Seeing ex out

LegacyUser

does anyone find when they break up with an ex they are afraid in case they see them out??? me for example - i hate going out (i live in a small town) in case i see him with another woman. i don't want to see that as i know i would be sick and upset:( when Im out its like im on edge in case i see him with someone.

MIN2511

If the break up is recent, it's only normal to feel this way. If its been a while then woman get a GRIP on yourself!

Katgurl

yeah.


I know that feeling but do not stop going out, find somewhere else to go out. you may live in a small town but contract some friends elsewhere and leave for the weekend.

Ebonyellie

ive been in that situation too, im from a small town too and i know exactly how it feels.a few years before i met my husband i was in love with a guy who was the huge love of my life at the time. when he broke up with me i thought my life would never be happy again, i was absolutely devastated. In the town where i live there ws around 12 pubs, but only 3 or 4 that a young crowd would hang around in so it was inevitable that i would see him, after all my friends and his friends still hung around together. Its the kind of town where eveyone knows everyone and who is going out with who, it makes it all the more difficult when people break up with each other

I thought about not going out for a while, but i was 20 then, and my mam advised me not to be silly and enjoy a social life while i was young and had no responsibilities, she also didnt want him to think i was at home moping while he had fun. My friends kept at me to go to the local, i wished they would understand how i felt, but they had my best interests at heart. So i decided to go out and face seeing him (by the way he dumped me for a "friend" of mine and it hurt terribly)

yes it was tough, i had a pain in my belly watching him with her, and it hurt for a few months after that to be honest, its really hard, but it did get easier, i didnt grab the first guy i seen to get even and i didnt get mental to prove i was having fun, i went out, faced him and tried to enjoy the company of my true friends. I was polite to him when i saw him and him to me. On reflection im glad i faced it head on and didnt avoid him for a while. It is tough, but it will get easier believe me, chin up and best of luck!

LegacyUser

i duno how you did that - see him out with his new gf. well done. you must be a strong lady - i couldnt do it.

smares

Why ruin your night out worrying about seeing your ex. Obviously if its a recent break up it's hard but try think positive go out for a good night and in time if someone new comes along go for it because your ex seems to be.
It will get esier as time goes by.

lifelonglufc

It happened to me just last night...

Was out in limerick, last day of Mary I RAG Week, saw ex out for first time since the final messy break up. Didn't expect to see her there at all considering shes in a completely different part of the country...

Didn't see her with another fella or anything like that but certainly didn't expect to get the sinking feeling I got when I saw her. It took me back big time.

It was weird and made me realise that a part of me still misses her even though it happened a long time ago.

However while I felt a little down and it threw me off, I didn't let it change my night or ruin it, I was out with friends so that's the way it stayed, we moved onto the club and that was that, I didn't see her again for the rest of the night.

My only advice is to try and not let it stop you and just keep things going as normal and move along, keep dancing, drinking or whatever it is you intend to do!!