Bad Kisser

LegacyUser

I am such a bad kisser. Whenever I chat up a girl my kissing ability always lets me down. Do you people have any advice?

Naos

Hungover in work so I'll make this brief:

- Go slow
- Do not use a lot of tongue
- Kiss the lips a lot
- Don't forget to use your hands my man. Caress the neck and gently stroke ear with your thumb
- Depending where you are/how long you know the girl, venture your kissing from her lips to her neck and ears.
- Gently nibble on the lips
- Be confident and enjoy it!

MIN2511

Taste the lips, i have a thing for budding the lower lip.... It's always nice if the girl is a good kisser too...

Take the lead, but don't be scared if she leads

themadchef

Ok, hmm. So is it a first kiss kinda thing?

A fresh breath or youre dead in the water.

Don't dive in there but be confident though. Shouldint last too long, you want her to want to come back for more. Make sure there's some body contact, but don't grope her. Hold her! Maybe run your fingers through her hair or down the back of her neck.

It's not a "how far can i get my tongue down her throat" competition.
I'd go for soft and sensual first time round. You can up your game after that

Loxosceles

Unregistered wrote: »

I am such a bad kisser. Whenever I chat up a girl my kissing ability always lets me down. Do you people have any advice?

Learn how to savor your food.

Whatever tastes the best to you, eat a helping of it as slowly as possible and really, really enjoy it. Because part of the pleasure is the smell of the food combined on your palate with sweet, sour, salty, bitter and the texture of it, how it behaves. Like caviar for example, the little eggs pop and release flavor which is the culinary texture equivalent of leisurely popping bubble wrap. Or, enjoy crunchy things with just the right snap to them. Or a piece of fruit with just the right combination of firmness and sweetness.

And when you kiss someone, you are also smelling them and tasting them and experiencing texture. You should take the time to explore that instead of possibly looking at kissing as a means to an end. Maybe think, it's ok if I don't go any further than kissing right now, this pleasure is more than enough.

Naos

Loxosceles wrote: »

Learn how to savor your food.

Whatever tastes the best to you, eat a helping of it as slowly as possible and really, really enjoy it. Because part of the pleasure is the smell of the food combined on your palate with sweet, sour, salty, bitter and the texture of it, how it behaves. Like caviar for example, the little eggs pop and release flavor which is the culinary texture equivalent of leisurely popping bubble wrap. Or, enjoy crunchy things with just the right snap to them. Or a piece of fruit with just the right combination of firmness and sweetness.

And when you kiss someone, you are also smelling them and tasting them and experiencing texture. You should take the time to explore that instead of possibly looking at kissing as a means to an end. Maybe think, it's ok if I don't go any further than kissing right now, this pleasure is more than enough.

Oh dear jebus I wish this was in After Hours.

+1 on fresh breath op, it's a must!

Zascar

Go download some nice soft porn and watch how lesbians do it...

TheDollyParton

Zascar wrote: »

Go download some nice soft porn and watch how lesbians do it...

Thing is porn lesbians often do porn kissing all flicking tongues and stuff, but if you could find some porn with real lesbians that would be a great way to learn.

I think the advice in the first reply is excellent.

Zascar

TheDollyParton wrote: »

Thing is porn lesbians often do porn kissing all flicking tongues and stuff, but if you could find some porn with real lesbians that would be a great way to learn.

True, you'll just have to find the 'real' type kissing, not the silly over the top for the camera type.

Although I have to say I kissed a girl last year who did that tongue flicking thing and it was amazing...

NorthernRock

Is grabbing the ass a no no???

Polleta

Grabbing the ass is no no if its a first kiss definitely!!

spinandscribble

Polleta wrote: »

Grabbing the ass is no no if its a first kiss definitely!!

speak for yourself

don't bite the top lip, its awful. the bottom lip is nice

Polleta

I love my lips being nibbled.. its really sexy. Though granted I think better left for relationship territory.

A first kiss should leave both people wanting more...

TheDollyParton

NorthernRock wrote: »

Is grabbing the ass a no no???

Grabbing the ass makes it sound a little violent, ass grazing can be very nice if you ask me! I love it.

Salome

Hi OP, where do you think you're going wrong?

I'd go with gentle and short to start off with - leave the in-depths ones til relationship territory.

Keep it light and short, keep her interested to see what happens next.