Nightmares- What's wrong with me?*could disturb some readers*

LegacyUser

Sorry if this post upsets anyone, I just don't know what to do...

Over the two months or so, at least 3 times a week, I've been having nightmares involving either one of my parents, my OH and one of my sisters, but none of them are ever in the same dream together if that makes sense.

The dreams always involve some element of death, if it's the person I'm dreaming about actually dying themselves, or them trying to kill me. I wake up from the dreams crying and sweating and sometimes, like last night, I realise I'm dreaming but the dream continues and I can't wake myself up and the dream becomes even more terrifying afterwards until I eventually manage to wake up.

The two worst ones were both to do with my dad, who has suffered from various illnesses (none too serious, just scary at the time) over the last five years. In one of them, I got up in the middle of the night to go to the bathroom and he was dead on the landing and I couldn't wake him and I could feel in my dream how cold he was and I was in bits in both the dream and rl when I woke up. In the dream I had to wake my mam and tell her and tell all my sisters and nobody would move dad, it was awful.

Then, in the one I had last night, he was chasing me around the house with a knife trying to kill me, saying that I'd be the death of him anyways and I was an embarrassment to him and then just as he was about to kill me, he kind of faded away and was dead again on the patio outside.

I get along with my dad, even if we do have a tempestuous relationship- we share alot of the same stubborn traits etc and I think Dad sees alot of how he was when he was my age in me. The dreams to do with my Mam and OH have mainly got to do with them leaving my family/me because I've done something wrong and my sister hates me and tries to kill me aswell (they're all equally traumatising but the ones to do with dad are always the most vivid)

I can't tell anyone about these dreams because Mam has frequent, very vivid, upsetting dreams about her own dad who died 10 years ago and Dad doesn't like to talk about death because his own Dad died in front of him when he was 15. My OH doesn't know how upset I am, and although we've been going out for 3 years, I don't want to think I'm mental or freaky in the head for having such graphic, scary dreams.

I'm not under any stress, on any new medication or had any major life changes, I don't know what to do, but I have to do something, I'm afraid to go asleep at night because I don't know what dreams I'm gonna have...

Apologies for length of post

pseudonym1

I sympathise with the intnensity and fear of your dreams.
Firstly, these are only dreams thats all dreams. Your mind is conjuring up all your deepest (and shallowest) thoughts mixing them around and dragging on emotion.

So whatever else you must remember these are dreams. OK? Reoccuring dreams can be symbolic or a message and never a simple interpetation.
I somehow doubt your father wants to kill you with a knife - Words are often played upon in our dreams so for example perhaps the have dreams are causing such stress and upset have escalated into him telling you to move on - end (death) them cop on and cut (knife) it out!

By no means an interpitation. You are obviously fightened after your Dad being sick - natually so. Perhaps you feel a little less proud of yourself then you should.


It can be terrifing not being able to wake up or wake up in your dream. Once you calmly come to terms that these are only dreams - you will be eventually able to acknowladge the fact you are still asleep and it is but a dream and it is ok.

I reckon talk to your Dad - mans day out or something. He may laugh but more than likely wont cry.

Try listing 5 - 10 things before you go to sleep - which you are gratful for could be fingers duvet family etc... Helps aid a restful peaceful nights sleep.

Hope some of this helps

Sweet dreams

dyl10

Could you be suffering from sleep paralysis?

*Honey*

I used to have very bad dreams when my husband (then BF) and I were long distance (for 15 months). They were all about me not being to contact him, losing or forgetting his phone number... seperation anxiety dreams.

I used to get very scared of these, I'd wake up crying my eyes out. It was the fear that got me the worst. What he told me then really stuck with me....

Dreams like that, and like yours, are brain poo... your brain is processing things all day, everyday; your subconscious reads things into this situations that may not be there and your brain, at night, is processing that information... literally digesting it and pooing it out. So the dreams you're having, are actually brain poo. If you consider that when you wake up, it should help.

I would further suggest that you may think, subconsciously, that you're not quite good enough for your family or OH. The thread running through is they want to kill you - for something you've done or said, or who you are. It seems that there could be self esteem issues here but, I'd imagine, if you don't feel them in the waking world, they're not huge issues and you could easily work on them yourself.

I hope you get it resolved - bad dreams are very upsetting.