Valentines

LegacyUser

Hi

I am not too sure if I am in the right place cause I dont know if its a "personal issue" but I am just wondering about something

Only just started seeing someone for the last 2 weeks - getting on well and all but I am wondering silly things - do I get them a card? plan something for Valentines - don't really want to mention it in case it freaks them out but not sure if I should be prepared in case

I am the lady - do I just leave it and see if they do something? or will I take charge?
Don't want to scare them thinking its a big relationship either but dont know if I should do nothing either

Thx

LegacyUser

If you're seeing each other and Valentines Day is fast approaching, I don't think it's unreasonable to expect to be with each other that day, and a card is an extension of that. Be bold, suggest doing something together and buy a light hearted card which shows you're thinking of them. Has he dropped you any hints about wanting to do something ?

aoibhebree

I'd get him a card, and maybe something like aftershave - but hide it away and don't give it to him unless he gives you something!! I know two weeks isn't a long time, but I'd be surprised if he didn't get you anything Good luck!!

TemTemz

I'm somewhat on the same boat. But being the guy in the relationship
Been officially together for a bit longer, but we were seeing each other a lot longer than that.

What I'm doing is flowers, a card and possibly a little something on the side, small gift of something she likes. The flowers were expensive enough, so not planning a big gift. Hopefully spend the day together, but we're both tied down with college work that weekend

On that note, a card never hurts and something small on the side for "just in case" as aoibhebree mentioned. And taking charge if you feel like spending time with them isn't a bad thing; always nice to see the girl putting in the effort from time to time

Koushki

aoibhebree wrote: »

I'd get him a card, and maybe something like aftershave - but hide it away and don't give it to him unless he gives you something!! I know two weeks isn't a long time, but I'd be surprised if he didn't get you anything Good luck!!

do NOT buy him aftershave.

just a nice little card. and don't make a big deal out of it. It's only been two weeks. yet it's still a nice gesture that shows you like him.

Craft25

your issue is almost a carbon copy of this:

http://boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055481428

funny simple card, no present seems to be the consensus

LegacyUser

OP here:

thanks alot - ya i think i will get him one sure. I mean does it freak guys out? Only planning a little funny/cute card nothing with I LOVE YOU AND WANT YOU TO FATHER MY CHILDREN kinda thing. I just dont want to make anything awkward by getting it.

he has not mentioned anything yet but we'll see. its just at casual /see how we go stage so dont want to press too much but we talk every day so possibly towards the weekend ill get some idea...

so no to a present thing...just a card?

Terodil

Definitely NO present.

TBH if I was him in that case it might freak me out a little. Then again it might not, depends on the card. But in all frankness, I tend to give VD (and the similarly commercially re-invented Halloween) a wide berth anyway.

who007

Terodil wrote: »

I tend to give VD (and the similarly commercially re-invented Halloween) a wide berth anyway.

and on that note, don't forget to use condoms!

Curlypinkie

I'm a girl and after 2 weeks up to a month of seeing someone, it would maybe not freak me out, but I would find it a bit awkward.

But that's just me, I'm not big into Valentines.

LegacyUser

definetly NO, NO, NO. Let him do the work and chase you, save the card for next year if you are still together

who007

Jesus! Just get him a nice funny card and don't write anything mushy just put a coupla kisses in it. It'll be something bonding.. I would appreciate it from a girl I just met..

Unregistered

Unregistered wrote: »

definetly NO, NO, NO. Let him do the work and chase you, save the card for next year if you are still together

That is absolutely rubbish "advice". :mad:


Seconding the general simple card no present sentiment myself

Sangre

Confused Blues wrote: »

I mean does it freak guys out? Only planning a little funny/cute card nothing with I LOVE YOU AND WANT YOU TO FATHER MY CHILDREN kinda thing.

That would be quite funny.

lolli

Op,

Ask your new boyfriend what he wants to do for Valentines day, just ask are you free to see each other and what he would like to do. I really don't understand people who just won't ask their partner directly. I was once in a new relationship around valentines day and I ASKED him what he wanted to do, we went for dinner and got each other a token gift. Talk to each other, otherwise you are at risk of getting your wires crossed.

LegacyUser

who007 wrote: »

Jesus! Just get him a nice funny card and don't write anything mushy just put a coupla kisses in it. It'll be something bonding.. I would appreciate it from a girl I just met..

Perfect!!!!

Im a guy and if I was just seeing someone for a coupe of weeks this is what I would do. I wouldnt get them a present so if she got me one I might feel a little awkward about it. A simple card with xxx in it or something. Its not gonna scare him off!

Or as I read somewhere else make a card and write "Because they dont make cards that say only going out 2 weeks!"...Id be impressed.

GrumPy

In this situation myself. Found it very difficult to find a card that doesn't say a variation of the following: I am super doper ultra madly in love with you/To my girlfriend/get your kit off

Found one eventually that basically says I like you, happy vals day. lol

LegacyUser

If you are Catholic and you are celebrating SAINT Valentines Day (be sure whcih one there were three of them AFAIK) then go to church.

Otherwise it might as well becalled 'love day' or some rot because its very silly.

who007

Unregistered wrote: »

Or as I read somewhere else make a card and write "Because they dont make cards that say only going out 2 weeks!"...Id be impressed.

That is GENIUS! Can I be on this creative team? In at the beginning? When do we pitch to Hallmark?





No, really!

who007

GrumPy wrote: »

In this situation myself. Found it very difficult to find a card that doesn't say a variation of the following: I am super doper ultra madly in love with you/To my girlfriend/get your kit off

Found one eventually that basically says I like you, happy vals day. lol

I'd be happy with the "get your kit off" one after two weeks! :D:D