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at work to work, not to make friends!??!!

  • 21-02-2009 1:00am
    #1
    mamindah
    Closed Accounts Posts: 12 ✭


    Hi,

    Just wanted some opinions here...

    I'm in a new job, min wage, service industry. Recently redundant from last job and couldn't get a job to match my qualifications. I'm glad of the job, close to home and everything, pay is crap, but i'm glad of it...

    My problem is this... There is a lot of bitchiness, tut tutting when a mistake is made (over stupid things), and generally nothing you do is good enough no matter how hard you're working... a lot of people here are sound, but some are really a pain. I know i'm there to work, but why can't people just try to get on and be friendly? Life is short. I was in my last job for years and had tough working relationships, but this is depressing...

    So, what do you do? Continue to try to make freinds with people, or stand up to the bullies who think they are your boss even though they're not? It's just that when i've tried being assertive to bossy boots, I was out in the cold immediatly, silent treatment... or is this just the way it is? develop a thicker skin?


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  • #2
    Xiney
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,085 ✭✭✭Xiney


    Sometimes it's insecurity.

    If you can, just smile and act friendly. It's hard to do (I'm far more likely to be a snarky bitch right back) but at least then you can't be faulted by your bosses for "not being a team player"


  • #3
    luckat
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,366 ✭✭✭luckat


    Take a step back - be perfectly friendly and kind, but kind of draw your borders in a little.

    If someone who isn't your boss moves in on your work in the way you describe, look at them in surprise (at her, yes?) and say: "Is this some of your concern?"

    (Did this in a job where someone was irritating me, and it *slammed* the door on her. She totally changed and started treating me as an equal!)

    Once you've done a hard reset, as it were, start remaking the office's manners. While you still keep a little back, reward someone who does or says something helpful with a nice smile, and maybe "That was nice of you, Miriam".

    Ignore the rough stuff, in the same way you ignore a selfish driver who carves you up, and for the same reason - it's dangerous and silly behaviour.

    You'll be surprised how fast the whole tone of the office changes.


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