Fed Up, need advice pls

LegacyUser

I’m really fed up at the moment and I don’t know what to do about it.

I currently divide my time between college (in my final year and writing two dissertations, due in a month after each other), working (I work two days a week, usually Fri & sat, or sat and sun) and on my days off I’m either doing college work, or spending time visiting my separated parents.

I rarely get to see my friends because a) I’m too busy, b) they’re too busy, c) I’m too exhausted when I am free, d) they’re too exhausted or e) because they’re with their other halves.

What’s worse is that I feel guilty all of the time because I’m not doing my best at college, I’m not saving enough, I’m not making enough time for my family or friends.

My friends are constantly trying to get me to call in sick for work so that I’m free at the weekends to do stuff, or go on benders etc. I work 12 hour shifts in a hospital and I’m physically and mentally exhausted when I’m finished and usually just go home to bed, never mind going out!
Even during the summer when college is finished, I work full time, usually night duty to save money…which kills my social life. I just feel under so much pressure, and I know it’s probably my own fault. I just feel like curling up under the duvet and crying!

I’m only 24 and already feeling burnt out. I feel like I’m old before my time, that I’m losing my friends and that ill never meet anyone…..and have no idea what to do about it. Any advice?

Overheal

With all things stressful+college I always advise visiting the on-site counselor; an idea that seems to occur to fewer and fewer people.

MagicMarker

This is what holiday days are for. Use them.

LegacyUser

unfortunatly i can't- im using all my years holidays in one go for a trip to south america...the only thing spurring me on at the moment!
i have considered going to the college counsellor but kind of feel that my issue is irrelevant..i dont know really.
I appreciate the replies, maybe i just needed to get it off my chest n dont feel like i can tell anyone i know

Polleta

I went to a doctor while at uni about the fact that I wasn't well in general. It was pointed out that I was most likely burning the candle at both end which is going to happen in final year. I pushed back at my friends with finding time and they were stars and made the effort to drag me to the cinema every now and then just to get me away from my books.

It is important in your busy schedule to make time just for you guilt free. You should maybe try to join an exercise class of some sort which you might think you haven't time for but could be just what you need. Even taking a night off to go to the cinema in the evening every now and then is good. You are more productive in general when you get away for a break.

Hope you manage to feel less stressed going forward.

SoWatchaWant

I don't know what to say bud:o

I assume work hours are non negotiable? Are you a nurse or intern or something? I empathise cause I'll be working in a hospital in a while:rolleyes: I dunno, if you're really that fed up, try to make the most of your free time. You could be out with your mates now, no? If at least for an evening?

Like overheal said, try your hand with the college counsellor. Mine helped me so much when I was going through a rough patch.

Good luck...

SoWatchaWant

Unregistered wrote: »

i have considered going to the college counsellor but kind of feel that my issue is irrelevant..i dont know really.

Seriously- go to him. Your problem should be his problem. That's what he's there for. I'm sure he'll appreciate you going, many of them are underworked:p

Seriously, my tutor is a facial surgeon, and he still had time for my personal bull****. If it weren't for him, I'd no longer be in college. Fact.

yellowcurl

Head to the college counseling service, it can really make a difference just talking to someone who is objective about it all and just letting it all out.