My girlfriend REALLY needs to sort herself out

LegacyUser

Going unreg, for obvious reasons

I'm seeing a girl for the last couple of months, and I just have to get some of this stuff off my chest.
First of all, I really do like her. We get on so well the whole time, but there are SO many things that leave me speechless (in a bad way).

The first time we slept together, I noticed she had lots of bits of tissue *down there* in her VERY hairy place. It was very off-putting, and it seems to be the case ever since! I dont want to tell her, in case she flips, and I suppose I can deal with it. But she also loves to talk ALOT in bed. Not dirty talking, or anything mildly awesome, but rather thinks out loud...about stuff she did that day.
For example, two nights ago, just as I was reaching the point of no return, she enquired if I had seen Tubridy Tonight last week. I was so taken aback, that I actually laughed, and she got very upset. She then made me watch the feckin show as she had recorded it!!!
Definately odd...by anyones standards. (She has pics of him in her room too!)

Whenever we go out to dinner, or cinema, she laughs about how it would be funny to order the most expensive items on the menu as it is my job to pay...but then she ACTUALLY does!! The last time, she didnt even like what she ordered!!! That is extremely annoying.

But the creme de la creme definately has to be when she hid my car keys in her bedroom, and wouldnt let me leave to go to work. I was 2 hours late, and got in s**t. She told me, no warned me, that I really should make her the priority in my life.

I have no doubt people will agree with me when I say she has been out of order, but I'm not really sure how to bring this stuff up. I feel like she'll dump me on the spot

Giggy

Definitely a strange situation to be in. But you can't keep taking it, especially making you late for work and ordering the most expensive stuff on the menu. Don't be a pushover, don't let her get mad at you for speaking your mind or she'll just keep on doing it and she will in no way respect you. I know you're afraid of what might happen if you do speak up but you have to, she's walking all over you. I know if I did any of that stuff with my boyfriend I'd be the one getting grief and I respect him a lot more for it! Don't really know how to advise you on the sex part cos that's a bit more of a sensitive issue, maybe someone else could advise you better.

MagicMarker

lol... sorry man but some of that is hilarious!!

The girl is a proper psychopath.

Break up with the mentaler!!

Lollipops23

everyone in relationships have a handful of things they HATE about their partners; how they are when their drunk, that they never clean up the kitchen or stuff they like to watch TV. Most people can see past these things cos the stuff they love about their OH is far bigger. if you can't see past these,admitadly very weird quirks, then i doubt yoy two have a future together. she does sound like a handful though!

Crash Bang Wall

MagicMarker wrote: »

lol... sorry man but some of that is hilarious!!

The girl is a proper psychopath.

Break up with the mentaler!!

Would have to agree with the above

LorraineL

How old is she?? She sounds about 14 :eek:

biko

Tell her what you told us. She probably won't change but at least she'll know why she scared you away.

LegacyUser

"I'm not really sure how to bring this stuff up ... "

This girl is a head f*ck. Now, do yourself a favour : run for the hills and
don't look back ! You are much better off with palm and her 5 sisters
than that !

girl24

She sounds like a nutjob, you should probably run for the hills! She made you two hours late for work, whats that all about? and talking about a tv show when your intimate, thats so insulting.

Nevyn

MagicMarker wrote: »

lol... sorry man but some of that is hilarious!!

The girl is a proper psychopath.

Break up with the mentaler!!

That is not helpful and you are not in a position to make a medical diagnoses.

OP stop being a doormat please for you own sake.

nomorebadtown

OK so she has appauling personal hygiene, talks about stupid annoying stuff, has an unhealth interest in an RTE employee, enjoys wasting your money and is idiotically irresponsible (car keys/work fiasco). Why are you with her? Sounds like a head case man.

petethebrick

I agree - time to break with her, she sounds like an idiot.
Also, you sound like you might be a bit of a push over OP. I mean you say she forced you to watch tubridy - if that was me and tell her to f*** off. And why did you let her get away with ordering all expensive crap at restaurants?? you should have put the foot down. I'm guessing she must be really hot as those sort of women can make the best of us act like that just in order to get some off them.

homerun_homer

Why are you worried about dumping her when she clearly should be dumped. There's enough annoying points in that post to put anyone off the girl. Sorry OP, but that's my 2 cents.
Any girl that has pictures of Tubridy on her wall would scare the bejayzus out of me.

Síle28

WOW! I'm speechless after reading that and realising you are afraid to confront her in case she dumps you!! This is NOT normal behaviour and I as a girl would be well pi***d with a guy I was in bed with if he started talking bout stuff like that, and as for making you purposely late for work and saying she should come before work and demand stuff like that esp so early on (imagine how she will be another few months down the line! perish the thought!) and waste your money not by ordering the most expensive thing because it happens to be her favourite and maybe it was a special occasion like her birthday (which is only time I would even think about that) but just cause it's the dearest....I'm getting mad just thinking about it, you must have low confidence to even consider staying with this girl, is there anything good going for her?!! Please, dump her ASAP and find a nice girl who deserves you.

road_2_damascus

Id say she is not 100% Her eccentric behaviour may seem quirky and endearing, particularly if your relationship is in its early stages, but if she can follow through instantly with her 'off the cuff' ideas.. anything is possible if she is as impulsive as that....if you know what I mean. Maybe this is what you have been thinking?

missbaker

OMG . .ewhat the hell are you still doing with her? That's not normal behaviour at all. Get rid of her before she drives u mental!!

Rob_l

OP I cant really think of anything helpful to say about this situation to you. The fact that you are afraid to talk to her is worrying, the fact that you have so many issues with her and the relationship already is worse.

I think you need to take a step back from this relationship and consider what you getting from it compared to what you are putting into it, I think you also need to think about what happens if this relationship continues long term and you are still afraid to talk to her about things that upset or disturb you.

zuroph

Im struggling to believe this, but i dare not question the OP.

Op, perhaps you could explain more why you WANT to stay with her and are worried about her dumping you? Is this more a self-esteem issue, or is it about her? Can you see yourself being happier with someone else?

I had a friend in a very familiar situation and its taken him 4 years to break the habit, and he still feels like he owes her something. If you really like her, talk to her before you call it off, she might just think she's being funny and change her ways. but if she relapses, then its time to look elsewhere.

messrs

she sounds like a bit of a handful to be honest, thats a bit much ordering the most expensive things on menu just coz ur paying - that would do my head in. As for the tissue thing, just before you get it on the next time, u leave a load of tissues sticking out of you and see if she brings it up and just tell you you were only copying her!! seriously though bring it up coz it mite be as simple as she does not realise she is leaving them there!

Wagon

Come on dude, leg it! It isn't worth it! She's an absolute fool!

Fizman

I think you know what you have to do here OP, as most have pointed out.

Oh and when you do decide to finish it with her, bring her out for a meal and leave HER with the bill. That'll learn her. Plus it would be a good story to tell off the back of a crazy relationship.

RubyXI

Ok, i think we need a bit of feed back from the OP.
What are the reasons you do want to be with this girl?
The hygiene thing is something you could address tactfully. It does seem a little odd that she wouldn't take some care to clean it up when she knew it would be on display.
The chatting during sex is also very odd, and the ordering expensive food and making you late for work is downright rude and selfish.
All these things make her sound like a very self-centered person.
Out of respect for myself and my partner i would always make sure i was clean and I wouldnt start a general chat- especially about ryan tubridy!- during sex.

rondog

Absolute freak!! Pics of horse faced ryan turbidy in her room ,then talks about him during sex?!!!. Sounds like she has a fascination with ryan thats one reason alone why you shuld dump her!!

Gran Hermano

OP, if I was in your shoes I'd be having the "It's not me it's you.." conversation with her.

If you're this unhappy now do yourself a favour and leave, it'll only get
worse once you both fall into a routine and the honeymoon period is over.

John Mason

MagicMarker wrote: »

lol... sorry man but some of that is hilarious!!

The girl is a proper psychopath.

Break up with the mentaler!!

QFT

besides everything else hiding your car keys so you would be late for work:eek:

seriously, is life not hard enough with having to go through this ?

who007

You're afraid she'll dump you??! You should be dumping her!!

LegacyUser

phi3 wrote: »

Ok, i think we need a bit of feed back from the OP.
What are the reasons you do want to be with this girl?

Ok everyone seems to be telling me to break up with her. I think its because I haven't told you about all the great times we have together!

Like last weekend we bought loads of mackerel and put them in the bath. My mam totally FREAKED!! haha
Thats just one thing we did, we do lots of 'odd' things, 'sco maybe I forgot to emphasize that I'm no saint either!

I was just wondering how to tackle these issues, or are they worth even mentioning to her???

Wibbs

As far as relationships go, I've learned whatever floats your boat, may not float mine and god knows I'm a weirdo, but if you have issues you need to talk to her. If you're able to go out with each other, shag each other well then my contention is you should be able to talk with each other to the same degree.

Bluefoam

Unregistered wrote: »

Like last weekend we bought loads of mackerel and put them in the bath.

Live mackerel in bath = funny
Dead mackerel in bath = extensive psychotherapy...

who007

Unregistered wrote: »

Like last weekend we bought loads of mackerel and put them in the bath. My mam totally FREAKED!! haha

OK I take back what i said. Marry her! Better two people in a crazy relationship than four!

LegacyUser

I used to be into someone as crazy and utterly selfish as this. She ended up getting me into serious trouble in the end through her drama queen and self-centred behaviour. Now she has someone who she henpecks to death and I am so glad I didn't end up with her. She was cute and sexy but a real psycho when all was said and done. I think it would be better for you to get away from her and find a normal girl. Its never easy to make the move but not doing it could leave you with a miserable existence. You also obviously need to work on your self-esteem as that is part of why you are putting up with her ****. Other girls wouldn't take advantage of this like she is doing, though. Do yourself a favour and get away from this nut job.

zuroph

:rolleyes:

OP, ask her to marry you. get Ryan tubridy to officiate.

Wibbs

zuroph please stay on topic and read the charter of this forum. Thanks.

zuroph

Wibbs wrote: »

zuroph please stay on topic and read the charter of this forum. Thanks.

very on topic, read my other post. this ":rolleyes:" is in reply to his Mackerels in the bath. Theres many more much further off topic on here than I am. he seems like he likes her. go for it.

MagicMarker

Unregistered wrote: »

Ok everyone seems to be telling me to break up with her. I think its because I haven't told you about all the great times we have together!

Like last weekend we bought loads of mackerel and put them in the bath. My mam totally FREAKED!! haha
Thats just one thing we did, we do lots of 'odd' things, 'sco maybe I forgot to emphasize that I'm no saint either!

I was just wondering how to tackle these issues, or are they worth even mentioning to her???

Actually, you sound made for each other.

Mackeral, in your mam's bath? Are you a child?

Morlar

I think if you are with this girl for almost a year then you definitely should have broached the subject of intimate hygiene (assuming this is an ongoing issue) by now.

The thing with the carkeys. . . . unless there is some extraordinary context to that which you are omitting then it is not acceptable. Again if it was a one time event in the context of a one year relationship then .. . . .maybe. Its always hard to tell in these scenarios where there is only one side of the story but I think that if you are serious about the relationship (and serious about her) then you should be saying these things to her & not an internet forum. Just my 2c. Good luck in any event.

who007

MagicMarker wrote: »

Actually, you sound made for each other.

Mackeral, in your mam's bath? Are you a child?

I couldn't help but be stunned at this thread so called a friend over to ead it. His reaction was - "What age is that guy? 12?"

I think now wejust have a troll on our hands today.

Wibbs

zuroph, you weren't clear what your :rolleyes: was about as you didn't quote same, you clearly haven't read the charter or you would have known that commenting on a mod action on thread is against it and should have taken it PM, so my suggestion that you read the charter stands. who007 yet another(among others) who hasn't read the forum charter/obvious sticky specifically re calling troll on thread.

Closing the thread before it descends beyond the point of futility. If the OP wants it reopened then they can PM one of the PI mods.