Lonely

LegacyUser

As the title suggests, I'm feeling a bit lonely. It isn't all the time, it comes and goes.
I know it's no big deal on the scale of things but sometimes it leaves me in tears.
has anyone else ever been lonely or not been able to make friends?

AARRRGH

Everyone gets lonely sometimes.

As Orson Welles said, "We're born alone, we live alone, we die alone. Only through our love and friendship can we create the illusion for the moment that we're not alone."

An easy way to make friends is by doing a course, for example, beginners French or something like that. Chances are a few of the people in the class are doing the course hoping to make friends too.

tbh

Where are you living - on your own or with others? Family?

What kind of things are you into? How old are you? Male/Female?

iamlegend

If it leaves you in tears then I'm afraid it is a big deal.On the plus side the crying shows that atleast you are still aware on some level that you need to fix this situation.
I lost my friends over a number of years and by the time I was in my early twenties I had none left.But I was arrogant in thinking that I would be fine on my own and friends were not needed and became complacent.Then seeing my ex-friends around town with their new friends and girlfriends was like a dagger in the gut and would play on my mind especially at weekends knowing everyone else was out living their lives and I was stuck inside...again.It was all hiding deep down until it erupted one day and I cried in a room by myself for hours,first time anything like that had ever happened.By the time 24 rolled around I decided to act...signed up to drama class,met up with people on the internet also looking for friends,got a new job in retail which allowed me to interact with lots of people on a daily basis etc.
Although no friendships came from these things(my fault actually because I was more closed off than I am now) they changed me for the better.They act as a valve for any built up emotions and thoughts inside you.Being asked out for a few drinks after work or a class does wonders to alleviate the frustration.Fast forward to today (27) and I still have no one to call a friend but alot is different inside me.Firstly...I feel stronger as a person so even though I am aware of my situation I don't find myself breaking down over it.
Secondly... I am more open,aproachable and talk more easily to others.Lastly....I don't intend to spend the rest of my twenties thinking about what I'm missing out on.I intend to make an effort to sort ou the mess I'm in.
So to sum up...Don't dwell on being alone.
Don't think of it as an end but as a starting point to travel from.
Don't expect others to do all the work in getting to know you,it takes two to tango.
Do sign up to classes and courses,whatever you have interest in.Above all else be yourself,take up all the hobbies you want but if you are not natural, people won't get to know you and friendships are made organically.
Jesus.I sound like a self help book don't I?:D
Hope some of this rambling helps you avoid some mistakes I made.Good luck.

New View

Good points of view legend. Remember poster that most people feel quite often that they are left out of the loop but it's called a loop because it always comes around.

LegacyUser

This life is **** lonely. Send me to hell but don;t let me be lonely. I tried hard to do the right things, and for a while things were looking up, but now I feel like I'm back at square one again I guess I'm a tortured soul. Sometimes I can feel sooo alone even when I'm sitting down to dinner with my family. I feel like I'm heading into real bad times, I'm afraid of 2012, the controllers of the financial system have deliberately "set-up" this crisis in preparation for 2012, and they are also using that cern thing in France, and also haarp in America which can create any kind of weather, like hurricanes!

Joey the lips

Unregistered wrote: »

As the title suggests, I'm feeling a bit lonely. It isn't all the time, it comes and goes.
I know it's no big deal on the scale of things but sometimes it leaves me in tears.
has anyone else ever been lonely or not been able to make friends?

I think your quite normal. I am wondering are you a man. I find I see this problem a lot with men and I honestly think its our own making. You think about it if you dont like soccer there is not much else to talk about except women and if your in a steady relationship you dont talk much about women

On the o/h women are great socialisers and I mean that as a compliment. My wife makes loads of friends She never seems to amaze me.

What I think you need to do is take in more interests(Yeah yeah heard that before) you would be surprised how much it occupies you,

One such interest is this forum, If you like politicss for example you can read comment and give your opinion.

You can always talk to me, With a mad child who goes to bed at 10 and gets up at 6 I always seem to be awake Jasus!

LegacyUser

Unregistered wrote: »

As the title suggests, I'm feeling a bit lonely. It isn't all the time, it comes and goes.
I know it's no big deal on the scale of things but sometimes it leaves me in tears.
has anyone else ever been lonely or not been able to make friends?

I have the same problem, at time's people seem to think I'm a nut case because I do what makes me happy, Like just stupid question's, its embarising, at tim's I dont feel helpless, i do how ever Know Im a good person's...
I had that terouble quite a lot, what i found was that i wanted people to be my friend.
So litteratly I would chase them away because id be really mad hyper, now adays after a lot of calming down, I'm more scared of being mad and well its diffcult but even if you have 5 friend's thre 5 propper friends aposed to 20 aquintince's that you dont really have anything in comon with....

i could recomend finding something you like and giving it ago maybe joina soical club... ...?