She's a squirter...

LegacyUser

Ok, I'll keep this brief...

I just started seeing this girl and I really like her but... well the title says it all - she's a squirter. I have to say this is a first for me and I don't know what to make of it. Kinda turns me off sex with her. It's all just such a mess.

So is this actually in anyway common?? What's the best way to deal with this if it continues to bother me??

mad m

Pardon the pun but just go with the flow...A lot of blokes would probably love to be in your position..

If its messy as you say, ask her can you lay down towels or something...


Lucky git....

Mr. Incognito

I've only come across this once and to be honest you're going to have to keep a clean pair of sheets on hand. It can be quite a lot of fluid.


No easy solution for this one mate.

kingtut

It is not that common but nothing you can really do as everyone else has said....except having extra sheets on hand.

Perhaps she can control it herself somehow?
I'm a guy so I fail miserably when it comes to understanding the female body. It's a complex place!

who007

happened to me too before..

I'd generally have no prob with iut cos I like dirty messy sex with cum and sweat everywhere but this girl's stuff in particular wasn't too nice tasting so goin downtown was a real chore. At the end of the day - no point bein with someone you don't like eating is there?

Mr Benevolent

Seriously, there's not much you can do. Look what women have to put up with for us...

DarkJager

As a poster above said, a lot of men would love to be in your position, myself included. Just go with it man, yeah its messy but **** it thats half the fun of sex.

challengemaster

Best thing I've ever seen posted by Talliesin

Good sex is always messy

Honestly, I think you're a lucky sod.

LegacyUser

OP again...

True enough I suppose. We make enough of a mess for them and never give it a second thought. Then it becomes and issue as soon as the shoe is on the other foot!

I guess it's just going to have to be towels and spare sheets then. Couldn't mind hearing from any of the ladies on this...

But as I was saying I do like this girl so would hate for this to be the ruin of it. Only thing for it is to give it some time and see how it goes I suppose.

syklops

mad m wrote: »

Pardon the pun but just go with the flow...A lot of blokes would probably love to be in your position..

I'm one!

My ex could do it and I found it a serious turn on. When it comes to mess, what happens when you cum? Do you cum pure oxygen? You cause a mess as well. Sex is messy. Thats life. Have sex with her, get 'stuff' on you, then go and shower. Hell, shower together, round two might be around the corner.

Why does it freak you out?

lilminx

Hey OP..

So you make your girlfriend cum... and it's putting you off sex with her..

well to be honest i have trouble understanding the problem, but as it not something that happens to every woman, I suppose I can understand some level of confusion. But I agree with the other posters, one - you ejaculate and expect her to deal. So deal with hers..

Lay down a towel, or have fresh sheets and just enjoy it.

You're obviously doing something right for her.

Princessa

who007 wrote: »

- no point bein with someone you don't like eating is there?

Theres a new break up line... im sorry i dont think this is working.... i just dont like eating you!



Brilliant!

girlbiker

I didnt think this actually existed!:eek:

Why dont you talk to her about it?

Dudess

who007 wrote: »

this girl's stuff in particular wasn't too nice tasting so goin downtown was a real chore. At the end of the day - no point bein with someone you don't like eating is there?

Well if you're crazy about them, you'd investigate a way round it rather than just finishing with them...
Same should apply here OP. It's absolutely no big deal - try to stop seeing it that way.

dudara

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dudara

kingtut

Both guys and girls cause a mess but from what I have seen girls create a much bigger mess....no harm in having towels on standby.

Schmowen

Hey there ,
It's not that common , not all women squirt . Most women produce a certain amount of vaginal lubrication during an orgasm in pretty much the same way as males do , however , the amount varies from woman to woman . Squirting is generally the result of an intense orgasm or at least that's the general thinking on it .
There is very little information on what causes it or why it happens but check this link out , you may find it helpful . http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Female_ejaculation
I have been with a woman that has squirted , and like you didn't know what to make of it at first , but I saw this in a positive light , and realised that I must have been doing something right . You should too .
As for what to do if you feel that it continues to turn you off sex , well the bottom line is really how you feel about the girl in question . If you like her , then maybe you can over look this , or maybe you'll begin to see it as a fun part of sex . Either way be honest with her and please , be sensitive , she may already be self-conscious enough about her ability , then again she may not .
Good luck .

Wibbs

kingtut stay on topic. Thanks

MIN2511

Loads of women squirt, i believe it means job well done for you

Unfortunately you don't like it, don't worry you would get used to it. It's not going to be the last time a woman squirts on you so get used to it

Nevyn

There are ways to lessen the ammount depending on how much fuilds/water she has had
to drink in the 24 hours before hand and some women are able to not let themselves
'go' as much, but really you woudl ahve to talk to her about it.

who007

Dudess wrote: »

Well if you're crazy about them, you'd investigate a way round it rather than just finishing with them...
Same should apply here OP. It's absolutely no big deal - try to stop seeing it that way.

Ah yeah, I'm with you there.. There was much more to it that wasn't working in my case. But it sure didn't help when I dreaded doing that ya know what I mean? I like to be very ehmm... affectionate to a girlfriend and have no taboos about doing anything that pleased her or stimulated her.

If the OP has no issues with taste then he's actually kinda lucky cos he's getting basically a standing ovation for his prowess kinda..

Overheal

girlbiker wrote: »

I didnt think this actually existed!:eek:

Why dont you talk to her about it?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Female_ejaculation

For future reference...

OP the Gods smile upon you. Also regarding taste, it depends on diet, and the same goes with us guys too. Junk food: Bad. Fruit: good. I'd also have to assume urinating before sex would lessen the amount of fluid....? Don't know quite.

Nevyn

Overheal wrote: »

I'd also have to assume urinating before sex would lessen the amount of fluid....? Don't know quite.

It won't as urine is stored in the bladder and female ejaculate is not urine.

Kinetic^

I honestly reckon it would be one of those things that would get really boring after a few times. I get that the woman has le orgasm as such, which is what ye want, but be drenched every single god damn time I have sex? No thanks. You'd want to be sponsored by Daz with the amount of sheet/towel washing you would do. If it really bothers you OP, work with the gf to see if you can maintain her enjoyment without the flood gates opening. Failing that, I'd probably move on if it's going to bother you that much.

lilminx

Thaedydal wrote: »

female ejaculate is not urine.

Thanks for clarifying that Thaedydal. Last thing this thread needs is that confusion.

OP, really just accept the praise. Because it's something you've never experienced before, it is bound to something you're not sure of, but educate yourself a little and you'll learn that it's perfectly natural and she's a lucky lucky girl.

Only happens to me with my most recent OH.. and only because he spends the time...

it's mindblowing for us girlies and you should be patting yerself on the back..

Overheal

Thaedydal wrote: »

It won't as urine is stored in the bladder and female ejaculate is not urine.

articles I read up on frequently seemed to confuse the two (female ejaculation and urination during orgasm, another 'phenomenon'). but anyways.

Another thing she or both of you can do as mentioned above is bathroom sex, or, she can shower before sex and get herself off a few times first to get through the most of it. Or of course: towels.

Toots

OP, If I were you I'd take this as a compliment!! I don't think there's much she'll be able to do about it cos AFAIK it's involuntary. Best bet is (as has already been said) either put down a towel, or keep fresh sheets on hand. Of course there's always the option of PVC sheets if you're into that nice and easy to wipe down afterwards.

Liam Byrne

Unregistered wrote: »

Ok, I'll keep this brief...

I just started seeing this girl and I really like her but... well the title says it all - she's a squirter. I have to say this is a first for me and I don't know what to make of it. Kinda turns me off sex with her. It's all just such a mess.

So is this actually in anyway common?? What's the best way to deal with this if it continues to bother me??

OP - reverse the roles for a sec......if she was on here posting that you were a "squirter", and having second thoughts about ye as a result, wouldn't you be annoyed ?

"I wish he didn't enjoy himself and cum as much, coz it's messy"

Bit of a surprise the first time you encounter it alright, especially if you didn't realise it happens, but anything you've mentioned (mess, taste, etc) could easily be "objected to" by a girl, too.

And I'm now off to indulge in happy memories of the weekend I first encountered this phenomenon......as others have said, I must have been doing something right!

Nevyn

Or there are sex pads or sex blankets which can be bought which a designed to
soak up the messiness.

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who007

Thaedydal wrote: »

Or there are sex pads or sex blankets which can be bought which a designed to
soak up the messiness.

Wooaaa!!! COOOL!

Where and how much??

Nevyn

"Adult" sites sell them, I can not link to them on this forum so I suggest you try google.

Foxhound38

I really can't see the problem myself OP, as was said earlier theres a lot of blokes (me included) that would love to be in your shoes. It's not really something she can help doing in either case so I guess you'll have to get used to it, heck try to enjoy the change if you can. Clean sheets and a towel in the wardrobe might be helpful

shellyboo

kingtut wrote: »

Perhaps she can control it herself somehow?

Kinetic^ wrote: »

I honestly reckon it would be one of those things that would get really boring after a few times. I get that the woman has le orgasm as such, which is what ye want, but be drenched every single god damn time I have sex? No thanks. You'd want to be sponsored by Daz with the amount of sheet/towel washing you would do. If it really bothers you OP, work with the gf to see if you can maintain her enjoyment without the flood gates opening. Failing that, I'd probably move on if it's going to bother you that much.

Oh my GOD. Seriously?

I hate it when my boyfiend ejaculates too it's, like, so BORING. I'm trying to train him out of it though, I mean, ick, messy. :pac::rolleyes::D

Come on lads, honestly... I don't know about this girl in particular and how keen on the cum she is herself, but women have to deal with your emissions every single time you have sex... sometimes even twice if you're lucky! Women are asked (sometimes even expected) to have it in every orifice, on every surface, face, boobs, ass... even asked to ingest it. And you two are saying that this girl, who ejaculates when she orgasms, should HOLD IT IN?

Words actually fail me.


OP, you should certainly do a bit of research on this topic - you'll find that it's something that's much to be desired and a lot of couples actually work towards it happening. Your gf ejaculating is a good thing, a very good thing - means you're doing everything right - and tbh, if you can't handle that bit of mess, then you're being a bit immature about sex in general. (And before everyone leaps on me, yes I would say the same thing to a girl who had a problem with cum.)

Being with this girl means you're going to have to learn to deal with it - good sex is all about compromise.

MJOR

I don't really understand the problem tbh. Sex is messy... unless it's a hygiene thing which i don't think it is.

Otis Driftwood

Good for you OP.From talking to various female friends on this subject over the years some can and some cant but from what they have said,and from experience with girls that Ive been with that could,a squirting orgasm is more intense(according to them)and Ive spent more than a few fun filled hours trying to get various partners to squirt-invariably involves g-spot stimulation.
As for the people posting saying "how would you feel if she didnt want you to come/squirt"
There is the world of difference people.When a guy comes its a relatively small amount and can be pretty much aimed as to where its going eg a condom,a towel,a mouth or where ever but when a woman squirts its completly unpredictible.It depends on the level of arousal,how long sex/foreplay has been going on etc.I had one girl that squirted little more than a thimble full and another that could powerhose an SUV.Depending on position it can be very messy but as some other posters have said,messy sex is the best sex there is.Just enjoy it,and eachother and stock up on some cheap towels!

MagicMarker

shellyboo wrote: »

Oh my GOD. Seriously?

I hate it when my boyfiend ejaculates too it's, like, so BORING. I'm trying to train him out of it though, I mean, ick, messy. :pac::rolleyes::D

Come on lads, honestly... I don't know about this girl in particular and how keen on the cum she is herself, but women have to deal with your emissions every single time you have sex... sometimes even twice if you're lucky! Women are asked (sometimes even expected) to have it in every orifice, on every surface, face, boobs, ass... even asked to ingest it. And you two are saying that this girl, who ejaculates when she orgasms, should HOLD IT IN?

Words actually fail me.


OP, you should certainly do a bit of research on this topic - you'll find that it's something that's much to be desired and a lot of couples actually work towards it happening. Your gf ejaculating is a good thing, a very good thing - means you're doing everything right - and tbh, if you can't handle that bit of mess, then you're being a bit immature about sex in general. (And before everyone leaps on me, yes I would say the same thing to a girl who had a problem with cum.)

Being with this girl means you're going to have to learn to deal with it - good sex is all about compromise.

No offence, but I don't agree with the ''well you do it so what's wrong with me doing it'' argument.

Any girl that has allowed me to cum anywhere in particular does so because they LIKE IT, or at least told me that they liked it.

I wouldn't expect to do it if they didn't like it and like wise I wouldn't want to do anything that I didn't like.

If the OP finds it a turn off then he has every right to have second thoughts about a relationship.

mack81

What colour is it??

shellyboo

MagicMarker wrote: »

No offence, but I don't agree with the ''well you do it so what's wrong with me doing it'' argument.

Any girl that has allowed me to cum anywhere in particular does so because they LIKE IT, or at least told me that they liked it.

I wouldn't expect to do it if they didn't like it and like wise I wouldn't want to do anything that I didn't like.

If the OP finds it a turn off then he has every right to have second thoughts about a relationship.

Ok, I see where you're coming from here (excuse the pun).

Let's leave aside cumming in places other than the usual, because obviously that's a matter of personal preference - I was just using it to illustrate the fact that women deal with having stuff splashing on them all the time and the answer to that is not "stop ejaculating".

Let's just say they only ever have penetrative sex - to use "make her stop ejaculating" as a valid solution to the problem is both ignorant and ridiculous. Why should she stop orgasming/ejaculating because he doesn't like it? The onus here is on the OP to either learn to live with it, or break it off. There's no way he can reasonably ask her to stop ejaculating. That was my point - I wasn't saying he doesn't have the right not to like it. But if he wants to stay with her, he's going to have to learn to.

Persiancowboy

I cannot believe some of the posts here advocating that the op moves on from his girlfriend because of this!!!

Op , if i can quote from a line from the Life of Brian - "you lucky lucky bastard". Only experienced this myself once - she was mortified but I thought it was absolutely brilliant.

Go with the flow!!!

Motley Crue

Unregistered wrote: »

she's a squirter

Female ejaculation (colloquially known as squirting or gushing) refers to the expulsion of noticeable amounts of clear fluid by human females from the paraurethral ducts through and around the urethra during or before orgasm. The exact source and nature of the fluid continues to be the topic of heated debate among medical professionals

Unregistered wrote: »

So is this actually in anyway common??

It is claimed that "most women, the overwhelming proportion of women" are capable of ejaculation with training and practice

Unregistered wrote: »

What's the best way to deal with this if it continues to bother me??

In the United Kingdom, the British Board of Film Classification has banned films alleged to show female ejaculation, claiming that the expert medical advice they received informed them that there is no such thing as female ejaculation, and therefore it was deemed to show urine.

They later stated instead that they do not take any view on whether female ejaculation exists, only claiming that all examples they have seen thus far during classification have been urination during sex.

You should prob accept it as a normal part of her biology and if you dont like it then you might have to leave her.

randylonghorn

Unregistered wrote: »

I just started seeing this girl and I really like her but... well the title says it all - she's a squirter. I have to say this is a first for me and I don't know what to make of it. Kinda turns me off sex with her. It's all just such a mess.

So is this actually in anyway common?? What's the best way to deal with this if it continues to bother me??

So only guys get to squirt sticky liquid everywhere at the moment of orgasm?

If she's getting as much pleasure out of it as I do at that moment ....

Not trying to a smartarse, lad, but step back and get some perspective on this.

For example, by the sounds of it she's reaching orgasm.

Wouldn't it be a lot worse to have to pop in here to start a thread saying "I'm failing to make her cum!"

kingtut

shellyboo wrote: »

you two are saying that this girl, who ejaculates when she orgasms, should HOLD IT IN?

Words actually fail me.

What I said was:

kingtut wrote: »

Perhaps she can control it herself somehow?

I fail to see how this translates to hold it in ????


This clearly happens to the girl every time she has sex and so what I meant was that she might be able to gain control over it over time which means she can better prepare herself and her partner for when she is about to orgasm. Same applies to a guy, I can control to a reasonable extent as to when I am going to ejaculate so I am able to warn the person I am with in advance. That way they can choose where it goes. The last thing I would ask someone to do is to hold in the stuff that shows that they are having a good time!!

Nevyn

It's physically very different to the way a man ejacluates and it can't be controlled or
retarded in the same manner.

kingtut

Thaedydal wrote: »

It's physically every different to the way a man ejacluated and it can't be controlled or
retarded in the same manner.

Umm did you mean "It's physically different in every way to the way a man ejaculates and it can't be controlled or regarded in the same manner"?

Sorry I just had difficulty reading your post.

Faith

No, she meant retarded. It's another word for delayed.

kingtut

Faith wrote: »

No, she meant retarded. It's another word for delayed.

Hmm ok thanks.

LegacyUser

OP again...

Ok, thanks for the comments everyone.

Can I just start by saying I was never going to suggest that she somehow "control" herself and stop this happening. That would just be ridiculous.

And for those that think it's cool - I'll be the first to admit that before actually seeing this for myself I would have thought that this would be awesome! But actually dealing with (sorry to sound like I'm moaning) the mess and the logistics (I really do sound like a tw@t now...) and having to change sheets all the time kinda threw me a bit.

Anyway, I'm going to do 2 things here...
1 - embrace it!
2 - talk to her about it. Well, maybe more chat. Pillow talk sometime without making any kind of big deal about it. The thing I want to do is make her feel self-conscious about this and completely ruin sex for the two of us!

So as a few people said I'm just going to go with the flow... I really shouldn't have made such a big deal about this. I was just wondering if people had similar experiences or if the girls wanted to let me in on some inside information as this was all new to me.

Thanks!

shellyboo

Unregistered wrote: »

But actually dealing with (sorry to sound like I'm moaning) the mess and the logistics (I really do sound like a tw@t now...) and having to change sheets all the time kinda threw me a bit.

Boys are gross... do other people not change the sheets every time they have sex anyway, or is that just me? :pac::D:p

Unregistered wrote: »

Anyway, I'm going to do 2 things here...
1 - embrace it!
2 - talk to her about it. Well, maybe more chat. Pillow talk sometime without making any kind of big deal about it. The thing I want to do is make her feel self-conscious about this and completely ruin sex for the two of us!

So as a few people said I'm just going to go with the flow... I really shouldn't have made such a big deal about this. I was just wondering if people had similar experiences or if the girls wanted to let me in on some inside information as this was all new to me.

Thanks!

Go with the flow, lol... nice punning

That's great news OP, especially the bit about not making a big deal out of it - she could get really self-conscious if you turn it into this big serious discussion about it.

mayblue

I have a suggestion for the messy sheets....

<SNIIP>
Mod edit: please to not link to adult sites in PI.

... as for the fact you don't like her squirting... is it because it's messy or because it just freaks you out? nothing wrong with a woman squirting, it's natural and as most guys have already said, it is a compliment to your abilities meaning that she's not just pretending to cum, think about that ;-)

Nevyn

shellyboo wrote: »

do other people not change the sheets every time they have sex anyway, or is that just me?

Most adults do.....

shellyboo wrote: »

That's great news OP, especially the bit about not making a big deal out of it - she could get really self-conscious if you turn it into this big serious discussion about it.

I doubt she is unaware of the fact, hopefully she is mature enough to have
a reasonable and sensible conversation about it but she may have had
awkward experiences in the past about this topic. It can be a bit of a learning
curve for some people as the topic is not that often spoken about.

Hopefully threads like this will help.

mayblue wrote: »

I have a suggestion for the messy sheets....

<SNIIP>
Mod edit: please to not link to adult sites in PI.

... as for the fact you don't like her squirting... is it because it's messy or because it just freaks you out? nothing wrong with a woman squirting, it's natural and as most guys have already said, it is a compliment to your abilities meaning that she's not just pretending to cum, think about that ;-)

PVC sheets are horrid IMHO ( unless you are into them ), they are cold and get slippy very fast and the liquid can pool on them and cool rapidly and then you have to find something to soak it up afterwards.

Layers of towels or a spare duvet that can be thrown in the wash, and a
plain old mattress protector works better if you are not going to go the whole hog and buy on those those blanket sex throes.

mayblue

hehehe mine was just a suggestion as PVC doesn't allow liquid to soak through the sheets or even worse, the materass, however I'm sure it's cold and uncomfortable so probably a towel still needs to be used....

changing sheets regularly, especially when you have sex on them, is a must!!!!