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I have good friends that Im never in the mood for

  • 01-03-2009 11:46pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Hi,
    I know this isn't really a big problem as such, but I'm just wondering does anyone feel the same about people they know.

    I have some really really good friends that I'm never in the mood for talking to, its very strange, these are great people who also have their own lives that they enjoy and I just cant understand why I don't like answering the phone to them.

    Dont get me wrong Ill make the effort for the sake of it, and the strange thing is, if I do meet up with them, or do chat to them on the phone Ill have a great laugh with them , and afterwards Ill be wondering what was wrong with me, but then the following week again Ill find myself 'not in the mood' for them.

    The reason Im asking is because I feel guilty alot of the time when I avoid meeting them.
    There is absolutely nothing wrong with these people thats the strange thing, and also its only 2 or 3 people I know and thats it.
    I just wanna know does everybody have certain people in their lives that they like but never really wanna meet up with or whatever, or am I just a weirdo?


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  • #2
    star-pants
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    Hi OP - are you feeling happy about other things in general? Are there other friends you're ok to talk to all the time?
    I know when I was stressed and down it was such an effort to meet up with some of my best friends and I'd nearly dread it. But when I met up with them we'd have a great oul laugh and same as yourself I'd wonder why I felt so odd. I still get that from time to time, but I have some health and personal issues at the moment and I'm on meds for that. (not saying you need meds!) It's almost like an anxiety thing with meeting up with people, you have to be happy and carefree (you feel) and you still end up having fun but you nearly want to pull out up to the last minute.

    If there's other things affected in your life, perhaps talk to your GP, but otherwise I'd say the best cure is to make plans more often with them and remember that they're your friends and you don't have to be 100% happy or perfect every time you see them. And try and relax and not think about it too much when you do make plans.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Thanks for the advice, I have no medical issues physically , but when I think about it , maybe its a slight anxiety thing, the way you mention 'almost dreading' it puts it down to a Tee. Im always left afterwards wondering why I was dreading meeting these people, but its only a few people(admittedly people I dont talk to as often as other friends but still)
    Anyway cheers, puts a bit of an explanation to it.


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