Is this really weird?

LegacyUser

Going anon as this is quite embarrassing.

Going out with my lovely boyfriend for 4-5 months now. We were friends for a long time before that and so I heard about his lovelife. He's not a manwhore or anything but he has been with quite a lot of girls and so he's quite experienced in the bedroom. I've recently realised that the fact he's been with a lot of girls really turns me on. The other night when he was touching me, I thought about him touching others, tried not to but I couldn't help it. A few days earlier I found a letter (wasn't snooping, he asked me to find a document and this letter was lying open in the drawer) from a girl he's friends with who he had a fling with last year. She wrote about how she missed him kissing and biting her nipples and touching her and so on.... I'm embarrassed to say that it really turned me on! He's a major boob man as well and will comment if a girl is wearing a low cut top in a club/pub, or if there's a well endowed girl on the beach. There's an old pic on his Bebo of him drunkenly cupping some random girl's bare breasts In Ibiza and squeezing her nipples between his fingers... I'm sure most gfs would be really jealous but I found it really hot! Am I an absolute weirdo?

Princessa

No your not weird. Stop worrying. Start enjoying his experience in the bedroom.

Dudess

If it feels right to you, it's not weird. And it's far better than being jealous.

Overheal

Makes sense to me "Im having the best sex of my life with someone who is clearly in high demand" egoboost++

enjoy. It might be the closest you ever get to Brad Pitt :pac:

LegacyUser

I'm glad it doesn't seem so weird, I was worried I had some deep rooted problem! I wonder if I should let the bf know how I feel or keep it to myself..

Overheal he's no Brad Pitt, a lot of our friends ask me why I'm with him but he just has this sexual vibe that I find really hot! I'd way rather be with him than Brad Pitt

Kenno90

when you break up with him PM me

yellowcurl

Everyone has specifics about their bfs that turn them on, and more often than not it's what they themselves convince themselves that it's weird/odd. Totally isn't! So go have fun!

dny123456

I don't think its weird at all. Enjoy it.

LegacyUser

Should I tell my bf about this or keep it to myself? im afraid he could mistake my interest in what he's done with other girlfriends for jealousy...

Zaph

Kenno90 wrote: »

when you break up with him PM me

May I direct your attention to the charter at the top of the forum. You might like to read the part about unhelpful posts a little more carefully before you post again.

MagicMarker

If you want your boyfriend to suggest a threesome then this is a good way of doing it. Otherwise, is there really any need to tell him?

Dudess

I've just re-read your post.

bigweirdo wrote: »

The other night when he was touching me, I thought about him touching others, tried not to but I couldn't help it.

Yes, I can understand how you find that kinda hot. An experienced man is a turn-on.

a girl he's friends with who he had a fling with last year. She wrote about how she missed him kissing and biting her nipples and touching her and so on.... I'm embarrassed to say that it really turned me on!

Perhaps you're turned on by it because YOU are that girl now.

I'm sure most gfs would be really jealous but I found it really hot! Am I an absolute weirdo?

Strange thing to say - as if you'd almost prefer to be jealous about it because it's more "normal". Jealousy has no positive traits - personally, give me "weird" before jealousy any day.

bigweirdo wrote: »

Should I tell my bf about this or keep it to myself? im afraid he could mistake my interest in what he's done with other girlfriends for jealousy...

Hmmm... that kinda contradicts what you've previously said. Although yeah, constant probing in relation to what he got up to with other girls might be construed as possessiveness... but if you were to add "it really turns me on!", well if he can tell how genuine you're being, then I doubt you've any cause to worry about being seen as jealous.

Maybe group sex is your thing - it's certainly plenty of people's "thing". Happy bonking!

LegacyUser

We've talked about a threesome but not sure if the reality of watching him with another girl would be as nice as the fantasy. I love the idea but I'd be afraid of feeling jealous once things got started!

Salome

bigweirdo wrote: »

We've talked about a threesome but not sure if the reality of watching him with another girl would be as nice as the fantasy. I love the idea but I'd be afraid of feeling jealous once things got started!

Be very careful before you head down this route - they often go very very wrong - do you want to break up? A bad experience here will kill your relationship.

You'll soon get jealous if he has a better time with her than with you. Can you handle that?

TerrorFirmer

bigweirdo wrote: »

We've talked about a threesome but not sure if the reality of watching him with another girl would be as nice as the fantasy. I love the idea but I'd be afraid of feeling jealous once things got started!

Being turned on by mere thoughts is entirely different than being turned on by reality - there's plenty of scope there to explore how you feel with your boyfriend without compromising the exclusiveness of your relationship. Lots of guys get turned on thinking about their girlfriends with other guys, lots of girls get turned on by thinking about their boyfriend with another girl...but mostly within safety zones, it's an interesting fantasy and entirely harmless - even beneficial in bed at times. Keep in mind that fantasies are just that - they're a focus on what you like, and your desires and aspirations....reality is never quite as accommodating and once something like this is done, there's no going back.