Changing Mind Channels

LegacyUser

Folks,

I'll keep this very brief. I already know what I have to do, just not sure how to do it.

I'm not a youngster (early 30's male). There's a woman I've got very strong feelings for (few years older than me), and am fairly sure she doesn't know. Through circumstances and other things I fully believe there is no way we would ever be together, even if I tried. I'm convinced of that and see things no other way.

So given the fact that there is no way for me to be with her, how do you stop the feelings ? How do you get her out of your head ? How do you re-capture your own quiet head space ? How can I return to being my own normal self ?

There are so many other questions I haven't asked, but I think the above is key to nudging me back on the right track. So, how do you do it ?

Nevyn

Distance and time, eventually you will not think of her so much and your feelings will fade.

LegacyUser

If she doesn't know, how will you ever find out if she has feeling for you unless you say something to her? You don't say whether she is married/unavailable, if that is why, do as Thaedydal said. The only way then if you feel you cant say anything is to try and move on from it day by day. It will be hard if you meet her but what have you to lose unless you tell her

LegacyUser

I know how you feel. I have often imagined what it would be like if i had the courage to tell the person how i felt what would they say. But i know nothing will ever happen because of certain circumstances. I imagine us getting together just once but i know in my heart deep down it would only make things worse. At present we are still friends as i rather have them in my life than out of it as we were friends first and always will i hope. Time is a good healer so they say.