Head is wrecked by a prick tease.

LegacyUser

Hello all,

Not sure if this is a rant or need to get it off my chest or i'm looking for advice.

Anyway, met this girl, now I know 100% I could never have a shot with her, she is so far out of my league its scary. But thing is, she is flirting with me pretty heavily. Now I enjoy the fact she is flirting with me, and again, I know I have no chance with her, but I'm starting to get a fairly big crush on her. I cant just stop meeting her either as she part of a group of people I socialise with.

Now....I'm off to do something about these blue balls.

Wibbs

Why do you reckon you've no chance? Makes little sense until you try. Leagues are all very well in football, but with life you may get a surprise. Flirt right back with her. Wind her up a bit. If she backs off, because she was playing some sort of game well then tease her over that. Don't get stroppy. Keep it fun and don't sweat rejection. In fact if you think she's outa your league, that should actually make it easier as you've nothing to lose.

*EDIT* she's not the one wrecking your head, you're wrecking your own head. OK you may say she's winding you up, but if another woman who you reckoned was beneath you in this league you speak of was flirting the same way, you wouldn't have a wrecked head.

Jack B. Badd

Headmelted wrote: »

Anyway, met this girl, now I know 100% I could never have a shot with her, she is so far out of my league its scary. But thing is, she is flirting with me pretty heavily.

How does this make her a prick tease?

Headmelted

Headmelted wrote: »

Hello all,

Not sure if this is a rant or need to get it off my chest or i'm looking for advice.

Anyway, met this girl, now I know 100% I could never have a shot with her, she is so far out of my league its scary. But thing is, she is flirting with me pretty heavily. Now I enjoy the fact she is flirting with me, and again, I know I have no chance with her, but I'm starting to get a fairly big crush on her. I cant just stop meeting her either as she part of a group of people I socialise with.

Now....I'm off to do something about these blue balls.

How about you stop wrecking your own head and insulting girls you're into based on your own lack of action?

FFS why aren't you the tease when you're flirting with her but won't make a move either?

Chinafoot

bluewolf wrote: »

FFS why aren't you the tease when you're flirting with her but won't make a move either?

Pretty, flirty girl + boy's insecurity = prick tease.
She'll probably be a "slut" if she turns him down....(always loved that one. "No I won't have sex with you" "Whore".)

OP, either make a move or stop flirting with her. Realise that she's doing nothing wrong and referring to her as a prick tease because of your own insecurities is a pretty juvenile thing to do.

LegacyUser

Yea, there really is no such thing as leagues. I thought this for a long time, basically anyone I fancied I would think was out of my league (maybe this was just a way of accepting rejection). I used to be besotted with this girl a couple of years back and never thought in a million years I would have stood a chance but seen her for the first time in ages a couple of months back and she was there with her boyfriend....he was nothing at all to look at. This got me thinking so I just said it to her that I was mad about her when we used to hang out a couple of years ago and she said the same thing about me and she wandered why I never made a move!!!

So this girl joined work 5 months back and literally she had every guy in the company chasing her and was surrounded by guys on nights out. Although she was stunning and at first I thought she was out of my league, the experience with meeting up with the previous girl I had thought this about made me just say "f*ck it, what have I got to lose, make a move". Im now going out with this girl for 2 months. Just go for it, if you dont you may never know.

LegacyUser

Jack B. Badd wrote: »

How does this make her a prick tease?

Well she's told me, I mean she has actually said its a bit of fun and I'm just teasing you. Numerous friends have told me also.

No idea how to multi quote but to the others who replied, maybe prick tease is the wrong term, I mean, I dont consider her a slut/whore or anything negative, I do enjoy the attention.

But yeah, I will stop flirting back. I mean nothing can come of it, she's made that clear to me.

Jack B. Badd

Headmelted wrote: »

Well she's told me, I mean she has actually said its a bit of fun and I'm just teasing you. Numerous friends have told me also.

If she told you that she's a tease and you continue to allow her to tease you then there's a good chance she thinks you like it. The fact that you did nothing to stop it isn't her problem in any way.

Wibbs

Headmelted wrote: »

Well she's told me, I mean she has actually said its a bit of fun and I'm just teasing you. Numerous friends have told me also.

No idea how to multi quote but to the others who replied, maybe prick tease is the wrong term, I mean, I dont consider her a slut/whore or anything negative, I do enjoy the attention.

But yeah, I will stop flirting back. I mean nothing can come of it, she's made that clear to me.

So why is she doing it? That's the question I would ask. I'd flirt right back with her tbh. Just keep boundaries regarding playful banter. If she pushes too hard, then back off in a nice way. I would largely ignore what mates say and I would actually ignore what she says too. If she continues to flirt repay in kind. Listen to what she does, not what she says. Those can be at odds in some. Way back I knew this woman who was doing kinda similar with me, though she would constantly(and I mean constantly) tell me and whoever was around that she wouldn't touch me with someone elses bargepole. She ended going out with me for 6 months. I've seen blokes do similar.

Joey the lips

Headmelted wrote: »

Hello all,

Not sure if this is a rant or need to get it off my chest or i'm looking for advice.

Anyway, met this girl, now I know 100% I could never have a shot with her, she is so far out of my league its scary. But thing is, she is flirting with me pretty heavily. Now I enjoy the fact she is flirting with me, and again, I know I have no chance with her, but I'm starting to get a fairly big crush on her. I cant just stop meeting her either as she part of a group of people I socialise with.

Now....I'm off to do something about these blue balls.

Hi Headmelted

How do you know you dont have a chance but regardless bear something in mind the best flirts are married men(Sorry lads) cause the are happy and go along with it for the laugh, Flirt back but dont over do it. She knows she is goodlooing I would say and she knows what buttons to push. Practise back on her, you might learn what buttons to push on her or learn for the future

Either way, either ignore her or go along with the buzz. Dont take thing so serious its clear she is not

banshee_bones

dont be thinking shes out of your league!

by the sounds of it, it would seem like YOU are out of HER leauge!

and she damn well knows it!

flirt back i say! and let HER know she hasnt got a snowballs chance in hell with you! after all she said "its just a bit of fun"

Right?

Nevyn

If you want her to stop then tell her, if she won't then up the ante until she gets embrassed and backs down. If it's fun and your getting an ego boost fine but if
it just causing you far too much frustration then tell her to cut it out and
stop interacting with her if she won't respect your wishes.

yellowcurl

Is it just me or is she a bit cruel? She's made it clear she's not actually interested, but continues to flirt flirt flirt.

Seems like she's just looking for a bit of ego-boosting every now and then. She knows you like her and is exploiting that fact for a little feelgood factor.

Jack B. Badd

yellowcurl wrote: »

Is it just me or is she a bit cruel? She's made it clear she's not actually interested, but continues to flirt flirt flirt.

Seems like she's just looking for a bit of ego-boosting every now and then. She knows you like her and is exploiting that fact for a little feelgood factor.

Puppies are cute with their big brown eyes and their unconditional love and sometimes it's fun to kick them... Yes, she is cruel but the OP doesn't seem to have stood up to her so what incentive does she have to stop when he's so willing to follow her around?

Overheal

Headmelted wrote: »

Well she's told me, I mean she has actually said its a bit of fun and I'm just teasing you. Numerous friends have told me also.

No idea how to multi quote but to the others who replied, maybe prick tease is the wrong term, I mean, I dont consider her a slut/whore or anything negative, I do enjoy the attention.

But yeah, I will stop flirting back. I mean nothing can come of it, she's made that clear to me.

Ah, Egomaniacs. They don't want you, they just want your attention. It's like they get wet just thinking about all the eyes washing over them. Then what happens when you ignore them: they get angry.

I met a nasty piece of work once: she'd bait guys, then she was the laziest fcuker after that: Oh would you do me this favor or that favor. And then you have enough of her sh!t and she showed off what kind of basket case she was.

They aren't worth your time your attention or your sanity. Unfortunately there are a lot of charming women out there who know it, and use it as a tool. You have no chance with them, but when you start to shake off the spell thats when they'll try to lure you in a little closer to get you to stick around longer - look out for that.