Long time to come

LegacyUser

Hey everyone,

Last night I had sex for the second time, and unlike my first time a few weeks ago I actually came this time round... although it seemed to take forever. I took the best part of 30 mins for me to orgasm, whilst my partner came twice (so she says anyway) The only way I can describe it was that it almost felt like hard work trying to come. I'm really thrown by this, as it takes under 5 mins by myself.

Basically I'm worried that I'm doing something horribly wrong... Why am I not getting a very pleasurable sensation from sex? I thought I'd be struggling to survive over 2 mins but if anything I'm struggling to maintain an interest after 20 mins. I'm of average size (6 1/2) yet it just doesn't feel as... well tight, for want of a better word, than I expected it to be... Perhaps its just my current partner? Like I said, she seemed to enjoy it, why didn't I?

What am I doing wrong? Did anyone else feel like this their first few times?? Am I just inexperienced and I'll learn what feels good after a few times??

Cheers!

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Are you using a Condom?

If so, is it one of them godawful Durex Performa yokes?

Or something as thick as four balloons?

Leslie91

Lucky her........

I'd love to be able to last that long!. Consider it an advantage.

longtime90 wrote: »

Hey everyone,

Last night I had sex for the second time, and unlike my first time a few weeks ago I actually came this time round... although it seemed to take forever. I took the best part of 30 mins for me to orgasm, whilst my partner came twice (so she says anyway) The only way I can describe it was that it almost felt like hard work trying to come. I'm really thrown by this, as it takes under 5 mins by myself.

Basically I'm worried that I'm doing something horribly wrong... Why am I not getting a very pleasurable sensation from sex? I thought I'd be struggling to survive over 2 mins but if anything I'm struggling to maintain an interest after 20 mins. I'm of average size (6 1/2) yet it just doesn't feel as... well tight, for want of a better word, than I expected it to be... Perhaps its just my current partner? Like I said, she seemed to enjoy it, why didn't I?

What am I doing wrong? Did anyone else feel like this their first few times?? Am I just inexperienced and I'll learn what feels good after a few times??

Cheers!

Loomis

longtime90 wrote: »

Hey everyone,

Last night I had sex for the second time, and unlike my first time a few weeks ago I actually came this time round... although it seemed to take forever. I took the best part of 30 mins for me to orgasm, whilst my partner came twice (so she says anyway) The only way I can describe it was that it almost felt like hard work trying to come. I'm really thrown by this, as it takes under 5 mins by myself.

Basically I'm worried that I'm doing something horribly wrong... Why am I not getting a very pleasurable sensation from sex? I thought I'd be struggling to survive over 2 mins but if anything I'm struggling to maintain an interest after 20 mins. I'm of average size (6 1/2) yet it just doesn't feel as... well tight, for want of a better word, than I expected it to be... Perhaps its just my current partner? Like I said, she seemed to enjoy it, why didn't I?

What am I doing wrong? Did anyone else feel like this their first few times?? Am I just inexperienced and I'll learn what feels good after a few times??

Cheers!

It sounds a lot like you could just have it built up in your mind and worried about lasting your first time round. Wanting to avoid the stereotype of the one minute show for your opening performance.
If you had worried about this then it might still be a mental block. You say you struggle to maintain interest after 20 minutes then it sounds like you're not focused on just enjoying it and going with it. Rather being occupied with other things on your mind.
Try to relax. Having said that, what's the rush? Being able to last is a sought after thing for most men.

Motley Crue

Des wrote: »

If so, is it one of them godawful Durex Performa yokes?

Worst. condoms. ever.

LegacyUser

No, there was no condom involved. (probably not the best idea but she's on the pill)

I dunno, it just felt really odd, not like I thought it would feel at all... I imagined it being quite "tight" but it was nothing like that. At times I thought I'd "popped out" and was rubbing air but I hadn't. I guess I'm just a little thrown by it all.

Sorry be so crude by the way, but I can't really think of any other way to word these things!