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Depressed when alone?

  • 20-02-2009 12:05am
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Does anybody else ever experience this - when I'm alone, I feel pretty awful - bordering on depressed - I over-think things, get upset, anxious etc. I try to distract myself with TV, internet, books etc but its always lingering. Yet, when I'm with family and friends, I rarely if ever, experience these feelings? Even if I'm sitting in silence with these friends or family members.
    I hate it - I'm constantly trying to arrange my life so I'm alone for as little as possible but sometimes its unavoidable - one weekend in particular, folks and sister were away, friends all had various plans and I had none - I really and truly thought I was going to have a breakdown that weekend. Anxiety just consumed me. I had all these great plans to organise a counsellor for myself that weekend but then I met up with friends that Sunday evening, family were home that Monday and all was well again so of course, I happily let the plans slip.

    Am I alone in feeling like this?


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  • #2
    CDfm
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    what age are you and what do you do?


  • #3
    fugazied
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    Sounds like a phobia? I guess there probably is a term for this condition, but it might simply be your personality type. I'm the opposite, I like having periods where I am alone and can gather my thoughts and do things I want to do. I would reccomend mentioning it to your doctor.


  • #4
    LegacyUser
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    Absolutely not dude, get the lonliness blues all the time myself. Can't understand is as I'm a very solitary person usually, it's a contradiction. I look forward to being alone and hate it at the same time. Like when the OH goes away, I think 'great, I can do the things I want to do' but I end up hating the time spent on my own. Really wishing she was back etc. I can't explain it, never got on that well with my family growing up (would explain feelings of separation) but just hate spending nights on my own also... Weird.


  • #5
    [Deleted User]
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    Please don't be concerned about being alone, sometimes solitude can be very relaxing, it's important to remember that you DO have friends and family within reach.

    Try to think of things you can do WHEN you are alone, like reading or some other pastime that does not require another person, if you are absorbed in doing something consreuctive it may help to alleave the feeling of helplessness.

    Personally, I used to go on long bycicle rides and walks (study nature) I found it helped!


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