Getting my Love - Life on Track

LegacyUser

Hi All

Sorry if this is a bit long.... but I have what I see as a couple of problems

I'm in my late 20's, and still a virgin, I've never been in along term relationship, I find that I freeze up when around women in a 'romantic' environment, and never know what to do or say, and instead quite often disappear home. This has also left me in the difficult positon of not being able to approach women either. The end result is that I feel so lonely as anyone I know is in long-term relationships. To be quite honest, I know that the best solution to this, is to force myself through the inital awkward phase, but I'm also worried should successfully approach a woman, that given my age, that a certain level of sexual experience will be expected.... which I think add's to my worries.

I know this sounds rather depressing, but does anybody have any idea's or advice?

LegacyUser

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Hi All

Sorry if this is a bit long.... but I have what I see as a couple of problems

I'm in my late 20's, and still a virgin, I've never been in along term relationship, I find that I freeze up when around women in a 'romantic' environment, and never know what to do or say, and instead quite often disappear home. This has also left me in the difficult positon of not being able to approach women either. The end result is that I feel so lonely as anyone I know is in long-term relationships. To be quite honest, I know that the best solution to this, is to force myself through the inital awkward phase, but I'm also worried should successfully approach a woman, that given my age, that a certain level of sexual experience will be expected.... which I think add's to my worries.

I know this sounds rather depressing, but does anybody have any idea's or advice?

Try joining a club or gym where you can meet members of the opposite sex in a relaxed environment or do some kind of course like cookery for example where you can learn some new skill but also put yourself in with the chance of making some new friends and who knows what else, start small but think big.

Or another option would be online dating.

stick your profile up on somewhere like plentyoffish and see if there's someone out there with the same interests who might be interested in swapping emails and who knows perhaps going on a date. I wish you the best of luck.

spinandscribble

internet dating sites? honestly, some people can't seem to break out of their shell in person, its very unfortunate. Give it a try.

Overheal

Ive tried the internet dating thing once or twice. Ultimately the whole ordeal feels unnatural and forced. But on the other hand, when you're in such a position, it does help to go on a few blind e-dates where you can try out being romantic, or simply say "I don't know what im doing" without feeling like you've totally embarassed yourself in front of someone you would otherwise be forced to see again on a regular basis if you had first met in the flesh, rather than through the internet.

Also, don't let the virginity bother you. Its common for 20-somethings, and is never an issue unless you make it out to be one.