Ex BF threatening me

purple17

Hi

I was on this before about a problem i had where i have a 1yr old daughter and have split wit her father and we own a house 2gether. He's renting a place of his own now while im staying in house and paying mortgage myself (switched to interest only payments so i can afford it 4 a while). His name is still on the house and im not earning enough to take over it myself and cant sell it cos would loose money.
Anyway i was enquiring if anyone thought i had any right to ask for his key back. I know i dont have a legal right to do this but i wanted 2 do it for my own peace of mind so he wouldnt be calling around when he wants.
Anyhow we broke up cos found out he was seeing someone else and he's still seeing her. Im recently started seeing someone also and he's not happy at all. Ive received threatening texts from him saying if i have the guy im seeing in the house it will be a bad move for me and that he'll smash his car up.
Just wondering now what can i do? He's living somewhere else, seeing someone else, not paying anything towards house but yet he thinks he can tell me that i cant bring who i want into the house?
Also can i change locks now he's being threatening and i can prove he's paying nothing off mortgage??

MIN2511

This is a legal matter, when you start talking about changing locks etc... See a solicitor

LegacyUser

Save those texts to use them in court. Go to the garda station and report those theats asap! Don't have the new guy stay at home yet, though, because your ex could use this against you. Get a solicitor.

MagicMarker

Keep the texts, go to the Gardai, speak to a solicitor.

Judges don't look too kindly on father's threatening violence.

Amerie

See a solicitor and the police. Keep a copy of all texts received and show them. At least if something happens there is proof and it's not just your word against his... this might seem extreme but you've a child to look after! If the house is half his then he has a right to access but I think because you are living there and he has vacated then he may need to inform you when he is calling onto the property but the other posters are right... see a solicitor and the police!

cork1

change the locks!! ive changed them before for friends who were on breaks and broken up from other halves. i dont know the law on this but i know there was nothing said about it in the house i changed them in

purple17

Thanks all who replied, much appreciated. Ive made an appointment for free legal advice with citizens advice this Thursday so ill c what they say! I really dont want to go down the court route or get bitter in anyway or make things worse.

Carpaydiem

Trust me, you'll HAVE to go down the legal route.

I was naive before too with my ex (I'm the father in this instance) and it just doesn't get any easier unless you get it sorted out properly.

CHances are, if you both bought the house, you'll have to either buy out his share (you'll be awarded the majority as you have the child living with you) or the court may assume as he's not been living there long, he's not entitled to ANY of the home.

Secondly, definitely go to the Gardai about the threatening texts and messages. They will not take too kindly to that, and if at a later stage you do end up in court, there will be a record of the complaint against him made.

The sooner you see the solicitor, the better.

Best of luck