Have you ever felt drawn to someone?

LegacyUser

Hi,

This might be a weird question but have you ever felt drawn to someone that you dont even know?

Reason being is I feel this way for a colleague who is fairly high up in my company..

I cannot explain why - I do find him attractive, thing is i've found other people attractive but this feels different..I find myself wanting to go up and talk to him and find out more about him without actually wanting it to turn into something more..

Every time I see him I get butterflys and feel funny inside, typical examples of having a crush I know but how can you feel this way for someone you've barely ever said hello to?

Apologies if anyone finds this weird - I do myself which is why i'm posting this thread as i'm kind of weirding myself out...just cant understand why i'm feeling this way for a total stranger..

Any input much appreciated!!

CathyMoran

Yes, I felt drawn to two people in my life, one was my first love and is now a good friend, the other is the love of my life, my soul mate and husband. The thing that rings alarm bells though is that he is a collegue who is fairly high up in the company - I personally would be too scared to do anything in case it fell flat and hurt my career but I can only say what I would do.

Dizzyblonde

Do you mean you have a crush on him? That is not unusual at all, especially when the person is in a position of power. Power is a great aphrodisiac.
It's important to recognise it for what it is though.

'Wanting to go up to him and find out more about him without turning it into anything more' sounds a bit strange though. Is he married? Also, when you say you feel 'drawn' to him what exactly do you mean?

Salome

Maybe the OP is married?

sunnyside

I think feeling drawn towards someone is part of that elusive spark/chemistry so for me it would be very desirable and definitely not weird.

MizzLolly

I think everybody has felt drawn to someone at some stage. It's not uncommon for people to develop crushes on a person they've met once or twice. Sometimes there's just a spark and a lot of chemistry.

I hadn't felt that spark for a long time after my last break up almost two years ago. But recently I got to know somebody who even caused me to feel those butterflies you get in your stomach. It doesn't look like it's gona go anywhere sadly but I am more than happy that I've felt that spark again because I was scared I wouldn't after my ex. So be glad you're feelin' it OP

You have a crush on him. It's sweet, it doesn't have to go anywhere but it isn't weird. Enjoy the butterflies

LegacyUser

goin unreg for this one!

answer is YES! it hurts soooooooooo much if their in a rel. nobody but those who are experiencing it can understnad what it feels like to literally shake, get sweaty hands and not be able to write (cos wer in lectures together) when i see him. beyond drawn to him. tbh. lived with someone for the summer, knew he had a gf and we were best friends for this period. ended up in the same classes together back in college...used to hug, get a kiss on the shoulder/forehead whenever we were alone/out but that was it. he has a gf and thats it pretty much. bumped into him and the gf (who he didnt introduce to me but knew cos a bebostalked her..what a loser i am( and it literally breaks me apart when i see him but hes happy and im not the type of girl 2 go 4 him when hes in a rel. f**k it i guess just not the right time...going on a year now...waiting for time to heal it ...cos i heard thats how it works

tbh

it's a crush. You don't know the guy, he could be a smelly racist who's pathetic in bed. But somehow, we never endow those qualities on our crushes do we? We just imagine them to be perfect, but they rarely are. Don't worry about it, but don't allow it to develop into an obsession either.

Mr. Incognito

it's a crush. You don't know the guy, he could be a smelly racist who's pathetic in bed. But somehow, we never endow those qualities on our crushes do we? We just imagine them to be perfect, but they rarely are. Don't worry about it, but don't allow it to develop into an obsession either.

Excellent point. However, judging by my previous crushes I'd still like them if they were smelly racists.

I think it happens- In fact I've had it happen to me once or twice- it's great when it does.

You've been tangoed it seems. Is he available?

Dragan

Drawn wrote: »

Hi,

This might be a weird question but have you ever felt drawn to someone that you dont even know?

Reason being is I feel this way for a colleague who is fairly high up in my company..

I cannot explain why - I do find him attractive, thing is i've found other people attractive but this feels different..I find myself wanting to go up and talk to him and find out more about him without actually wanting it to turn into something more..

Every time I see him I get butterflys and feel funny inside, typical examples of having a crush I know but how can you feel this way for someone you've barely ever said hello to?

Apologies if anyone finds this weird - I do myself which is why i'm posting this thread as i'm kind of weirding myself out...just cant understand why i'm feeling this way for a total stranger..

Any input much appreciated!!

No offence, but you are NOT drawn to him. You don't even know him or what type of person he is. What you are drawn to is the fantasy of him.

Perhaps something that you do know about him matches up with your mental "fantasty man" and this is making things a bit heavier but the simple fact is that in your head you may be attaching a lot of characteristics and traits to him that simply are not true.

My advice, either get to know him or or move on.

jessbeth

Yes I have, I remember a visiting group of guys were at out school one time and one day one of the guys just passed by and touched my hand by accident. I remember feeling a fire inside (I know that sounds cheesy) but I've never experienced anything like it since. They were gone that day and it's ages ago but I really felt drawn to him for some reason and I knew absolutely nothing about him.
Maybe it has to do with past lives if you believe in that :-)

LegacyUser

Only ever been drawn to one girl in the same way but it was because she just seemed to have the charicteristcs of what I believe my perfect girl would be. I never really talked to her but she just had that something that really got to me. That was about 4 years ago, havent seen her since but sometimes still think od her. I saw the guy she is now seeing a couple of weeks back and do I feel like such an idiot for thinking I never had a chance back then......thats were self confidence gets you I guess. I didnt have it then but I sure do now.

LegacyUser

My response Unregistered !

To the OP, if you don't mind and if I may. I've been in that very situation but the other way around - I'm the senior guy. Personally I find it happens quiet a bit, with different people male and female.

I don't think it's a case of finding me attractive or being drawn to me in that way. Facing the facts of the matter - I don't normally attract any female attention outside of the office because I'm not good looking. So the conclusion I've come to is it must have something to do with seniority and authority. I guess that makes some sort of sense because I felt like that myself from time to time when making my way up the ladder.