Bf thinks I'm following him..

Nitxteha

I met my boyfriend outside of a shop in grafton street on saturday just when he had gone out of class in a street nearby.

Today, as I was walking home, I saw him in a pub and I came in and said hello.

I have to say that we live very close to that area and I keep meeting people in grafton street all the time...

He suspects that I'm following him (I'm not, by the way..). If you were in his situation would you think the same?

Thanks

MagicMarker

Does he actually think you're following him or is it a ''haha are you following me haha'' type thing?

Nitxteha

following him like the Inspector Clouseau to the Pink Panther

I laughed at first but I'm getting concerned..

MIN2511

Next time you see him on the street or in a pub ignore hima and pretend you didn't see him....

I dunno i will be pretty worried if i saw my bf everywhere and will think he's following me

Nitxteha

I will... but isn't it a bit too strange, having to pretend I didn't see him?

So when I get back home should I hide that I saw him? How about if I make a comment? then he would be paranoid too and he would ask me why i didn't say anything, or?

I only bumped into him twice, the funny think is that it was one day after the other, when he went to college and I went to do my own things.

MIN2511

I totally know where you are coming from, but put yourself in his shoes if you see him twice in two consecutive days you will be complaining here thinking the same...

If you see him and it's unavoidable ofcourse say hello eg outside the shop on Grafton st but if you see him and it's avoidable eg the pub on your way home don't go in

Ofcourse you can mention it in a casual way especially when ye are talking about each other's day but don't make a big deal outta nothing

haven27

I don't get it, if my BF was in the pub and I glanced in and he was there I'd go in obviously and say hi. Are ye very new? If you live in the same area then obviously your going to run into him a lot.

Nitxteha

No..2 years and we live together, and everybody goes to grafton street in the weekends..By the way, the pub was also in that area.

Chucky the tree

You'd think he'd be happy to run into you.

degrassinoel

I dont believe in coincidence, so i'm gonna say it's a test of your realtionships strenght. Or i would probably see it as an opening into a darker side of someone's personality depending on the overall outcome. stalker or not.

On coming into the pub, i'd have been chuffed and wondered why it took ye so bleedin' long to get there!

seriously, If that happened me, i'd just laugh and make jokes about stalkers.
If it happened every day for 6 weeks i'd be worried.

barleybooley

that's a bit mental that he thinks you're following him, like fair enough if you were just kind of seeing him or whatever but together two years? mental.
unless he's done something bad and suspects you know thus giving you reason to follow him and now he's paranoid...

marti101

That was my thinking as well why get annoyed over seeing you if you live in the area.Its not like you were in Dundrum and you bumped in to him.Id ask outstraight when you see him in public will i ignore you or come up and say hi.Just tell him to cop on and stop being childish.

censuspro

Sounds to me like you're following your bf. If I was him I would be very worried.

jellie

Chucky the tree wrote: »

You'd think he'd be happy to run into you.

thats exactly what i was thinking.

Baraboo

Paranoia is allowable.

Could it be that your boyfriend is following you and accusing you to try to throw you off the scent.

Miss Fluff

So you've been going out together two years,live together and in all that time for two consecutive days you randomly run into him near to where you live and he is accusing you of following him? Tell him to cop on to himself. Seriously.:rolleyes:

Nitxteha

Census_Pro wrote: »

Sounds to me like you're following your bf. If I was him I would be very worried.

Thanks for your opinions. Really, I wasn´t following anybody, that's why I'm not a private inspector or something like that, hahhah!:D

Census_pro, what would you be worried about?

Nevyn

I would suggest you back off and give him some space.
Clealy he sees a difference between time he has arranaged to see you and time when he
doesn't want/expect to see you.

Absense makes the heart grow fonder.

biko

Next time in the street just give him a quick wave and walk on.
Don't go in to the pub just to say "Hi".

shellyboo

biko wrote: »

Next time in the street just give him a quick wave and walk on.
Don't go in to the pub just to say "Hi".

I think that would be really weird. Like, really weird. She's been seeing the guy for two years - to me, that's like seeing your sister/brother/best mate in the street and just waving and not stopping to go "Wow, that's mad, coincidence" blah blah.

OP, tell him to cop on and ask him what he wants you to do - clear your plans with him beforehand so you don't accidentally meet him? Ignore him if you do? It's beyond silly that he's getting weird about this, unless he's up to something he shouldn't be.