shes not experienced?

LegacyUser

hey.
firstly ill give some background. i am wiht my gf for a while, we are both in final years in a similar college degree so are by no means young.

i have slept wiht people before, on the other hand she hasnt. i honestly, love this. i realy love this girl. i have no promebles with this as stated. but we have been together about 4 or 5 months(depending on the date now... kinda drunk etc.. :P)

anyway we are going on holidays just the two of us soon. now im convinced the only reason it hasent happened it that we are gooing away sooner and both of us would rather it be on holidays in a nice romantic setting for her first time.

i was just wondering if i could have nay tips, what would be best to do etc to make more comfortable for her? i realy want not to impres her because that would be my ego... but i want her to enjoy it and make it a memorable experience, my own first experience wasnt great, wiht a manipulative ex etc in an undesired location etc.

basically what can i do to make her happer and more comfortable? noe foreplay has to this point even been very little, i dont know if she enjoys it and i feel she is to embaresed by her lack of experience with guys to try with me, and i honestly would never pressure her, its all in her head etc...

this just leads me to believe i need to make it decent for her... i dunno!

any help apprecated!

bad2theboneB

I think alcohol is the way forward, not too much but a little tipsy just to calm the nerves and remove any awkwardness. Just for the first time maybe, after that she`ll at least have an idea what its like and what to do etc.

LegacyUser

bad2theboneB wrote: »

I think alcohol is the way forward, not too much but a little tipsy just to calm the nerves and remove any awkwardness. Just for the first time maybe, after that she`ll at least have an idea what its like and what to do etc.

op here. i dunno! i dont like the idea of having to have alcahol to smoothen it all.. if she wants to i understand. but at the same time i wont go for a drink to make easier to get into pants(im not implying this is what you mean but its what would go through my mind)

im seriously in this relationship. and i dunno. is it possible to make this more comfortable without alcohol?

Zaph

I think what bad2theboneB is suggesting is dinner with a nice bottle of wine, or sharing a bottle of champagne as you watch the sun set. Just enough to relax you both, not that you neck half a dozen Jagerbombs before heading off to bed. Remember that you may be just as anxious as her when the time comes if you're over-eager in your attempts to make her feel at ease, so the alcohol might help you relax too.

demakinz

i think you should forget about planning it,its a bad idea to put that much pressure on yourself,youl end up waiting for it from the time you get on the plane.i was in a the same suiyation one time and we planned it for months and it just made things more awkward..just let it flow and what ever happens happens...

good luck

bad2theboneB

Unregistered wrote: »

op here. i dunno! i dont like the idea of having to have alcahol to smoothen it all.. if she wants to i understand. but at the same time i wont go for a drink to make easier to get into pants(im not implying this is what you mean but its what would go through my mind)

im seriously in this relationship. and i dunno. is it possible to make this more comfortable without alcohol?

As Zaph said I was thinking along the lines of wine/drinks with a meal, I don`t think alcohol should be perceived as a bad thing but i understand what you mean. From past experience it definitely helped with my first time with previous partners. The only other way i can think of would be to discuss everything with her, ask her what she might be concerned about and just be open about everything. Being able to talk about it will make her more comfortable and lessen her insecurities.

BraziliaNZ

yeah if you have it all hyped up it's bound to be a disappointment. I mean it's hardly a big deal, From my understanding most women say their first time is a non-event anyway. It's a lot easier for us to get our kicks than for them.

nkay1985

You've already had sex so you know what to expect. So when the two of you get into the swing of things you shouldn't be in any hurry to get to the penetrative bit. Go real slow with her. Try to get her to orgasm - I'd suggest oral is the best way to go about this. Even if she doesn't, after lots of foreplay her body will be begging you to jump her anyway.

So I don't think you need to plan anything special but make it as enjoyable as possible.