Wedding - Who to invite?

LegacyUser

I just found out that my sister is getting married and I of course have been told that I should bring someone with me - a female of course.

Well I have had a girlfriend for about 3 months now. I don't see her all that often but to be honest I am happy about that. We became gf and bf without me even realising it and I am not into her all that much. Only one of my friends knows about her as I recently moved from where I used to live and not even my parents know. Every girl I have been with in the past has dumped me so I do not see the point in telling people that we are together when it never lasts long. I actually would prefer to be single.... That's just a bit of background as here is my actual question.

So should I bring my best female friend of many years (who I would do anything for, love to bits (in a friends way obviously) and know I would have a great time with)?
Or should I bring my gf who will prob have dumped me by the time the wedding is on, and if she hasn't then I will have to introduce her to all my friends and things which i would rather do. When she dumps me it would mean that I would have to tell everyone we met that we are no longer together which is something I hate having to do.

Thanks everyone for taking the time to read this.

Otis Driftwood

If you are still with your GF you have to bring her.If you tell her you are thinking about bringing your best friend instead of her then you WILL get dumped mate.

aoibhebree

Can I ask what age you are OP?

kingtut

You have to tell her!! Or at least ask her

LadyJ

If you're not that into your girlfriend then why are you with her? Maybe you should break up with her and bring your friend to the wedding.

seamus

What ladyj said. You cannot bring a female friend to such an event over your gf, regardless of how long you've been going out

MagicMarker

Just go on your own ffs.

Dudess

Yeah, lol at the notion that people "have to" bring a +1 (which could be a complete stranger) to weddings where they know loads of people anyway - bloody hell, how expensive do people want their weddings to be?!

And OP, break up with your "girlfriend" - you say you're not even that into her, are glad you don't see her often, and would prefer to be single. Yet you're still with her. In a word: weird.

After that, either bring your female friend (although why can't it be a male friend?) or go on your own.

MissHoneyBun

aoibhebree wrote: »

Can I ask what age you are OP?

And what has that got to do with anything? The problem still stands, it's not as if anything changes if the OP is fourteen or forty!

OP sometimes it's nice to keep other people happy, usually it's best to keep yourself happy and occasionally, the two overlap.

In this instance I would say do what you want to do. Never mind people telling you that you can't bring another female over your girlfriend or you have to be going out with someone that you met in moonlight on the fourth day before they can accompany you to a wedding. I know it's a cliche but life's too short for such politics so to hell with the social expectations, do whatever's comfortable and enjoyable for you!

And yeah this means 1. Breaking up with the girl you don't want to be with (people are entitled to be with someone who wants to be with them too) 2. Staying single (because you say you'd prefer to be) 3. Bringing your friend whom you love and have fun with 4. Explaining to your sister and family that this is the arrangement you are comfortable with (it's unlikely they're going to place the presence of a +1 over your happiness)

Unfortunately life has a habit of throwing up enough hassle without going looking for more so keep it simple and try not to sweat the small stuff.

star-pants

Dudess wrote: »

And OP, break up with your "girlfriend" - you say you're not even that into her, are glad you don't see her often, and would prefer to be single. Yet you're still with her. In a word: weird.

Agreed -- you don't appear too interested in your girlfriend in general so that should be something you sort out soon. And then figure out your +1

Toots

My advice is don't invite your GF. Bring your friend. Might want to consider where things are going with your GF too.

dyl10

Meh, leave your girlfriend issue for another day.
3 months isn't a long time at the end of the day.

If you are unsure whether this girl is a girl you want to bring home and you think you'll have a better time with your best friend, then bring your best friend.

On another note, weddings and such can be a handy way of introducing new partners to the family!

It really isn't such a big deal.

Zaph

As a matter of interest, when is the wedding? If you've just found out it could be quite a while away. Given your current indifference towards her, do you still see yourself with your girlfriend then? If yes, you'll have to bring her, you have no option there. If no, why are you still calling her your girlfriend? Just break up with her and chalk it down to experience.

BaubleFreak

Unregistered wrote: »

I just found out that my sister is getting married and I of course have been told that I should bring someone with me - a female of course.

Well I have had a girlfriend for about 3 months now. I don't see her all that often but to be honest I am happy about that. We became gf and bf without me even realising it and I am not into her all that much. Only one of my friends knows about her as I recently moved from where I used to live and not even my parents know. Every girl I have been with in the past has dumped me so I do not see the point in telling people that we are together when it never lasts long. I actually would prefer to be single.... That's just a bit of background as here is my actual question.

So should I bring my best female friend of many years (who I would do anything for, love to bits (in a friends way obviously) and know I would have a great time with)?
Or should I bring my gf who will prob have dumped me by the time the wedding is on, and if she hasn't then I will have to introduce her to all my friends and things which i would rather do. When she dumps me it would mean that I would have to tell everyone we met that we are no longer together which is something I hate having to do.

Thanks everyone for taking the time to read this.

i disagree with a lot of people here. i say bring your friend. i take it your family know your friend? they don't know about your girlfriend. it's your sister's wedding, you don't want your memory of the day to be completely miserable. you have no obligation to bring your girlfriend at all especially as your family aren't even aware of her.

dyl10

and the last thing you want is to be looking at wedding photos in 20 years time and see some girl that you can't even remember her name!

If you're unsure, bring no one or bring your friend

minidazzler

You're being a right bollix stringing your girlfriend along like that, and if you were a friend of mine I would pull you on it. So Stop being a bollix and break up with her.


With regards the wedding, just bring your best friend if you will have a good time with them. It's an easy choice really!!!

Zaph

minidazzler wrote: »

You're being a right bollix stringing your girlfriend along like that, and if you were a friend of mine I would pull you on it. So Stop being a bollix and break up with her.


With regards the wedding, just bring your best friend if you will have a good time with them. It's an easy choice really!!!

minidazzler, kindly tone it down a bit, there are less confrontational ways of telling the OP what you think he should do.

Thanks

Zaph