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I'm a jealous possessive cow

  • 02-03-2009 11:03am
    #1
    bubblewrap
    Closed Accounts Posts: 405 ✭✭


    Hi, I have already posted this under unknown but it went to the moderators and as I wanted quicker responses, I have registered.

    Anyhow basically the title says it all, I am driving my man away and I hate myself.

    I nag him constantly, it causes row after row, I check his phone, I question him, trying to catch him out for things that don't exist. I imagine him with other girls then believe he is really doing it.

    I need to change, please help. :(


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  • #2
    Kevster
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,980 ✭✭✭Kevster


    Hi,

    Whilst it is good that you have come here looking for advice, the advice you get here will be minimal. I honestly believe that you need to get professional help for this. I was diagnosed with OCD a few years ago and it sounds like this could be something similar.

    Kevin


  • #3
    AngryBadger
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,251 ✭✭✭AngryBadger


    By not trusting your current boyfriend because of transgressions committed by past boyfriends you are

    1) Not allowing this relationship to develop at all, how can it if you don't trust him?

    2) Not treating him with any real respect, since you obviously don't trust him so whatever "respect" you claim to have for him can't be anything more than window dressing.

    3) Not dealing with your own issues and insecurities. Just because you were cheated on in the past doesn't mean you deserved it. Maybe the guy(s) who cheated on you were jerks, maybe they were kids, maybe they were just drunk or stupid, that doesn't somehow mean you should be walking around thinking there's no possible way a guy could ever be faithful to you.

    Either decide to trust your boyfriend and enjoy whatever comes, or continue torturing him and yourself.

    Your call.


  • #4
    star-pants
    Closed Accounts Posts: 13,429 ✭✭✭✭star-pants


    Double post
    perhaps should be merged?


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