Companionship

LegacyUser

Hey,

Today it apeared to me that Im confident goodlooking intelegent, funny in a goofy sort of way and yes single and 28.
I keep busy even tho, Im unemployed i hill walk, rock climb, and plenty of other sport's, My soical night life is'nt great. But ive got a good circle of friend's. Ive got high regard for my self and a lot of self asteam/beleaf im not lazy, im motivated quitely confident and looking for work etc but as well know things arnt exactly rosey but im making best of what i can do and the odd job here and there which puts a few extra quid in my back burner .
With my life going ok as in I am unemplyed and I do make the effort of looking for jobs and do plan to retrain my self have chosen and feild of work which would be chalanging, rewarding, fullfilling, all the things a great job should have feck the money...

The only real problem I have in my life is women Id like to have a companion, some one to spend time with talk with have fun with share things with. Dont get me wrong sometimes when I see my mates and the B/S there girlfriends give them, I'm glad i dont have one... So i dont mind being single.

Ive tried online dateing but its not for me I'm crap at making intros of what to say about ,my self and how to engage a conversation, through emails etc its allmost like i feel underpreasure from the minite i go to send a message, its just all fulls apart i dont know what to say etc.. It makes me feel very nevous which is ok i think it shows im human.

But i just seem to lack the juna say qua, i dont feel i do but obvously im doing something wrong....

out on the town i dont find it so hard i can talk to girls useually in the smoking area or when im buying a drink, i no a wide range of husseling/drinking tricks which allway's help break the ice... But as we all know women you meet in clubs rarely goes any where..


I dunno maybe you can relate maybe not but its nice just to get my thuaghts out there here some opinions

Kevster

I can relate, yeh. I just turned 26 and am fast realising that I've no social life and have given too much time to study and work in my life so far; and now i'm 'stuck' in that 'work hard' mentality and can't feckin' get out of it. All of my old friends have drifted away from me (well, it was I who drifted). My first girlfriend is married; another will be married next year.

We just have to overhaul our lives and make some new principles (and stick to them). I mean, would it be incorrect to say that you DO actually get invites to go places on Friday/saturday nights? I get invites, but I never accept them.

LegacyUser

Hey OP, im not being negative for the sake of it here but I think the reason why online dating hasn't worked and your intros aren't getting a response is because you can't spell at all. Women don't respond well to a guy who calls himself intelligent and then misspells every second word after it. Learn to spell properly.

Aside from that I do empathise with your situation, im 26 and single and do yearn for some meaningful companionship with a girl at this stage of my life. All i can say is that things have only ever happened for me in that department when I TOOK CHANCES. Dare to win the one you want.

Good luck

lolli

Unregistered wrote: »

Women don't respond well to a guy who calls himself intelligent and then misspells every second word after it. Learn to spell properly.

I dont agree with that at all. I have met lots of people from the internet and if they can spell or not does not come into it. Some people aren't the spellers due to learning disorders etc so its not something I would pay attention to.

Op, internet dating is for some people its not for others, it you are able to interact with women when you are out then dont worry. Just make more of an effort to get more and meet people. Keep the online dating profiles are see what happens, just try be yourself and dont come across as being sleazy or anything.

Salome

To be honest - bad spelling (for whatever reason) on a dating profile would be a dealbreaker for me too.

LegacyUser

bad spelling would be an instant turn off for me in the online dating scene too i'm afraid..

cantdecide

adviseplease. wrote: »

...But as we all know women you meet in clubs rarely goes any where...

lolli wrote: »

...internet dating is for some people its not for others...

My experience of online dating is that if you're the kind of person who is perfectly content with pulling in bars, then it will work for you. For the most part, if you're expecting it to work in the context of finding something meaningful, then you're wasting your time...

It will make you feel like freak or an oustider when you seem to not fit in with the life-amd-soul-of-the-party types but don't give in. It's a matter of trying to find love and companionship in unconventional ways. It's harder work but it has to be done...