A boy and 2 friends

LegacyUser

ok looking for some advice on behalf of someone here but here goes the story...

a girl i know(girl a) happened to score some guy when she was very drunk. The girl in question is very very friendly with another girl(girl b) who really really likes this guy and girl a knew this very very well.

Girl a now admits, having scored this boy that she likes him now too.

how would you expect girl b (who is/was best friends) with girl b to react?

CathyMoran

Its not a nice position to be in but the guy had the right to choose which friend he went with. I am sure that the other girl will be upset for a while but she will get over it.

panda100

Unregistered wrote: »

ok looking for some advice on behalf of someone here but here goes the story...

a girl i know(girl a) happened to score some guy when she was very drunk. The girl in question is very very friendly with another girl(girl b) who really really likes this guy and girl a knew this very very well.

Girl a now admits, having scored this boy that she likes him now too.

how would you expect girl b (who is/was best friends) with girl b to react?

There are just certain unwritten rules in these situations. I would never hook up with a guy that one of my friends was into. Its very disloyal .It would hurt me like crazy If one of my friends kissed a guy I liked.

CathyMoran

You can both like someone at the same time though. I must admit that I fancied someone around the same time as a friend did - he ended up dating both of us but is now my husband. The friendship with that girl died but only because she dated him the day after we went out on our first date.

I think that guys are far more civil about these things - they leave it for the girl to decide from what I can see.

jessbeth

I'd choose my friend over a guy any day. That's like an unwritten law. It's best that she just come clean to the friend and tell her what happened.

CathyMoran

Is it better that both friends not have the guy though? Surely he should decide. I would rather have my husband...

Salome

panda100 wrote: »

There are just certain unwritten rules in these situations. I would never hook up with a guy that one of my friends was into. Its very disloyal .It would hurt me like crazy If one of my friends kissed a guy I liked.

That's all very well - but what if you liked him too? Are you going to be martyr instead of being happy?

Now if you scored this guy because your friend liked him and you weren't pushed about the guy, then that's pure evil.

CDfm

CathyMoran wrote: »

Is it better that both friends not have the guy though? Surely he should decide. I would rather have my husband...

The guy should certainly have a say - after all he is the piece of meat the scrap is over.

farreller24

have personal experience of this. I liked a guy and friend knew very well and she was with him anyway! I was annoyed at her as i don't think she even really liked him that much, she was just with him for the sake of it and also to piss me off. Anyway it showed me tht she wasnt as good a friend to me as i had previously thought. She was really insensitive about the whole thing shoving it in my face every 5 seconds. If she really liked him and wasnt so mean to me about it I wouldnt have minded so much as i personally believe that you cant make somebody like you and if a guy doesnt want to be with you then you cant force him, and if he likes your friend then thats just who he likes and there is no need to fall out with your friend over a guy.....thats if shes a good friend who respects you and doesnt shove it in your face!!!:(

minidazzler

So Girl B liked Guy, but Girl A (drunkenly) kissed Guy.

I see no problem here, Girl B, had her chance, and presumably didn't act, She should have been given 4 weeks to act, and after that all bets are off. Girl A was drunk, she acted, she likes him. She should now have dibs.

But, in all reality, neither should now go for him for at least 6 weeks, so that both can cool off on him and then if one wants him they can have him, if he wants them.

pwd

reacting in any way other than being amiable about it might make girl b look stupid.
Girls have a tendency to compete with each other though and it sounds like girl a might be doing this. girl b should quietly note that maybe girl a mightn't be that good a friend or someone to trust all that much.

jesus_thats_gre

panda100 wrote: »

It would hurt me like crazy If one of my friends kissed a guy I liked.

I would argue that it would be more to do with jealousy than anything else.

CDfm

jesus_thats_gre wrote: »

I would argue that it would be more to do with jealousy than anything else.

im a parent and agree -friends will normally fancy people in the same group but fancying someone is not like having a relationship or being emotionally connected.

messrs

if girl b said from the start she liked him to, and they both agreed that if one had a chance with him then fair enough, but she knew girl a liked him so she shd not have been with him - drink no excuse
i used to have a friend, that anytime i told her i fancied a guy, she would score them, just to laugh in my face and say, u fancied him but i scored him (not saying this is the case with girl a and b) but out of respect girl b, shd have told girl a she liked him 2, and then see who was with him. she was out of order, if i was girl a, id be serioulsy annoyed!

LegacyUser

Unregistered wrote: »

ok looking for some advice on behalf of someone here but here goes the story...

a girl i know(girl a) happened to score some guy when she was very drunk. The girl in question is very very friendly with another girl(girl b) who really really likes this guy and girl a knew this very very well.

Girl a now admits, having scored this boy that she likes him now too.

how would you expect girl b (who is/was best friends) with girl b to react?

This really annoys me as a guy.

Just because a girl says she likes a guy then none of her friends can look at him - what a load of crap. How unfair is it on the guy who might like one of her friends and not her? Who gives her the right to stop that guy hooking up with someone HE likes!

Here's an example of how guys differ on this:

I was into a girl on holiday. Told the lads. They then were racing to score her before I could! Which happened. And I got the abuse!!