Confused over old friend

LegacyUser

Im 19. I didnt have bebo until around summer 2007, and the only reason i got it is because i spotted a person i had not talked to since i was 4/5. When i was around 4 she lived across the road from me and we were best friends. I know what your thinking cute story awh etc but anyway i got in contact with her again via bebo and msn.

Shes a year older than me and thought it was great that we got in contact again. Bumped into her in a nightclub around christmas that year and talked a small bit. Was lost for words. That was the last time we talked i think.

I might be reading into in too much but I left her a comment sometime last year to see how she was getting on with college and that but didnt get anything back. Left her another comment a few weeks later and got nothing back. THEN went onto her profile a few weeks later and it was private, said only friends can view thats when i started to wonder. I added her anyhow, assuming my bebo had deleted a few friends or something, but more than likely i was deleted.To this date it was not accepted and she hasnt been on msn since around the start of 2008.

It doesnt bother me that much but lately i was just thinking it was a bit odd any idea what a reason would be that im being avoided by a childhood friend?

4Xcut

There is so many possible reasons that it's not worth your time trying to work out why. Even if 20 people post with 20 different possibilities that are all plausible, you'll not be able to figure out which one. Sometimes we just have to accept things as brute fact without explanation. Best to just forget about it.

Das Kitty

Yeah forget about it. Some people are very sensitive to even the slightest perceived fault.

Why only two weeks ago a girl I know from college decided to get in a huff with me because I was having a chat with a fella who *shock* isn't my husband!

I've been deleted from Stalkerbook by a supposed friend because I told her that I think it's hilarious when people spend so much on Fake Tan and end up looking like an orange, she doesn't even wear the stuff. She's barely talking to me still when we bump into one another.

If the girl is pissed off enough with you over what you say isn't even significant enough for you to remember, leave her off, her loss.

Hagar

She was only 4 years old when you last spoke, unless you are both still big into My Little Pony you probably have nothing in common to talk about anyway. You have managed to get through the last 15 years without talking to her, the next 15 years won't be any harder. Forget her and get on with your life.

castie

The way you seem to be approaching this gives me the sense that you have formed some sort of attraction towards her. It is possible that she picked up on this and did not feel comfortable.

Monkey61

Okay so you signed up to Bebo specifically to talk to her, then you met her in person and didn't have much to say to each other, then you sent her a message which she ignored, so you sent her another one which she ignored, then you added her as a friend again, despite all this...

Presumably she just didn't have much to say to you and perhaps worried that you might want to meet up with her. She didn't want to, so she stopped replying instead of having to give excuses.

Better than a few months down the line you wondering why she had been chatting away to you but then kept putting you off and making excuses when you wanted to hang out.

LegacyUser

OP, to be honest, if someone doesn't answer you once, leave it. But to persist and try again and again even though she made her page private comes accross as a bit pushy and desperate.

I think it is bothering you a little more than you might be admitting. It is hurtful to be blanked by people, but it happens and often without what we would perceive as a "good reason". The thing is she doesn't owe you an explanation so really do try to forget about it.

If the conversation was stilted in the night club maybe she just found you boring (thats not to say you are) but maybe she did and decided to not pursue the friendship.

Dont go any further with it trying to "prove" you are exiting and worthy of her friendship, you will only look worse.

Forget about it and concentrate on people who like you and give you the time of day.

Dublin_Gunner

This may sound harsh, but....

You mean nothing to her. She couldn't care less what you do with yourself, and she has no interest in finding out what happened to you over the years.
She has friends, and her life, and you're not part of it, just some kid she knew donkeys ago.

Get over it, move on. Women can be very un-tactful when it pleases them

LegacyUser

Thanx for the responses about the her thinking i wanted to meet up or anything thats a definite no, we barely spoke anyway and this is what just added to the confusion... as if we barely spoke atall, maybe a comment or 2 here or a small chat once a month(if even) on msn, then why would i be blanked out?

And about forming the attraction to her, i had a feeling my post was a bit too detailed hehe, but i had a girlfriend at the time i got in contact with her and there was definitely no attraction

Think its time to stop letting this bother me slightly and not let it bother me atall

Sound for the replys