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Getting approached in a group

  • 14-02-2009 12:05pm
    #1
    brianthebard
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    Guys are usually nervous as it is about approaching a girl in a bar or social situation, but much more so if the girl is part of a group. Should they be? I'm sure there's no cast iron rules on this sort of thing, but if you are out with a gaggle of friends, are you more or less inclined to be chatted to by random guys? What if you are a friend of a girl being chatting, how do you react? Thoughts ladies?


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  • #2
    jellie
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    depends on the group of girls & probably the sobriety of the girls.

    i dont think any of my group of friends would be against being approached by a guy in a group, but if they were theyd probably have the attention of the whole group.

    youd sometimes get groups of girls (& sorry but theyd usually be the taken girls) with a type of "this is a GIRLS night out - go away!" attitude.

    as long as you werent ridiculously drunk and/or creepy id have no problem with it.


  • #3
    shellyboo
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    brianthebard wrote: »
    Guys are usually nervous as it is about approaching a girl in a bar or social situation, but much more so if the girl is part of a group. Should they be? I'm sure there's no cast iron rules on this sort of thing, but if you are out with a gaggle of friends, are you more or less inclined to be chatted to by random guys?


    Less inclined! If I'm out with girls and we're on the pull, we're looking for guys to chat up, like we'd choose who we want to talk to! Not wait around for guys to approach us. If we're not on the pull, then we're not really gonna want random guys coming up to us.

    brianthebard wrote: »
    What if you are a friend of a girl being chatting, how do you react? Thoughts ladies?

    If I'm on my own, scathingly. I would never walk up to two people (men or women) who were chatting and interrupt their conversation, I think it's really rude. I think the bar is the only ok place to approach two girls together, tbh. If they're sitting down chatting, I'd prefer to be left alone.

    In a big group... I still think it's a bit rude, but I wouldn't be nasty or tell the guy to eff off, I'd be friendly and polite and leave them to chat, as long as my friend was interested! If she wasn't (and we can always tell :P) I'd assist her in chatting to him and deflecting any advances.

    I wouldn't be hugely keen on one guy coming up to chat to one girl if I'm out in a group... I just think it's a bit rude - interrupting a conversation! Although I'd definitely admire his bravery :) I just think there's better ways of getting chatting to a girl if she's in a group, like when she goes to the bar or something.

    But like I say... me and my friends aren't the type to hang back and wait to be approached, so we don't 'need' guys coming up to chat to us... perhaps girls who prefer to be approached have a different outlook.


  • #4
    Chinafoot
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    shellyboo wrote: »
    If we're not on the pull, then we're not really gonna want random guys coming up to us.

    ....

    I think the bar is the only ok place to approach two girls together, tbh. If they're sitting down chatting, I'd prefer to be left alone.

    Totally agree with Shellyboo here. There's one of the girls that I would regularly meet up with, just the two of us and she would get a fair bit of attention as she's a little stunner. She's married and I'm in a long term relationship so we haven't been out on the pull in a long time. When we're out we're out to have a chat and a few drinks. We wouldn't be rude to anyone that approaches us but we'd much rather be left to our drinks and our chat.

    It bothers me a lot less when I'm out in a group as there are other people to talk to, not just the girl being approached. If she's interested in the guy it's great, if she's not, it's easier to get rid of him when there's a few of us.


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