Grass is greener - 7 year itch

LegacyUser

Why do some people think the grasser is always greener on the other side - or is it just a seven year itch and we need to spice things up again.

Never been unfaithful - but notice - I have been reminiscing a lot lately and wondering is it all worth it etc etc.

Just thought I'd put it out there. Wife always told me I can look - JUST DON'T TOUCH ! So I'm cool with that -

Whatcha think ?

MJOR

Personally I think that it's ok to look but not touch. If you are thinking of straying then there is something wrong in the relationship.

Perhaps a weekend away just the two of you or a good old fashioned chat or a trip to Ann Summers might be in order!

We all get bored with things we are used to but sucess at anything is 99% persperation 1% aspiration

mad m

That itch will pass and you will wonder what the fuss was about!

JoeyW

OP,

you'd want to be made of steel not to look at the other sex IMO, it's purely natural. As long as you don't act on it. There is no harm in looking.In fact, I would think maybe there was something wrong with you for not looking LOL.
There is nothing wrong with your relationship for doing so!

LegacyUser

It will pass, 7 year is a long time and all!!

thisisme

From a woman in a long term relationship & marriage point of view its normal to think the grass is greener and I have often thought "what if" about one particular ex of mine (pretty sure everyone has one, maybe it might have worked maybe it wouldnt. Years down the line you are different people with different life experiences ye would prob never gel anyway. thats what I tell myself anyway...:rolleyes:)

Looking is fine (even the odd sneaky fantacy IYKWIM;)) touching isnt but you already know that. In my case my hormones kick in at certain intervals and make me think how id love to go grab some random have always avoided putting myself in temptations way(was a virgin 15 years ago when I met my DH and have never cheated, always wondered what it'd be like)
Y'know what works for me: make a bigger effort in the bedroom, spice things up a bit s*x always gets my head back where it should be:D That said I wish I could kick those crazy thoughts for good.

LegacyUser

been at that stage too, looked and touched. you'll always think 'what if?' and think 'the grass is greener' . we were together from when we were late teens, not proud to say it but i did stray around the 6 year mark, 2 ways to look at it

1. i strayed, grass wasn't greener and it made me more appreciative of what i had, or

2. if i hadn't cheated i might still be wondering what if, and that can only lead to extra stress both for yourself and your relationship

ideally you should put some fresh effort into your relationship and deal with it that way, but my little escapade into option 1 above did open my eyes to what i had, it might not be the right way to deal with it but we're all human 7 years is a long time with someone when your young (im assuming you are) only natural to look at other women.