Oral Sex

LegacyUser

ive recently just started seeing a girl and we have been getting pretty hot and heavy. we were close to having sex but it didnt happen for various reasons. shes made it pretty clear she wants to do on this valentines day though. the ting is though im a virgin and am worried about being really bad so ive decided my best approach would be to eat her out for a while before doing the deed in order to cover for any ptential embarrassments (make her cum even because i have no idea how *ahem* excited im gonna be) the problem is though its hard to tell if she would be into this. so basically wat im askin is would a girl be turned off by this on the first encounter?

shellyboo

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ive recently just started seeing a girl and we have been getting pretty hot and heavy. we were close to having sex but it didnt happen for various reasons. shes made it pretty clear she wants to do on this valentines day though. the ting is though im a virgin and am worried about being really bad so ive decided my best approach would be to eat her out for a while before doing the deed in order to cover for any ptential embarrassments (make her cum even because i have no idea how *ahem* excited im gonna be) the problem is though its hard to tell if she would be into this. so basically wat im askin is would a girl be turned off by this on the first encounter?

Are you asking if a girl would be turned off by receiving oral sex? I'm gonna say no. I know there are women who aren't a big fan of receiving oral, but I'd say they're about as common as guys who don't like blow jobs. I don't think you have any need to worry

Fair play for having the right approach though and being focused on her pleasure... and I hope you have a good night!

Bottle_of_Smoke

Kiss her body from the breasts down slowly whilst fingering her and if shes not into it she'll stop you.Don't worry about making her orgasm just enjoy it.

thisisme

Ask her! Most are into it but depends on mood etc. If im in a skittish mood I am prone to being a bit ticklish Bit off putting for DH if i start giggling:o:o:o
Best course of action is to start kissing, lips, neck work your way down slowly. When you are just above her pubic area just look up and say something like "is this ok?" if she makes any move to bring your head back up, then take as a sign she isnt up for oral just yet. If she looks to be enjoying it then slowly and gently does it (keep your mouth relaxed - very important)

Also tell her in advance that you are inexperienced. If she is half the girl you think she is she will understand that it takes lots of practice before the earth moves. Have fun, thats what its all about:cool:.

traffic_cone

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Panthro

i agree with traffic cone on this one...!
say nothing...

Mmmm_Lemony

Probably a good idea to tell her you are a virgin if you haven't already... ask her what she wants... and how

Going down is a givin' , dont ask first just go for it... if she doesnt want it she will let you know...

Terodil

Since it's your first time, I'll go out on a limb and advise caution. Oral can be fun, but it's also one of the most intense experiences you can have. Furthermore, it's not easy to do, esp. if you do not know what exactly you are doing. And lastly, oral comes with a significant chance of transmitting STIs.

I'd personally recommend you learn how to use your fingers first, and go on from there once you feel more comfortable with each other.

mayblue

the best way to approach this is to take it slow....loads of foreplay to get to know each other and make it last longer, and remember that tongues and penises are not the only available "tools"... hands come in "handy" too ;-)
if you focus on her pleasure first i'm sure she won't complain as for the rest, it will come naturally, just make sure you use a condom or more than one lol

LegacyUser

Hands is better, do a good bit of neck kissing if you can though, nothing worse than some geezer jabbing away at ya when youre as dry as the sahara!!!

Hmmm, maybe oral would be better....wetter!

And lastly, oral comes with a significant chance of transmitting STIs.

Hmm, I was told by two doctors that there is a very low chance of getting an STI like chlamydia through oral sex. One even said it was practically impossible and to stop being so paranoid. Of course everyone should practise safe sex but I'd read so much about STIs, I was terrified of doing anything with anyone, which isn't a good thing either!

just make sure you use a condom or more than one lol

I don't know if this was a joke or what, but definitely don't use more than one!

mayblue

ehm, yes it was kind of a joke.. use more than one as in..... having sex more than one time, not two at the same time.... got it?

chuckles30

I would say tell her that you're a virgin.....she's not going to mind and will be able to tell you what she likes etc. And most importantly relax and don't worry about it.

LegacyUser

op here. this was pretty much the best idea ever.

Zaph

I'm sorry, could you please elaborate?

CDfm

Mmmm_Lemony wrote: »

Probably a good idea to tell her you are a virgin if you haven't already... ask her what she wants... and how

Going down is a givin' , dont ask first just go for it... if she doesnt want it she will let you know...

great advice here

phishcakes

i agree, i would just tell her, im sure she would rather its your first time as oppose to it being your 4th or 5th time, and if she has experience she'll help you. Don't go in with plans to do this and that, just relax and let it happen! Make sure it means something and your not just doing it for the sake of doing it..

Terodil

[quote=[Deleted User];59007586]Hmm, I was told by two doctors that there is a very low chance of getting an STI like chlamydia through oral sex. One even said it was practically impossible and to stop being so paranoid. Of course everyone should practise safe sex but I'd read so much about STIs, I was terrified of doing anything with anyone, which isn't a good thing either![/quote]
Well it pretty much is a nobrainer.

- As long as you don't have any cuts and don't lick them after, fingers carry *no* risk of transmitting an STI.

- Condoms offer very strong (though not perfect) protection against the bulk of STIs (not all).

- Oral sex is usually unprotected. A wide range of STIs, including Chlamydiae, HIV, and Herpes, can be transmitted that way.
http://www.brown.edu/Student_Services/Health_Services/Health_Education/sexual_health/sti/oralsex.htm

The risk is increased if there are sores or cuts in your mouth.

Anyway, OP seems to have had fun, case closed.

LegacyUser

Unregistered wrote: »

ive recently just started seeing a girl and we have been getting pretty hot and heavy. we were close to having sex but it didnt happen for various reasons. shes made it pretty clear she wants to do on this valentines day though. the ting is though im a virgin and am worried about being really bad so ive decided my best approach would be to eat her out for a while before doing the deed in order to cover for any ptential embarrassments (make her cum even because i have no idea how *ahem* excited im gonna be) the problem is though its hard to tell if she would be into this. so basically wat im askin is would a girl be turned off by this on the first encounter?

As you are a virgin, you migh become anxious & come very quickly. You need to masterbate before you meet her so when you are having sex you will have a delay & both of you might come together.

Seraphicblue

One more thing, now it may be my experience or it may be universal but the taste does take some getting used too

dh0661

Seraphicblue wrote: »

One more thing, now it may be my experience or it may be universal but the taste does take some getting used too

Too late, I presume OP is not looking here for any advice right now.

Seraphicblue

a valid point.
he's going down to the woods today
he's in for a big surprise


*leaves*