way to end it. im going to do it in person but i want to hurt her as little as possible.

thanks.

Tell her what you just posted. She's probably going to be very pissed off but she can't hold a grudge against you forever if you're honest with her.
Best of luck.

Otis Driftwood

Just be straight with her.We have all had to do it and its never nice but just tell her how you are feeling.

John Mason

just send her this thread

star-pants

Not really a good trend to be starting with - sending a thread or texting.

If you feel you'd like to do it in person, then do, I think it's more decent that way. You can tell her what you've told us, that she's great but that there's no spark, and that you feel it's unfair to continue when you're not feeling it. She may take it badly but we've all been on the recieving end, and we get through it.

estar

just sit her down and tell her what you feel, leaving out anything that might be negative about her. its ok not to want to go out with someone, and part of going out with someone is the possibility of being broken up with.

just say - look i like you as a friend, but for me going out is not working out. i think you are great, and have had great times. bring her for coffee maybe. then listen to what she has to say, if anything. wish her the best. that should be it.

i think its lovely you care enough about her not to want to hurt her, and i hope she sees this as well.

if you want to be a nice guy wait a while before seeing someone else, you are only going out 2 months, so a couple of weeks at least? if you leave a bit of time its more respectful and you stand a better chance of staying on good terms.

best of luck

smileykey

Just be honest with her and tell her what you've said here - she may not accept it there and then and may want the "real reason" but she'l accept it eventually. Give her some space afterwards, maybe not an entire withdrawl of contact (unless she explicitly asks for it) but there's nothing worse than someone breaking up with you and then still hounding you with texts, etc. - it sends very confusing messages especially for someone who wants to hear something other than what you're saying.

Also be prepared for anger, maybe she feels the same as you but its likley she doesn't and has no idea this is coming.

Good luck and don't feel too bad about it, it has to be done.

LegacyUser

op here. ya i dont think she will take it well as she said she loved me at the weekend.but its something i need to do. thanks for your help boardsies