Nervous about the first time...

LegacyUser

Hey guys,

Right I'm a college student in first year and still a virgin, something I'm kinda embarrassed about.
Anyway i met this girl a couple of weeks back on a night out and we were kissing for a lot of the night. We got texting and she's invited me to her house next week and I'm really nervous coz I know she's not a virgin and she actually likes me! (was kinda amazed bout this coz shes far better looking than me!)
I'm fairly certain that she wants sex and so do I(a lot!), I'm just nervous (which is natural right?) Furthermore shes friends with my friends and if anything embarassing happens than I'm never gonna live it down! I've done everything bar sex so should I start slow with oral maybe and then on to the real thing?!...

Any advise is greatly appreciated!
Cheers

Otis Driftwood

You already answered your own question mate with the last line.If you are nervous about your performance then maybe say to her before hand (if you dont want her to know you are a virgin that is)that its been a while since you slept with anyone so you may need a bit of time to get your form back.
Aside from that you are on the right page.Best of luck and most importantly enjoy it!

cojomo2

i dont think u should tell her anything about u being a virgin, or u havnt done it in a while etc...

as u said, take it slow, go for some oral..that should get u going, then just go with the flow and pace urself! if its all getting to much then pull out and go back for sum more oral..keep her happy!

wylo

Very very lightly and slowly rub all parts of her body, slowly moving around, paying attention to any sensitive parts( neck , inside of arm, stomach) leave the hot spots like nipples and clit till very very last. Make sure your barely touching her, even very lightly use your nails. Be as slow as possible, even if it takes all night ,just keep letting it build. Unlike a man, a womens body is sensitive all over, use this to your advantage.

Have her come before the real sex even starts.
The point of all that? she'll think your experienced.

Perhaps if your worried about coming too early, have a **** a bit before hand to help you relax.
Remind yourself of little things , like its not gonna just slide right in perfectly all the time, make sure shes wet and guide it in with your hand.

Maybe a bit graphic but I just wanted to give some practical advice.
Best of luck, the main point you should take in is patience.

LegacyUser

Right thanks for the advise thus far, it really does help

Just one last question...
I was around college yesterday and I saw the girl but instead of going over and talking to her I walked the other way...

I'm not sure myself why I did this. I've been single for a bit and I guess I didn't wanna say/do anything to put her off that date. Sounds stupid I know!

I guess what I'm asking is walking the other way a defence mechanism? (coz I've gotten hurt plenty of times with women) I just don't know like

petethebrick

Don't be nervous about it, just get it on with her, stick it in and get the job done. It probably gonna be short and messy the first time but you'll get the hang of it.

LegacyUser

the more you think about it the worse it is. stop masturbating completely from now until

then and then when the time comes just focus on HER (your horniness will assist you) and don't think. don't even think about not thinking. just focus on her, enjoy her... you deserve it.

i know this will be tough but its something you have to get over (you do intend on having sex at some point in your life right?)

MadelineNYC

petethebrick wrote: »

Don't be nervous about it, just get it on with her, stick it in and get the job done. It probably gonna be short and messy the first time but you'll get the hang of it.

Not sure if I'd recommend the above. I think Wylo's advice is better..and yes, go with what you know first (the oral) then work your way up to the other stuff Also, don't get drunk beforehand!!!!

LegacyUser

This might sound silly, but you should practice with the condoms...It can be awkward if the guy is fumbling around trying to get one on.