Is this couple normal?

LegacyUser

Hey
Just wanted to know do ye think its normal for a boy and girl to be going out with no sex in volved. its for medical reason at the moment. very close couple in mid twenties and in every other way and love echother very much. no body having affairs and both happy?

Unregistered

Unregistered wrote: »

Hey
Just wanted to know do ye think its normal for a boy and girl to be going out with no sex in volved. its for medical reason at the moment. very close couple in mid twenties and in every other way and love echother very much. no body having affairs and both happy?

If both are happy and it's medical and temporary and there's been plenty of communication on it within the couple then it's none of my business whether it's "normal" or not. It's a non-issue.
Why are you asking?

I don't think it is normal for you to be that interested in other peoples private business.

orestes

If you aren't one of the people involved, what makes you think it's any of your business?

If you are one of the people involved and you and your partner love each other very much and are happy, what does it matter what anyone on here thinks?

There's still plenty of people out there (I know one) who don't fancy the idea of sex before marriage. So I don't see a problem with it if that's what they want.

K-9

Unregistered wrote: »

Hey
Just wanted to know do ye think its normal for a boy and girl to be going out with no sex in volved. its for medical reason at the moment. very close couple in mid twenties and in every other way and love echother very much. no body having affairs and both happy?

It's perfectly normal given the circumstances.

Societies obsession with Sex makes it seem it isn't.

Liam Byrne

If they're happy, then it's normal for them.

Some people go out drinking and puking 3 nights a weekend, some stay in; others hold hands all the time, others argue so much you'd wonder why they're together; some talk to each other on the phone 23 hours a day, others do their own thing and meet up fairly infrequently.

Of all those, how come the sex is the only aspect that we're likely to see here asking if a couple is "normal" ?

Sex - the frequency / type of / lack of - is between the two people themselves; none of anyone else's business.

Nevyn

What do you mean by 'sex' ?
Cos there are plenty of things a couple can do which are sex or sexual in nature which is not penetrative sex. IF they are happy then tbh why do you care ?

passive

Psst... everybody; strong impression given that OP is embarrassedly talking about themselves. Quit with the chastising!

Nevyn

passive if you have a problem with a post report it,
do not post in an off topic fashion and do enguage in backseat moderation.
Both of those will get you banned from this forum.

LegacyUser

Ya its about me.!! Sorry I should of clarified that. No its me and my boyfriend we going out for a good few years, neither of us wana get married just now. we spend loads of lovely time together. We cannot sleep together because of a medical issue for me at the mo where i cannot use the pill. we dont trust condoms on there on . We dont want a baby (we will later in life). I know people will say condoms can be trusted but i just dont and he doesnt either. So ya we close in other ways.we know we will get married one day and as soon as i get this issue sorted with myself we can get back to normal. but i cant really go into it but i have something where i cannot go on pill as it may lead to serious medical condition. We are ware of this and obviously we dont want that to happen so we are happy to leave sex although sometimes its hard obviously but we are so happy and he does not seem to have a problem hes one of those one in a million guys so he wont cheat. I just wondered is this all weird? I just worry about everything

K-9

Thaedydal wrote: »

What do you mean by 'sex' ?
Cos there are plenty of things a couple can do which are sex or sexual in nature which is not penetrative sex.

Completely agreed.

Thaeddyal wrote:

IF they are happy then tbh why do you care ?

Ah, but society tells them it's wrong, which is why the OP is asking.

Craft25

he just thinks you are wonderful & worth it.. lucky you 2..

i may go for the condom myself though.. but if you feel more secure to not risk it then thats youre choice & not a bad one!

finbarrk

Also you don't have to have intercourse if you have a fear of getting pregnant. There are other ways to satisfy each other if you felt like it.

Liam Byrne

OK, so now that you've clarified that it's you & your OH, the "MYOB" aspects of the posts since obviously no longer apply, but the rest still does.

Unregistered wrote: »

.....so we are happy to leave sex although sometimes its hard obviously but we are so happy and he does not seem to have a problem hes one of those one in a million guys so he wont cheat.

2 points to that:

1. "we are happy" - so forget about what other people might think - including us!!! The only person who needs to think it's OK or "normal" is your OH, and you said yourself that he does - happy days!

2. Without in any way taking from the good aspects of your b/f, I have to object to the inference that only "one in a million guys" won't cheat :rolleyes: .....lots of guys and girls will, and lots of guys and girls won't.

Beruthiel

OP.
Oral sex is still sex.

Nevyn

Unregistered wrote: »

because of a medical issue for me at the mo where i cannot use the pill.

Are you aware that there are other contraception option other then 'the pill' ?

Barrier methods other then just the condom

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Diaphragm_(contraceptive)
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cervical_cap

Spermicide which can be used with the above.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spermicide

Knowing your own cycle and when you are going to ovulate.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fertility_awareness

A combination of the above condoms, diaphragm/cap, spermicide and knowing your cycle could work for you.

And then there is an option for an IUD
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Intrauterine_device

There are a lot more contraception option then just condoms and just the pill.
I would suggest reading up and talking to you dr if you want.
Of you could just be happy with how things are in your relationship
and consider the risk not worth which is completely fine and understandable.

DinoBot

^^ Great Advice!!

I cant believe this stuff is not done in schools.

OP,
I assume your still young ? If not, whats the hold up in getting married ?

Dudess

OP, if everyone here said it wasn't normal, what would you do? Start having sex with him even though you don't want to because you fear pregnancy and can't take the pill for medical reasons?
Your situation - normal/usual
Your need for validation/reassurance from strangers on the internet - not normal